I was sexually abused growing up over a number of years, the person who was hurting me, stopped after time. It was never dealt with legally, and not many people know. I've recently gone into a more positive relationship, opposed to rather abusive ones prior.

It's pretty early on in our relationship, and thoughts still cross my mind. I've talked to him about all thats gone on in my mind, all that's happened to me. But it seems as though he just listens, he doesn't understand. We've become a sexually active couple, and I don't feel forced into it. But my past has and continues to catch up with me.

I just got out of hospital from operations for my epilepsy, with the stress of that, everything has hit me hard. My boyfriend and I havent really seen eachother in two weeks, we hardly talk, and when we do its not pleasent.

I have a very low selfesteem, I always question whether he's in this relationship for the right reasons, or if I'm good enough for him. I also hate bothering him with my problems, I feel like I'm whining to him about something he can't change.

Any suggestions are much appreciated. Because frankly I don't know how to go about calming my nerves, and what direction to go in when it comes to my present relationship.

I know how you feel, I have been abused like that, Im always afraid that a guy will take advantage of me like that again It definatly is scary.

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I feels yalls pain. I have never been sexually abused but I have been physically abused.

i was sexually abused when i was 5 and it went on for a long time. my moms boyfriend billy was who did it and he wouldnt ever stop. finally my dad got custody of me when i was nine and it stopped but i still live with the pain every day just take it one day at a time and it will all be alright. it was for me i had a bad spell of about 2 years but now everythings ok just try to do things that take your mind off of the past, things that make you happy thats what i did.... just remember what i said your not alone !!!!


" no day but today"

Personally I have never been in an abusive relationship, but I know that any guy worth your time should understand how you feel. Even though you have qualms about telling him your thoughts, it's something you should do.
As for self esteem, build it up! Do something you love with someone close to you and don't worry about it so much. Life has a purpose, and everything works itself out in the end!

Hi.

I'm sort of in the same situation. I was molested by my mom's best friend's husband. I told my parents and he only got 5 years probation even though he had molested a few other kids, they didn't press charges (long story).
Anyways, me and my boyfriend get a long pretty well, he cares about me and listens to me. I feel like I whine a lot and it terrifies me to tell him how I truly feel about things and what I actually think cause I could loose him.
He doesn't really care about what happened to me when I was 11, he probably cares but it doesn't feel like it.
I completely understand your situation...Just try not to stress. Take one day at a time, that's what I do. Maybe you should sit down with him(your boyfriend) and just talk. Talk about the weather, school, life, etc.
Bye! Good luck.

--Shana--