hi everyone i am a 15 year old teen who has a very big problem. i recently broke up with my boyfriend and my mother has disowned me. and my father is a majoy drugie. ive gotten to the point i will cut myself just so i feel pain somewere other then my heart i have been doing this on and off for about 2 years now. and i dont know what do to or who to talk to about it. i know i need help but im to afraid to ask for it. im afraid that i will get in trouble or my grandmother will hate me. i just dont know what to do... null

Okay so I haven't cut for...about three weeks. it's getting better but sometime... I don't know it's like I just can't stop. I'll cut once and then again and again and before I know it my wrist is covered in cuts... it's hard to stop and my friends get all sad, but then they go and do the same thing...What should I do!?!?!?!?!?

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It's a support forum for Self Harmers.
You are never alone, and this site offers a lot of support, information, and alternative coping methods.

Take care.

Okay so yeah cutting is not easy to stop and NO ONE IS TALKING!!! I feel lonely....

hey there. ct for 4 years. it's not worth it. it really isnt' if anyone wants to talk about it, i'm open. i've been cut free for a full yer now (smiles) and yea...

I totall know what you are going through. I have been cutting for a little more than 2 years now. I recently found out that my parents are gonna send me away 4 treatment.I'm not sure what to do.

I understand that, monkey. I had friends who turned away from me through the hard times in my life (one not too recently..), but you find the true friends through all that mess. You realize which ones are your real friends, the loyal ones, the ones to keep. When entering a friendship, it needs trust, and it requires a chance to be taken. You will be betrayed by some of them, but the stronger ones will help heal you. Slow to trust is good, it protects you, but to never trust, even your friends? That's a wall that will turn inward and eat you away. Friends deserve trust and love. Give it your all and the true ones will return in kind.

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And then there are others who think they understand (but they kind of don't because they don't have your same problem) and stand beside you.

At least they're trying. It can get annoying at times, but you have to give them that. And some are better than none.

Well sometimes there are people you think are your friends and then you do something (like start cutting) and those people turn their backs on you when you need them the most. And then there are others who think they understand (but they kind of don't because they don't have your same problem) and stand beside you.

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You can always be there for your friends but sometimes your friends can't always be there for you.

Where's the trust if you call them a friend..

Monkey400, please start up new threads for new topics. People usually don't want their conversations interrupted or to go off too far on tangents.

Ok so I have a problem. i know this has nothing to do with self injury but i trust you guys and well you don't know the people I'm about to talk about. So I have been dating this guy for eight months and i love him. But i started going to this new school and there's this girl there who i like a lot and i don't know what to do. i want to stay with my boyfriend but i also want to be with her... Do I tell him i like this other girl? Do i tell her that i like her? My heart says i love him and i want to be with him but it also says it likes her (a lot) and it also wants to be with her...HELP!

You can always be there for your friends but sometimes your friends can't always be there for you. Or if they can they just don't want to be there for you because of something you did or do that looks bad or stupid in there eyes. Our friends are like family. Love them forever and they'll love you.

Really? Well it's true. It's something to remember.

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You can always be there for your friends. The moment you believe otherwise is the moment you've lost them.

I really like that...

You can always be there for your friends. The moment you believe otherwise is the moment you've lost them.

cool a new person. well i just got internet back and i like am now only getting these things. so first, hubbabaloo i think its great how your helping your friend. i myself am a cutter and my boyfriend is helping me stop. it's not easy. cutting is like a way to release things we don't wont in use but once we cut sometimes we can feel bad about cutting. now i'm sure you know that but i was just explaining. calling you is a good thing but sometimes you wont be able to be there for your friend. have her try other things, like a rubber band. thats what helps me. but she has to be careful because one time i snapped it too many times and my wrists were swollen forever. rubbing ice on your skin is also a good one. your friend is really lucky to have you. i know some of my friends turned there back on me. Now to the new person. painfulmemorieskeepmealive, nice name i like that. you can try some of those things too. i know people have probably already told you to do that but try again. just try to avoud it as much as posible. that's what i try and do but sometimes it just doesn't work. i'm also bipoler and it just hits me sometimes and i feel i want to cut so deap that i just want to die. but there are other people i have to think about and my dreams as well so that idea get flushed down the toilet. anyway welcome! i'm always here to talk to and everyone that reads this i have a new email address. Spider_Pig911@yahoo.com. if you ever need to talk i'm here. ta-ta

Okay, I've never been a cutter, but currently dealing with a friend who is, here's what I do to help her, and I'm sure if you talk to a friend, they'll let you do this. Whenever she wants to cut herself, she's supposed to call me. I'm not a therapist or anything, but she's just allowed to talk to me, and tell me whatever, and my job is to stop her from doing something she'll regret later. It's working for now, but she's also got a counselor, so that might be the difference.

ok so i am new to this whole site thing a new member!!!!
but i am cutter and i its never easy to talk bout cutting yourself, no one else will ever understand y we cut ourselves, except 4 those that cut,i have been a cutter since i was 10 years old, for 7 years i have been a cutter and no one understands y i do it, i have tried all da bull that people want me to try, ive done counceling and therapy, and group none of dat bull works some times u cant talk because no one really ever listens

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Originally posted by wildflowerband:
hi everyone i am a 15 year old teen who has a very big problem. i recently broke up with my boyfriend and my mother has disowned me. and my father is a majoy drugie. ive gotten to the point i will cut myself just so i feel pain somewere other then my heart i have been doing this on and off for about 2 years now. and i dont know what do to or who to talk to about it. i know i need help but im to afraid to ask for it. im afraid that i will get in trouble or my grandmother will hate me. i just dont know what to do... null

Hi ok well my suggestion is to get help.. I have been there and done that.. And your grandmother will be happier if you got help than seeing you end up dead... alright? so please look for help.. Well talk soon.. if you need someone to talk to noisemail me.

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