But, what if it's one of your family members that is a teenager and your a child and you never felt uncomfortable with him before and people trust him to be alone with you, then what? So how would the kid know if they don't even feel uncomfortable around him until they actually are getting raped and after the rape they actually start to feel uncomfortanle? What happens done? How do they protect themselves?

I'm sorry, I know this is a improper sentence.

Bye n Have a nice day

OK Teddy sorry. Here's my answer if it counts for anything:

How do children avoid it? Don't talk to strangers. Don't hang out with adults (especially that of the other sex or if their insides say that this person is 'weird') even if they are teachers, priests (I'm not stereotyping, lol), coaches,... even if you are 'close' to that person do not ever stay in the same room with them without your parent or big sister/brother with you if you feel a bit of uncomfortability.

That's what you tell kids.

Then you keep a close eye on your kids (like you should anyways) and that's about it.

HalosOnEarth

I wasn't trying to make a point. LoL, if I was trying to make a point, my post would be so much longer than that. No, really I was just asking a question. You know, I wanted to know.

Bye n Have a nice day

I never said a child's innocence is not lost if they get raped. I, for once, believe it is lost. I mean they are exposed to a lot and that is mentally traumatic to them! So I don't see your point, Teddy as I never denied that fact.

Sometimes it's not the kid's fault. It might be the parent's for leaving them alone. How can a kid get raped when they're with their parents? (unless they have sick, twisted parents) Sometimes, kids that are older (11, 12, 13 and up) are in the wrong place at the wrong time and that's really stupid. So, watch the places you go and who you hang out with. Don't go out by yourself, or not into bad places in town at night.

HalosOnEarth

What about kids who get raped? They are not innocent anymore because they got raped. You said, your innocence is taken away when you get raped or did I misunderstand that. If I did, sorry. However, yea what about kids? How do they avoid it?

Bye n Have a nice day

Um, I don't feel quite the same as you, iluvjp but it's good to know you will still consider yourself a virgin.

Bye n Have a nice day

Rape is rape. It's sex forced upon another and during sex or 'making love', two souls are willingly giving themselves and a part of each other to the other. During rape that's a different thing and I don't believe and I do highly doubt that God would count that as sex or taking away your virginity. Even though, yes, that person has taken away innocence, it wasn't a willing decision of yours (or the person being raped) and if you are pregnant there is a lesson to it all.

Now as I say this I am not saying this is for 100% of rape victims only maybe 50%. I believe rape can be easily avoidable. Even if you're not wearing revealing clothing, if you're out at night or continually walking or doing a daily exercise at the same time consistently you're allowing your predator to be able to contemplate a plan, plus arguing with people on the road or in the stores could trigger something. This is why you should keep to your own business unless it's of course, brutal and you need to call the cops. Otherwise, there are many ways to try to avoid rape, murder, stalkings or anything of that sort of you just are a good citisen and sort of stay out of the limelight.

Teddy: I would still technically be a virgin because I didn't willingly give myself a way. I wouldn't have no sexual experience then, but I still would have never done it at my own will.

(I can't speak for other religions but I'm sure we're not the only religion that feels like this:

I know for Christian's it is a gift that God gives to married people. But that, to me, brings up another debate. I don't recall in the Bible a place where you have to get government papers to be legally married, to me it's a church thing. Like I said that's something else...

As for anybody who doesn't feel like that ^ then it's usually just because usually (not all the time) the guy/girl loses respect for you after you do that and a certain maturity level can only allow a couple to share such intimacy and still continue to go on... this is usually where marriage is.

Also, sex is also called 'making love', right? Well in making love you have to be in love (not have to but it's usually a big factor) and making love would be the result of eternal passion and promise to each other and the creation of a child.

You don't want to be known as easy, do you? I mean, whether you're religious or not sex is precious because it's intimate and you should only allow the guy that you will for ever share your life with to experience that with you because it's personal, it's all about love and not to mention if you become pregnant you won't mind if it's his baby!

iluvjp

What if you got raped. You already had sex and you aren't a virgin. So basically your gift was taken away from you by force so what then? Do you actually wait for your special someone? What is the point?

I'm just asking.

Bye n Have a nice day

1. Premarital sex is a sin
2. Want to wait until they are married so tey can share their first expericence with their spouse
3. Don't want to deal with STDs, pregnancy, and a bad reputation

I personally think to save yourself for marriage is one of the best decisions you can ever make.

Well,
Thats easy...b-cus they don't want to have 2 deal w/ the consequences w/ having sex(STD,AIDS,Pregnacy)... & their not ready for that big step.Answer your question?
SoccerChick13

i don't know, why don't you ask one of the 347,893 posts that we have on the same topic?