I was wondering how do you know when it's the right time to have sex with somebody. How do you even know when it's the right person. These days you see ten year olds having sex with five or more people and they think that they're ready. Are the standards these days dropping, I seriously doubt kids are maturing faster these days. What's up?

You know there are some questions that really dont have answers . Thats one of them .

I might have posted in this before, if i have oh well. Anyways there it no "right" or "wrong" time to have sex just go with whatever your comfortable with. If you wanna have sex when your 13 then whatever or if you wanna wait until your married then thats fine too I might not agree with what you choose, but who am I to preach.

I say the right time is when you know you will have no regrets no matter what the consequence may be.

when your married.

I don't think that age has anything to do with sexual readiness...although, I had a friend who lost her virginity at age 13, and she was definitely NOT ready. In fact, I don't think anyone could be ready to have sex at 13...

I think that you'll know when you're ready to have sex by how you feel with someone. It's not like, when you turn 18, you say, "Oh, I'm ready to have sex." and then look for someone to have sex with.

A few rules of thumb when deciding whether to have sex with someone or not...first, you should date for AT LEAST 3 months before you even begin to consider it.

Next, do you TRUST the person? If there's even a little glimmer of distrust, you should never have sex with them.

Have you ever had any bad feelings for them? Very important - have you ever felt that they were trying to control you?

You have to follow your intuition only with this...if you have ANY misgivings, you should NOT be having sex. It can make or break a relationship, and if you've been feeling taken advantage of or like you can't trust him, then you shouldn't be having sex.

In other words, you can only trust yourself. Never give into peer pressure!

Also, for the love of god, wear a condom...but you knew that, I hope.

Die.

Aww, you're such a sweetie. I lovvve fake people. I find them to be very mature and worthwhile.

"May your God bless you."

I'm atheist. I'm going to have to ask you to stop generalizing again.

Kbye hunny

I'm glad you responded maturely to my last nice post.

And it's "pregnant". I'm way too much of a genius to get pregnant at age 21, by that time I will be in college, studying to end up being a criminal psychiatrist.

Also, if you generalize me, I will generalize you. If you've lived through all that, you would know that the best way to deal with people is treating them the way you'd like to be treated. And don't tell me I don't treat people nicely, because I'm extremely well-aware of that, and I don't care; being nice is something that shouldn't be wasted if it's not appreciated (like I've noticed that in your case it wasn't worth it).

Have a good day and may your God bless you.

Lol...oh my goodness I love you too. You give me quite some entertainment my friend.

I like how you get so upset at someone over the internet...obviously you have life. My cousin is retarded so don't act like you're the only one who has to deal with an issue like that. I'm glad that you have no regrets about your past...I hope you won't regret getting pregnent when you're 21 either.

You can generalize all you want, but don't generalize me. You have no idea who the hell I am and you never will. You have no clue what I've done for this world in my life...and I'm only 14.

I think it's cool you're the "happiest person on this fucking earth." That must be pretty fun.

I love you.

It is just stupid for people to have sex before 18 at least. I don't like it.

Well, apology accepted and I apologize for using the word "retard" and lashing out (my anger always gets the best of me, it's natural in my personality).

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something about love doesn't matter;

Like I said, I meant in this case (does love come relevant in sex?), no it doesn't. Because you can love a person, have sex with them, and afterwards realize it's the worst mistake you've ever done.

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think the whole "crap HS relationship" trend is waning

That's our (as in the people who just posted here) relationships. We're the weird people in HS, unfortunately most HSers are in a mental void that takes up mostly feelings of carnality, materialism, and arousal. So, when you look at most HS relationships, you realize that it's done out of status, lust, or for the desire to have someone to call boyfriend/girlfriend. Hence why a lot of HS relationships don't last very long; the feeling wasn't there originally. That's what I meant.

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Your girlfriend will likely dump you as HS relationships usually don't last jack shit.

Bullshit. I haven't dumped my boyfriend and he's been out of HS for seven months now.

My friend hasn't dumped her boyfriend and he graduated when mine did.

I know a couple who has been together for almost three years now.

I think the whole "crap HS relationship" trend is waning.

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Your girlfriend will likely dump you as HS relationships usually don't last jack shit

Sounds like an assumption to me. One cannot statistically categorize relationships. (notice I used "one," therefore, I'm not assuming anything about "you")


And if you truly understand the what the word "retard" implies, especially by way of first-hand experience with other people, then you wouldn't use it as an insult. Basically, you are implying that paws and I are dumb. Therefore, you are saying that people with mental handicaps are dumb. Thusly, you are degrading and insulting people with mental handicaps.

If you're going to insult, then insult me intelligently. I'd prefer to be insulted by someone who at least sounds like they're worthy of an intellectual conversation. And it's true what they say about cursing. You lack the vocabulary and speaking capacity to use another word in its place. Granted, I curse when I am mad, and that is hardly excusable, but when you use the word "retard" you clearly exhibit your own lack of self control and the inability to make a coherent response. Also, you are contradicting yourself. After having told us how we think and who we are (and you don't know me or paws), you assume that we are complete morons and incapable of understanding your "mature insults" as you call them. Hmmmmm, arrogance or anger got the better of you I think (uh oh maybe I'm assuming again).

And about the high school relationships thing, I understand that most do not last. I know that. I see it everyday: the vulgarity and simple materialistic relationships of teens with hormones raging like a wildfire. I was telling you that, as a person who hates materialism, I truly love my girlfriend for who she is, and our relationship truly is different. Apparently I assumed too much about what you were saying and your life, and I apologize. It's just that by the low intellectual effectiveness of your response - something about love doesn't matter; just divorce him and find somebody else to f**k - I assumed that you were a moron like everyone else on this site. Thusly, this is why I lashed out at you and, again, I apologize.

But, don't lecture me in intelligence, because you are assuming again just like paws and I did. Everything I just said was based on observations of your previous posts giving little levity to any of my own assumptions.

I'm utterly proud that you wildly contradict yourself by saying that I shouldn't assume about your life, when clearly you have about mine. Way to prove your point, really.

I'm actually extremely happy with my life and my boyfriend. I feel like I've learned tons thanks to my life expirience (good and bad) and have no regrets whatsoever about my past. About my current life, I am the happiest human being on this fucking Earth.

And I know what being a retard is. I've been pretty damn in close contact with people with mental disabilities (especially that sort since I've been in odd positions with that type of thing before), as my sister's autistic and I know a damn lot about about psychiatry and plan to be one. It's just that, some people actually seem retarded, with the granted-by-god ability to type and talk.

I generalize about HS relationships because, like you both have said, most HS relationships don't last even if they're taken seriously, and when you're going to say a probability, you say the usual statistics, and the statistics are that HS relationships are not ever-lasting.

You don't want my mature insults. I'm too good at it, like most YNers have noticed, and now have realized that most people are not worth my time nor thought when I insult. So instead of saying "Incestual-born lacking cognitive ability waste of life" I prefer saying a shorter term, such as "Idiot" or "retard". And the old "Your life sucks so you insult me" is so damn old it's not even slightly intelligent enough at this day unless you have grand evidence to prove that said person's life actually sucks, which neither of you have (or ever will).

I love you.

Retards are humans with mental illness' that cause their nervous system to work abnormally and they don't develop like a normal human being...try to be more choosy and mature with your insults next time.

But anyway...although HS relationships may stereotypically not last, some do. I don't see why you should go and insult people just because your life is a complete wreck. You shouldn't assume other people's lives are going to crash and burn, just because yours did. I mean, don't get me wrong, I feel sorry for you and that sucks, but I'm very happy with my life and my boyfriend and I have a strong feeling we will last for quite a while.

I hope your life gets better...all we need is another miserable wacked out person running around the world...

No I know high school relationships dont usually last. But don't say mine won't if you have no idea who I am or who she is. I don't know what you do but I dont go around f**king for fun, or saying "I love you" to someone unless I really know I mean it.

I guess both of you RETARDS didn't get what I meant.

I meant love doesn't matter in the sense that you may love someone and not be ready for sex anyways. Trust me because I have been there once already.

Your girlfriend will likely dump you as HS relationships usually don't last jack shit.

Im not going to preach o u shouldnt have sex but im in a program called PEP its helps teen abstaine from things like sex or drugs alcohol and even tobacco. I dont think you should have sex becuase one night of fun can mean a lifetime of regret! Im saving sex for marriage becuase i want to give my spouse a awesome wedding present only a gift that one person can have and thats my virginity so i think you should wait until ur married thats the right time for me!