I think that most teens do feel pressured by their mates and just dont know what to do or how to handle it and they get confused by it and dont know what their own feelings about the subject are so they usually end up making the wrong decision and regreting it afterwards. I think that if you absolutely for sure know that you are ready and have no doubts then u might be ready to have sexual intercourse otherwise stay away from that topic for as long as you can or until you feel comfortable with it.

If you want to have sex with someone and they want to have sex with you and you surely know what you are getting yourself into then I think it will be okay to have intercourse.

I'm not saying little kids if they want to that they should do this. There's an age for everything.

I'm just saying sometimes people can't wait until they get married and they shouldn't be put down because they had sex before marriage. It was their and their mate's choice not yours.

I just want people to think wisely about this choice that they are going to make. I don't want them to want to take it back afterwards. I want them to be happy about their choice. I also want when they make this choice to face the consequences their might later.

Bye N Have a nice day

Thank you Billy just spread that hate out evenly, that's all I ask...

Lots of love, I mean, hate,
Lynne

personally, i think that there's nothing wrong with dating. it's merely taking friendships to the next level. to say that at our age we are not able to handle it, is a complete insult. it is almost the same as saying that we are not capable of experiencing the same strong feelings that adults do. and believe me, we do! not only with boyfriends or girlfriends, but you can have passionate feelings about ambitions and strong friendships. sometimes these feelings grow into something called love, and you can feel that at any age. at our age it becomes intensified because of *hormones* and that's why it seems shallow. but its not!

"beh"

Not that I want anyone to do anything they don't want...but I've been reading and I see alot of "it's a special bond" and that sort of thing. Well my question is...how do you know?

The first time I had sex was a wonderful thing and I can remember like yesterday. I did not marry that person, in fact we broke up in about a year...I still wouldn't change a thing or the person. I have had sex with some very wonderful girls, and each person has something different to offer. As much as it is important to really care about the person you are with, sex is also important. I dated someone who we really got along very well, however our sexual interest was not the same....and it ended us. I would hate to married to someone and then find out I can't stand sleeping with them.....why suffer for the rest of your life? I couldn't and wouldn't want to live with someone who doesn't have the same interest mentally and sexually...so if you intent on spening your life with someone...why not find out what you are getting?

I don't need bible quotes...I want answers from people...not robots...thank you

Here comes my infamous.. "meh."

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Oh my goodness, look, NO ONE'S yelling at the JW for quoting Bible verses! But if it had been me or Joey or ilovejp or one of those other Christians this would have turned into a serious fight by now. Why is that? Just...why?

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Because you are the ones who are always preaching...save it

As for JWs, well you don't see what happens to them when they show up at my front door...let me tell ya'...they can put up with alot...but I win in the end

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If a couple are not married but are living together, they should separate or else get legally married.—Hebrews 13:4.

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Riiiiigggghhhhttttt

if one is a fanatical lunatic and countless numbers of times tries to force their opinions on other people, they should shut the F UP!!!

is that better?

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There isn't any thing wrong with sex as long as your married! Anyone ever heard of the word fornication? If not LOOK IT UP! C'mon guys. 1. Servants of God love what is good. But they must also learn to hate what is bad. (Psalm 97:10) That means avoiding certain practices that God hates. What are some of those practices?

2. Fornication: Sex before marriage, adultery, *******ity, incest, and homosexuality are all serious sins against God. (Leviticus 18:6; Romans 1:26, 27; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10) If a couple are not married but are living together, they should separate or else get legally married.—Hebrews 13:4.

Has anyone been on www.watchtower.org, if not it's a good site I suggest if for those who want to learn more about Jehovah's WItnesses. Thankyou!

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Oh my goodness, look, NO ONE'S yelling at the JW for quoting Bible verses! But if it had been me or Joey or ilovejp or one of those other Christians this would have turned into a serious fight by now. Why is that? Just...why? No offense or ANYTHING, chocolatecandycane, I'm just using you as an example, sorry.

Oh yeah - dating is stupid, pointless, and harmful.

Lots of love,
Lynne

I don't think there is anything wrong with dating. But if you are in an unhealthy relationship, you should get out.

we need dating because adults can't even handle it, we need all the practice (for lack of a better word) we can get.

at least we aren't locked into it the way some girls are where they have agranged marriages at a young age, no dating and few ways out of a mariage.

The young people should have boyfriend only when they turn 11 and then have a boy friend but some girls need to talk to thir parents about thier boyfriend but if you do not thats alright but if you do you should talk about him with your parents but if you don't want to talk about that with your mother only but you do not have to have sex with your boyfriend but if he try to fource his self on you tell your parents or you can tell some one that you reall trust.

i dont agree with the people that say the only reason for dating is to get married. you dont have to be looking for a spouse to find out what kind of person you enjoy spending time with or learning how to show feelings for someone. not everyone gets married or plans to. are they supposed to spend their whole lives with no romantic interests? i doubt it.

and the idea that you are giving away parts of your heart i dont agree with either. for example, its not like you have 100 peices of love and you give out some to each person you date and when you get married you only have 50 left to give. thats not how it works. you can love more than one person with your whole heart.

you will always have a special connection w/the people you've loved but that doesnt mean that you cant have taht connection with more than one person. maybe there is one person that you will love the most (husband, wife) but just b/c you've loved otehrs doesnt mean you will love a spouse any less because of it.

WELL I THINK THAT THERE IS NOTHIN WRONG WITH DATING JUST AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T LEAD TO SEX.I MEAN SOMEBODY'S VIRGINITY IS A VERY SPECIAL THING AND IF THEY DATE AND THINK THAT THERE BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND LOVES THEM THEN THEY WILL HAVE SEX WITH THAT PERSON. BUT THEN THAT PERSON MIGHT LEAVE THEM BECAUSE THEY GOT WHAT THEY WANTED.BUT IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND ARE READY FOR SOMETHING AS IMPORTANT AS SEX AND YOU DO IT THEN THAT IS YOU, AND YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY THE CONSEQUENCES.I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING AGAINST HAVING SEX WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING,REALLY.BUT WELL IT REALLY JUST DEPENDES SOMETIMES.AND THAT IS JUST MY OPINION.

I'm glad that there are people out there who share my views. Having sex w/ some1 you're dating has become all too common, making some people think that it is nothing special. I personally believe that sex should be shared w/ the person you want to spend your whole life with, aka your husband or wife. I disagree with those of you who think that it is just a "bodily function". It is more than that; like someone said, it is a bond between u and the perosn u share it with. Besides personal morals, there are other reasons to wait; teen pregnancy, disease, a bad rep......
Anyways, that's my view on it, and i just wanted to say that I'm glad I'm not the only person with a little bit of self respect left.

Well I understand everyones views personally I don't think you should date if you know that you are probably going to break up with that person in like another week it should be a hard decision. You should not have sex until you are married think about it this way if god gave you an apple and told you not to share it with anybody but your husband or wife on your wedding night. What if your husband or wife had had a bitten apple would you want that or a whole pure apple that has never been eaten. It's something to think about but I don't want pieces of my husband to be given away to another girl so abstinence is the best if you ask me.

No I've never had a boyfriend, and I don't intend to till I'm ready to get married. I agree with what Pinkness said-Rite now, I'm trying to concentrate on school, family, friends and my spirituality, by the way I'm studying to be a Jehovah's Witness.. Anyways, I still have crushes and stuff, but I never let my feelings run away with me, and yes I sometimes do want to date, but in the long run-I'm not ready to be involved with anyone at such a level, and dating does require a bunch of effort, none that I feel I should be doing at a young age.
And when i'm old enough, and I feel I'm mentally, emotionaly, physically and spiritually ready to date then I will, cuz when I date a guy that means I'm getting to know him, so that I can in the future marry that person. So yes in the future I will date, but not rite now.

Wow, it's a really big deal to sleep with someone, an even bigger deal than we know. When you sleep with someone, that's a bond between you and that person. It signifies that you both are in a place that you are that comfortable with each other. Now I have a question, would you want to give up something as important your virginity to a person who you might eventually break up with? Or sleep with someone you might break up with? Now multiply that by let's say....3. A person might just keep on moving along and then..oh, they found that person they want to spend the rest of thier life with but they've been areound a lot sexually. Is thier regret?? OH YEAH THIER IS. Thier always is regret because that is something very special between two people. Ralationships should be had for the purpose of finding out what you want out of a marriage because dating actually does prepare you for marriage. But I say know your boundaries when it comes to sex because a female is like a flower. Fallen petals are the times she's had sex. Don't you want the one person that you're going to spend the rest of your life with to pick those petals?? Just something to think about Ladies (and Gentlemen to!)

God Bless!!

So chocolatecandycane, you never had a boyfriend?
You said that dating will lend into sex so I came into the conclusion that you never had a boyfriend, right?
Wait, I don't understand are you going to marry and skip the whole dating part?

I'm sorry I don't seem to understand something

Bye N Have a nice day

There isn't any thing wrong with sex as long as your married! Anyone ever heard of the word fornication? If not LOOK IT UP! C'mon guys. 1. Servants of God love what is good. But they must also learn to hate what is bad. (Psalm 97:10) That means avoiding certain practices that God hates. What are some of those practices?

2. Fornication: Sex before marriage, adultery, *******ity, incest, and homosexuality are all serious sins against God. (Leviticus 18:6; Romans 1:26, 27; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10) If a couple are not married but are living together, they should separate or else get legally married.—Hebrews 13:4.

Has anyone been on www.watchtower.org, if not it's a good site I suggest if for those who want to learn more about Jehovah's WItnesses. Thankyou!
Luv
~mela