Whats the big deal about virginity and all that stuff? Why do people want to wait and give this gift? I just don't understand.

um I think it's just an incredibly romantic thing to do, saving yourself totally for your husband. along with the fact that sex sounds icky and scary and just waaaayyyyy to personal than I would ever want to get w/ someone that wasn't my hubby. Add that to my belief that sex before marriage is a sin, my mom would whup my butt if I ever even kissed a guy before I'm 18 and she can't stop me, and also that no guy w/ half a brain and most of his sanity would want to go out wiht me (Ok I'm lying a little), you have me waiting till I'm married to have sex. LoL.

Lots of love,
Lynne

punkforlife: Protection doesn't always work...sometimes it comes off...

i think if u love your bf/gf and ur both ready and u have protection then who cares go ahed
thats what me and my gf r doing
i don't need stupid fundamentalist telling me to wait 4 marriage

Uh... I also forgot... Dude it's called morals... Also not everyone wants to get pregnat... get HIV, STD, AIDS... or deal with the responibilities & sometimes the guilt.

Teddy,
Thats ok, U don't have 2 shut up. The question u asked was a good 1, & it's true that probaly if ur w/ some1 u trust it might not happen but thats not it for everyone,ok? So if u have anything else say it!

& also the way u can prevent it is if ur not around some1 u don't trust or not comfertable w/, & not dressing like a s**t,ect.

*If I offended any1 sorry*

**& what I said is not always true & can still happen no matter what**

***& don't listen 2 me I'm a stupid 13 yr. old
girl***

****There also might be some typing mastakes****

*****& sorry again if I said or Did something that offended any1*****

SoccerChick13

******I'll shut up now******

Why do they edit certain words? It wasen't bad or anything!

I'm sorry that I turn this nice thread that talks about what is the big deal about virginity into a rape thread. Me, and my dumnb questions. I just wanted to see if people still consider themselves virgins if that happens and how could you prevent that from just happening.

Shutting up now.........

Bye n Have a nice day

Crys769 is exactly right... It doesn't matter if your brother/sister/cousin/aunt/uncle ect. is in the room u can still be raped/molested by them.I was raped by my cousin so that doesn't mean anything.

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even if you are 'close' to that person do not ever stay in the same room with them without your parent or big sister/brother with you if you feel a bit of uncomfortability.

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You know I don't admit this to many people considering the facts of it but many people don't realize that it can actually happen. I was raped and molested by my half-brother for 3 years of my life. I'm not trying to prove you wrong or anything but people need to know that even if your brother/sister is in the room..it can still happen and people just don't realize it.

Just watch out for yourself, because anyone can do it whether you believe it could happen or not. I know from experience.

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Why? because that is what teens have basicly reduced thier lives to.

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And you're advocating this?

Why? because that is what teens have basicly reduced thier lives to. We as a group try to fir in. There is nothing wrong with that, but some people take it too far, and eventually loose themselves.

no kidding, gem...

Why do I feel like I'm reading the Personals in the local newspaper?

Well, I like a girl that cares about how she looks, but isn't obsessed about how she looks. I like a girl who is smart, and funny, and just fun to be around.

Guys,
What do you like about a girl? The guys I know said big breast, butt, & their looks! Not if their smart, nice, funny, honest, ect.

& why do so many guys have stereo types about over weight ppl? They think all they do is eat, eat, & eat & it's not true not all of us (over weight ppl) just eat, & eat some more, I take care of myself I eat healthy,exercise, ect. & I might have a medical disorder that will prevent me to lose weight (The dcter hasen't got the tests back yet.) & a lot of other ppl have that kind of disoreder 2.

& why do some guys think us over weight grls don't care how we look?
We do care how we look (well at least I do!)

& why do half the guys only like grls for how they look or on stuff that doesn't matter?

Please answer my question(s).

Thanks,
SoccerChick13

****SORRY THERE ARE SOME TYPING MISTAKES IN HERE I'M IN A HURRY!!!****

Virginity is a gift if you choose it to be. In all actuallity, it is something special that joins two people together and makes them as one. Some people (including you) don't think it's precious and should be saved for one person. Though, you're still giving a part of yourself away everytime you have sex. I know you don't care, so whatever.

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Sometimes it's not the kid's fault.

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Correction: It is NEVER anyone's fault if they are raped.

And virginity is not a gift.

Ok, I was raped & I still consider myself as a virgin... I didn't want to give my gift away, that guy wanted to take it away... & I didn't give it away b-cus I didn't want to give it away to that person... see what I mean? I know it's confusing...
SoccerChick13

Here is my reasoning for waiting until I am married-

My number one reason is because I want to follow God wishes. That is all I hope to do in my life is to live a life according to God. You are not supposed to have sex until you are married, flat out no. But I wanted to wait anyway before I was a Christian because it IS a gift to my husband. Sex is something special- and I will give myself to the man I plan to spend the rest of my life with- after I marry him. Then those to all those non-christians- think about it. What if you do get pregnant? can you handle it? If your answer is no then you shouldn't have sex. I feel that abortion is a scapegoat for those who can't handle having children. There are other options than killing the child. Then there are STDs too. Diseases you can actually prevent from getting by not having sex.

Now I don't want to get into the rape arguement. But if you are raped God does not hold you accountable for what that other person did. It was against your will and I know that God still considers you a virgin. I really don't think you can blame anyone for getting raped and I think there are very few things you can do to prevent it. It is a tradegy though to all those who have been victims of rape and all thouse that will be.

I'm sorry I rambled.

Nothing is 100% preventable, Teddy. If the child felt comfortable, especially with someone, like you said, a teenage cousin or brother/sister even, then it's just something that was traumatic that happened to the child but the child needs to be taught that this does not mean the world is not trust worthy and it does not mean that they had sex or that they are not a virgin or a bad person, it only means that whomever it was did what they did to them is not fully well.

The child should never be made to feel guilty or concious about trust, virginity or other family members or other males/females than the typical child.

It's just the shell... no one touched their soul.

You can't always protect your children but the adults should be able to suspect by intuition and if they can't... like I said nothing is 100% preventable but your soul is yours at your will and the child who is raped, their soul is not taken away like it would be in a willing orientation of intercourse.

It's all about will and love. That's why rape is rape -- it's forced.