THERE ARE SO MANY TEENZ OUT THERE GETTING PREGNANT AND I KOOW SUM PEOPLE BUT THEY RUIN YOUR LIFE! LIKE MY ONE FRIEND WHO DROPED OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL. WHY CANT YOU GUYZ JUSS WAIT UNITL YOUR MARRIED OR SOMETHING[LIST][LIST]baby_girl_619@hotmail.com

I'm 18 years old and got pregnant when i was 14 i kept my child and I tell you what it is the best thing i have ever done. she is the reason i got my life back on track. she is the reason i graduated highschool. she is the reason i am going to college. maybe me and her dad aren't together anymore but we do equal custody. People who say that teen pregnancy is bad are just looking at statstics not actually out there talking to these young women who have children. look around there are more of us then you think. alot of us our in college or working full time jobs making more out of our lives then most teenagers do. most sit around play video games go out to parties and just scerw around we are the productive ones we are the ones that have found the ultimate meaning to life and are making the effort to do something with our lives. I'm sorry I get so heated about this stuff but it just burns me what people say about us, i am not just one of the statistics I am a great mother and a productive member of society. I owe all of my lifes accomplishments to my little girl without her i'd be well nothing maybe a highschool drop out who sits on my butt all day wondering what the heck life is all about. I hope i didn't offend anyone but hey people need to quit sterotyping us!

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exactly, this is why I do not think teens are ready to have children. They should be well-prepared with money, insurance, food, shelter, etc. Plus, thinking of the children, they will have a hard time when they go to school. Having a young mother, they might be made fun of. Two girls and one boy in my grade are constantly ridiculed in school. They seem to laugh it off, but the two girls are on drugs and one frequently has problems with her mother. They have had a much harder time adapting socially in school.

I haven't known anyone that was made fun of because their parents were young. That's not to say it doesn't happen, kids can be very cruel sometimes. I know that a lot of times, when you are a teen parent, it can be a struggle just to get by and afford the basics, such as food and shelter, that the kids won't be able to have as much as other kids there age. That would definately alienate a child and single them out to other children.

I want to add something else. As a teen parent, I did ok when my son was first born. But, just after his 3rd birthday he started having problems. I was definately not as prepared to deal with a special needs child as I would have been if I had a more stable life. Not that a teenage parent cannot have a stable life, but it is definately harder.

no problem my friend lol. all's good

sorry: Saturnmoth007..

I was just talking in gereal,
Many people look down on teen parents and it's pretty sad. cause they don't see hard and far these teens come. There are teen parents who even go to college. I'm just talking in gereal about anyone who looks down on them,

Sorry Saturnmoth007.

I'm not putting them down. Reread all of my statements.

for most teens..pregnacy is one of those things they think will never happend to them.

Teen moms, show you how strong and brave some teens are. insted of getting rid of baby, they chose to rasie it, and most teen moms do great jobs raising babies.

It's wrong to put them down...

I don't think having sex before your married is right. but lets face it it's gonna happend sooner or later.

I don't mean to make you feel bad either, please don't take it that way. Birth is a miracle one way or another, and I wish the best of luck to you devianttreasure and everyone else

It was directed openly to all the teen mothers.

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But if I had just started having kids now, I would be in a much better position to give them what I want. I could have gotten a college education by now, and have started on a good career path. I would actually be able to afford all the nice things I want for my babies.

exactly, this is why I do not think teens are ready to have children. They should be well-prepared with money, insurance, food, shelter, etc. Plus, thinking of the children, they will have a hard time when they go to school. Having a young mother, they might be made fun of. Two girls and one boy in my grade are constantly ridiculed in school. They seem to laugh it off, but the two girls are on drugs and one frequently has problems with her mother. They have had a much harder time adapting socially in school.

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Originally posted by Saturnmoth007:
Having a child before you're married, especially before you're 18, i think is foolish. However, it is your choice and I have nothing against it.

Do not, however, advise other teens to have babies. Many are not capable of handling a child as you sound like you have, and it would truly ruin their lives.

Teen parents of course would be proud of their child and love them very much, as any parent would. Yet, many teens are not ready to have children plain and simple. I do not think a lot of them understand the care, time, money, and change in lifestyle necessary to have a child.

I'm not sure if this was directed at me or one of the other young parents here, but I'll answer anyway. I would never encourage a teenager to get pregnant and I'm not about to tell anyone that my life is all nice and rosy, cause it's not.

I can't say I wish I'd have waited, cause then my life wouldn't be what it is. My kids would not be the same kids. I can't turn back time and I wouldn't want to.

But if I had just started having kids now, I would be in a much better position to give them what I want. I could have gotten a college education by now, and have started on a good career path. I would actually be able to afford all the nice things I want for my babies.

Having a child before you're married, especially before you're 18, i think is foolish. However, it is your choice and I have nothing against it.

Do not, however, advise other teens to have babies. Many are not capable of handling a child as you sound like you have, and it would truly ruin their lives.

Teen parents of course would be proud of their child and love them very much, as any parent would. Yet, many teens are not ready to have children plain and simple. I do not think a lot of them understand the care, time, money, and change in lifestyle necessary to have a child.

I got pregnant when I was 16. My kids didn't ruin my life. In fact, my first child saved my life. I was going down the wrong path and don't know how I would have turned my life around if it weren't for my child. NOT that it's a reason to have children. My life is hard, but I have something to live for, to get me through each day.

By the way, it's not just children of teen parents that are "illegitimate", most children these days are born to unmarried couples. And, being a teen parent does not mean you have to drop out of school. In fact, if you were to find yourself in the situation of being a pregnant/parenting teen, that should give you more motivation to finish school and give your child a good life.

Instead of asking teen parents "why couldn't you have waited", we should be asking "why SHOULD others wait", and "what could you have done to prevent it". That way, instead of asking someone to change an unchangeable circumstance, we're asking how to help ourselves and others prevent being in the same position.

I am confused as to why the world would be a better place if we all waited to have sex.

You know being a teen parent isnt all bad. Im only 17 and I have a beautiful baby boy. I wouldnt trade him for anything in the world! The dad is still in my life, infact we are engaged, he is a year older than me. He is currently in boot camp so that he can have a living and support a family. I am still in school and im finishing my senior year on time. No its not easy but then again, life isnt easy to begin with. I am with the person that I love, I have a family that I love, my entire family supports me and so does his. I have an AMAZING life and I am truly happy.

Teen pregnancy isnt easy but for some its worth it, geez for me I love it! And my pregnancy was not easy at all...I was in the hospital on bed rest for over a month because of complications and its a long story but it wasnt easy however, its completely worth it!

Truthfully, I am in this situation about maybe being pregnant and I'm only 13! The guy was 23. I didn't even love him and I know he didn't love me. Personally I think that you shouldn't have to wait until marriage but, you should wait until you know you really love this person and you know that you're ready for what might happen. Truthfully, if I am pregnant I will love my baby no matter what.... On the other hand I really regret even being in this situation. There really is no true answer to whether you should wait or not it's all in your own opinion in which you have the right to express.

I am getting ready to be a teen mom. It's gonna be tough but I'm excited about it. I'm expecting a baby girl.

i am a teen mother and i c where u r comeing from but that is ur own opinion. i love my child with all my heart and i wouldnt trade being a mother for the world. just my 2 cents!

All I'm saying is that it's just not that easy for everyone to say no and wait until marraige.
I'm not trying to go against it( I think we should wait) so please don't hate me for saying what I think.
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Your right people should wait but look at this in someone else's point of view. Teens fall in love even if you don't think teens could really, truly fall in love in a young age, they still do or think they do and maybe they just think making love is the right thing to do. I'm not saying if your in love you have the right to do it, I'm just saying many teens don't think really clearly on what they are getting themselve into. Some girls are sometimes forced to do something like that then get pregnent, what about women like that, are they wrong too? Lastly some girls are just scared to lose their boyfriend because they didn't give them any. Like I said before I don't think it's right and it would make the world a better place if we just waited but not everyone thinks like that and that's the real problem that we need to fix somehow.
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Yea, you're right.

The world would be a better place.

And plus, you never know if one those those illegitimate children born to teen mothers will do something great one day.

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Exactly, why cant they wait? If adults could figure that out I bet the world would be that much closer to world peace.