Many think that dating is like a fairy tale-others think different and think dating is where you can "experiment" and in some ways I use to agree that dating was where you could experiment w/ the oppsite sex, (or the same gender) but to those who are young (not adults yet) WHY are we dating so young? If the grown ups can hardly handle love/dating what makes it think that we can! I feel dating leads to marriage, and do we want to get married at ages 12, 13, 10, 15, 17? THe'yre are so many other things we can be concentrating on! Like some say that they don't find love, or appreciaiton and aren't close to their parents, they need someone to make them feel those types of emotions, so they have to find it through a boy... That's not true! For those in that type of situation we should really try loving ourselves, cuz how is someone else suppose to? Pressure: Many are often pressured to date, most of our peers are dating and thats a lure to those who aren't (to think: I WISH I HAD A B/F or a G/F.) SOme think that they'll be cheating themselves out of a good oppurtunity if they don't date-but is that true? They're is also a dark side to dating that many refuse to reveal like the media, sex advertisments.; etc. Dating is serious business! So much involvement! They're are torn emotions and to one of the partners my think talking, enjoying each others company, holding hands, kissing, laughing, etc. is stale and might want to move to another level. Are we old enought to be having sex? The more time you spend with the opposite sex, the more sexual desires grow-you can't help that that's just the way we were made! So think-ask yourself this question: Am I ready to date/have sex, am I being pressured? What am I seeking? DO I just want to be loved? THINK before you go with these acts, cuz what is the main thing that dating (especially at a young age) leads to besides sex?

I think that sex ed should be taught. When I was ten years old, I started learning about sex. We had a subject in my school called Family Life. It taught us abouse life and how to live it moraly. Obviously, as the years progressed, the more detail they put in the book. They had two ladys come in and teach the girls about what will be happening to their bodys and the boys what will be happening to their's. That was my first ever form of sexual education I ever got. I think when kids stop being kids and start becoming teenagers, that's when you really need to start talking about it. It's not an embarressing thing, it's a way of life. As for me, I would want my future kids hear about sex from me or a school then what they hear on the streets, television/movie, songs, or from their friends who are as unexperienced as they are. Getting an education on sex is important because you don't want them to end up pregnant or with a disease. You have to tell them it is best to stay abstinent, but if they are going to be sexually active, to wear a condom or take birth control. My mother was the one to inform me about sex, she told me that in her generation, it wasn't "proper" to talk about those kinds of things and the day her mother talked to her about it was the day before my mom's wedding. I don't think that that's a good thing because by then, you probably already know all about sex. You should let children know what it is as soon as they start asking, don't deny them. Just by how provocative the media is now, just imagine it ten years from now when the next generation comes along. Each generation is going to have to learn about sex earlier and earlier.

There's nothing wrong with dating as long as you know yourself and your limits. I'm not talking about sexual limits only, i mean emotionally as well. Keep a little bit of yourself to yourself, you know that gal/boy who likes to read, dance around and listens to Johny Cash. I dont have that kind of confidence in me so i become emotionally dependent on my other halves. It breaks me apart coz i tend to gt taken advantage of. I'm working on things though by gaining confidence and self love. Anyway this is just to say that you should know yourself and your partner for SELF PRESERVATION ABOVE ALL ELSE!!!!

3 date rule, if you arent having sex by 3 dates they arent worth keeping... although this is for the 20+ crowd.

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Many think that dating is like a fairy tale-others think different and think dating is where you can "experiment" and in some ways I use to agree that dating was where you could experiment w/ the oppsite sex, (or the same gender) but to those who are young (not adults yet) WHY are we dating so young? If the grown ups can hardly handle love/dating what makes it think that we can! I feel dating leads to marriage, and do we want to get married at ages 12, 13, 10, 15, 17? THe'yre are so many other things we can be concentrating on! Like some say that they don't find love, or appreciaiton and aren't close to their parents, they need someone to make them feel those types of emotions, so they have to find it through a boy... That's not true! For those in that type of situation we should really try loving ourselves, cuz how is someone else suppose to? Pressure: Many are often pressured to date, most of our peers are dating and thats a lure to those who aren't (to think: I WISH I HAD A B/F or a G/F.) SOme think that they'll be cheating themselves out of a good oppurtunity if they don't date-but is that true? They're is also a dark side to dating that many refuse to reveal like the media, sex advertisments.; etc. Dating is serious business! So much involvement! They're are torn emotions and to one of the partners my think talking, enjoying each others company, holding hands, kissing, laughing, etc. is stale and might want to move to another level. Are we old enought to be having sex? The more time you spend with the opposite sex, the more sexual desires grow-you can't help that that's just the way we were made! So think-ask yourself this question: Am I ready to date/have sex, am I being pressured? What am I seeking? DO I just want to be loved? THINK before you go with these acts, cuz what is the main thing that dating (especially at a young age) leads to besides sex?

Just because someone is young is no reason that they cant handle a relationship. I think you, (like many others) thinks that there can be a decision made that states that certain people in certain ages should or shouldnt have sex, but nothings ever that black and white. I personally dont see the problem in a couple, maybe 15 or so, that are a very steady couple very mature, having sex, as long as their being mature about it. But on the other side, if a couple, same age, was only dating for a while, didnt really "love" each other, was having sex, i think that could be a bad thing, dangerous too...but people have to be smart enough to make smart decisions. I suppose if they cant they're just hurting themselves.

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Am I ready to date/have sex, am I being pressured? What am I seeking? DO I just want to be loved? THINK before you go with these acts, cuz what is the main thing that dating (especially at a young age) leads to besides sex?

I just like sharing my thoughts on all the dating and sex topics and I haven't seen this one before...

I was ready to date when I began to in September with my boyfriend. I'd already had a boyfriend before that but it wasn't an actual date really. Dating doesn't mean sex. I've been dating my bf for close to six months now and we haven't had sex and we both know we're not going to have sex until marriage. He doesn't pressure me. I'm seeking companionship because I like having someone to care about me in a non-familial, non-platonic way. Of course I want to be loved; everyone does. But I also know that I have love in other places and that the love I share with my boyfriend may not always last.

I don't know what dating leads to besides sex...I don't even think that it leads to sex. I'm hoping to date in high-school and college to find a soulmate. At the moment, I think I've found him. By the time he leaves for boot camp on June 13th, we'll have been together for 8 months. When he comes back, it'll be a year. We plan to stay together. That'll be the first true test; if he comes back and it's as if he never left (we still utterly adore and love each other) and it's all movie-like sappy tears and hugs and "I never wanna leave again" then we'll stick it out. If he comes back and it's weird and it feels like we're estranged, then I guess we'll break it off. But I think the first will probably happen...then again, I am only 15. (16 in two days!)

I don't think dating is a big problem...it's lack of maturity/reasoning that is the problem. I started "dating" when i was 10...granted you can't really DO anything b/c well let's face it you can't drive but we would get together and watch movies and "make out" (how much can you REALLY know when you're 10...) and just that kinda stuff..however I don't think it led to me losing my virginity at 13. had i been dating or not i would have probably done it. dating leads to SO much more than sex. if that's all you date for there's a problem. i'm 17 now and for the first time i have a bf that i actually love and have sex w/ b/c i love him..not just for fun. however we built our relationship up for a long time before we had sex. OF COURSE relationships are gonna lead there...but if you're not in a relationship you'll do it w/ someone anyway...so isn't it better that you're in one? Unless you're just completely against sex for your whole life...and who wants that...
~Ser

okay...the only thing that i can say to you is that your very naive about this topic! let me share my story...maybe you will understand about "young" dating a little better...

i grew up around guys..all troughout my life a majority of my best friends are guys. obviously i have had many crushes on them, a few asked me out but eh i passed. i was brought up with the understanding that the guy asks the girl out and thats the only way. well then i met *jake*. he is awesome. i can sit there and hold a serious convo about almost anything, and i can confide in him. well i really liked this guy, and when he was going to ask me out, he couldnt cause well the sit didnt work...if was going to be to homecoming. he got to me a day too late cause i already asked a close friend to it. well eversince then he didnt know what was up between me and *greg* so he never asked me out. well 4 months later, i said screw this, i really want this guy, so i asked him out. and now we are both very happy that that happened. we have been dating for quite some time now and all my friends and family love him. i do too! i wouldnt have him anyother way and he says the same. what we have isnt lust, it actually has meaning to it. infact just recently he gave me a promise ring. that says a lot. its not a new one or anything, its his favorite ring it cost like $10. and it means so much more to me than anyother ring would! my relationship has lasted with him and it will continue to do so. with that said, i am only 16 and he is my 1st boyfriend! and i truly do love him...and so does he.........dating *young* isnt that bad...plus age is just a number, i cant help it that i wasnt born 10 years earlier....... email me if you want to know anything else!!!!!

What is the main thing that dating at a young age leads to besides sex?

A better understanding of the people you will be dating in the future, whether it be the opposite sex or the same sex.

Dead...*twitch*...

I totally disagree with you on the need to "hold off teaching kids about sex until they're 'old enough to handle it.'" The problem is that you think you can wait until a kid is what, 15? 16? 18? before you can start talking to them about the reality of sex, but lets be honest by that time kids have been talking about it with their friends and dealing with sexual feelings for years and it's too late for you to get anything through to them. All of their information comes from rumors they hear from their friends (most of it not true), and they end up engaging in riskier behavior than they ever would have if someone had told them straight up from the very beginning. That and the issue about "sex ed makes kids curous"-- by the time you get any kind of formal sexual education class, everything you've seen in the media will have already done it's work and sex ed will be more "disgusting" or "annoying" than it will be curosity-inspiring. I am honestly afraid of the impact eliminating everything but abstinence-only education in schools will do to the teenagers out there, who are going to have sex no matter what you try and tell them. Can't you at least give them the knowledge so they can better protect themselves or possibly decide the risks are too high than to ruin their lives in ignorance?

dating does not always lead to sex, and i think sex is a mirriage thing. if you think that at the age of 12 -17 your ready you aresnt. that is sumthing you are to share with the one you love on the night you get married. if you have to have it before it better be for a better reason that pressure. that is a symbolism of love.as god points out in the bible. True love waits. meaning if a guy really wants to have sex with you he will wait untill you are ready to make that step. and hope fully you will not be stupid about it and use a condom or some other use of protection.
dating is something you should do when you think you are ready and if you have strict parents then it will be when they are ready. the reason they normally wont let yiou date is because they want you as thier baby and dont want you to step out in to the world. they are scared that if u date you wont talk to them or will not be around and talk to them. so if they let you date dont ignor them keep them in your life too. well love is love. and for peeps that dont wanna have sex...ps kissing is not sex...but a hj or bj is...fyi email ma back if you wanna kno more

Dating... I think we should date as teenagers... so we can experience love (not sex) & so we can find "Mr. or Mrs. Right" see what I mean? & to feel that experience of haveing a partner to love. But if your to obsessive about it then that's bad & only want to date someone to have sex is wrong. So that's my opinion...
Always & Forever,
20Chick03

Personally,I see nothing wrong with a little of the dating as long as you remember to make the right options with any partner you have in the dating game.
the fact is that whether we like it or not there would always be that spark to have a close relationship with someone else other than those around you in your natural clique because that is how are minds have been programmed from the beginning of time.
The thing about dating that determines whether it is good or bad depends on the choices we make as individuals which should not cloud our judgement as educated people.
Dating becomes an issue when a teenager begins to make the wrong choices without considering her future.Personally I chose not to date for a while because i realised I wasn't mentally prepared for the harsh reality of seeing myself through another person's eyes.
The issue of casual sex as teenagers has nothing to do with dating or not.Actual I believe dating has actually helped to curb some people's sexual escapades because by matter of principle they feel committed to someone and so i reserve themselves for that person.Not to sound naive I definitely realise it opens the door for casual sex because some feel the have to give their all so that their partners would realise they care.
Like i said earlier i feel dating as well as sex are to different issue that intercept each other as certain point but also think it is important I emphasize that bad or good it is a matter of experience which stems personal orientation to the issue at hand.

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I feel dating leads to marriage, and do we want to get married at ages 12, 13, 10, 15, 17?

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I don't quite agree with that... I think dating is a part of the courtship process... Ya know... the getting-to-know-you stage...
Obviously, I have nothing against dating as long as both parties feel emotionally mature enough to get committed or get into a relationship(if ever). And it doesn't mean that you have to go kissing, hold hands, etc. when you date! You can also go on group dates so you are most likely not gonna do those acts.

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The more time you spend with the opposite sex, the more sexual desires grow-you can't help that that's just the way we were made!

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Not at all times... I think it depends on the situation. If there's only the two of you in a very private place, who knows what's gonna happen! So better not be alone with the opposite sex!

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Am I ready to date/have sex, am I being pressured? What am I seeking? DO I just want to be loved?

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Guess I'm mature enough to date, but definitely not to have sex! I'm absolutely against premarital sex!
What's the main thing dating leads to? Enlightened people! You get to know people in a more personal level, you build better relationships...
watchuthink?
Peace!

I really don't think that sex is that big of a deal. I was seventeen when I "lost" my v-card, and really, I didn't see it as a big deal. I mean there are consequences, like, STI's and aids and unwanted pregnancies. But if you are careful and use a condom you don't have to be as worried. Also I find that girls that have had sex early tend to be a little more outgoing at like parties and stuff. (this is not to say that girls should go out and have sex AT ALL!) I also find it very confusing i guess you could say that it is a way bigger deal for girls to have sex than guys. My 17 year older brother says that it is their choice so there is a guy's perspective as well. But that is my rant so, choose wisely and don't do it if you can't tell ur parents (it means you are not ready or responsible enough) and dont do it if you know you are going to regret it.
Caio

yay for george micheal!!!

"Sex is natural, so I am only going with my instinct."
-Marilyn Manroe

I think dating isn't really that big of a deal as long as you know wut your gettin yourself into. To many people dating can be a big step and if you are dating the relationship should be takin slow. The reason I say this is because you don't want to rush into like having sex and all the risks that are involved wit it such as AIDS and other diseases you can contract during sex that can mess up your whole life. And if you are ready to take that step and start having sex you should always remember to use a condom!! That will keep you safe from contracting diseases and having kids unless you want to have kids.

Marriage is just a title to me. If your relationship HUGELY changes when you get married, then maybe it wasn’t the right time. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married as soon as we have enough money. But it’s hard because we are raising our daughter and living on our own. We are already a family. So what to hell is the big deal about being married?

We had started having sex when we were 17. Not too young but younger then some. Just because we weren’t married didn’t mean we didn’t love each other. We knew what we were doing and the risks involved.

If you feel you are ready to have sex, then that’s all on you. But like I have said before on here don’t judge people who have made different choices than you in their own lives.


Tootles

lol... I don't date, I am waiting to have sex until after marraige. You may think it crazy, but I think it best.