It may be hard for people to see how people who are dying are treated if they aren't dying themselfs. I use to never see any difference in how I treat people who were dying or how others treated them until I found out I was dying.

Now when people find out I'm dying they treat me differently. You may think that it's just people that are meeting the person for the first time, but through my exspearice, it's everybody. Both my friends and even my family treat me differently.

I just wanted to know if maybe someone knew why.

because you cant take a dying person dancing or something

-arianhorn

I don't treat dying people differently. I mean, I wouldn't say something like, "If I don't see my boyfriend, I'll just die," because that would be kinda insensitive. But I don't treat them differently.

Besides.......we're ALL dying. No one lives forever. I'm dying right now. Just at a slower pace that someone with cancer. I could walk out the door tomorrow and get hit by a bus. That cancer patient could very well live longer than me, a perfectly healthy person. You never know.

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What I mean be treating differently is that well for example, my step-mom doesn't seem to let me do anything anymore. I love surfing, but she won't let me go. She says that it won't help me. And then...well people don't let me do things because they don't think it's what I want to do. For once I actually want to do chores. I guess what I was trying to say is why do people treat dying people, well like they're dying? How come they can't treat them like they would any other person?

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Well I'm guessing your step-mom is doing that because she thinks you might get hurt. Like she wants to protect you and keep you with her for as long as she can. And as for the chores...I wouldn't want my dying family member or friend doing chores. I would rather them be out having the time of their life since it's being cut short. I would do the little things for them, and that way they have less to deal with. But yeah...it is just human nature and a feeling that just kicks in.

It's human nature.

People see things as trivial when they find out someone is dying.

In other words, I would think you were very courageous.

Thanks. I guess I should have made it more clear what I was talking about. What I mean be treating differently is that well for example, my step-mom doesn't seem to let me do anything anymore. I love surfing, but she won't let me go. She says that it won't help me. And then...well people don't let me do things because they don't think it's what I want to do. For once I actually want to do chores. I guess what I was trying to say is why do people treat dying people, well like they're dying? How come they can't treat them like they would any other person?javascript: x()
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*~Shane

This is a tough one, only because, like you said, I've never been in this kind of situation before. I mean, are they more serious when they talk to you? Do they treat you like an adult/child more? I think that it's just human nature for people to do that. To be honest with you, I would treat a person differently if I knew they were dying. I would be more serious with them because I would want them to know just how much I truly love and care for them. But as for meeting someone for the first time...if I ever met you, and then you told me that you were dying (which you just did ) I would treat you more like an adult because you've had to deal with things that I haven't, and have seen more things that I haven't. In other words, I would think you were very courageous.