What do you guys think of casual sex? I do it with best friend... I dunno I guess we're bf/gf. He did buy me a pretty ring for x-mas... so yeah I assume we are.

Eek. There needs to be a blush smiley.

Well, nevermind me, what do you people think of it?

As far as i'm concerned i have no problem with casual sex between friends. But I wouldn't go around screwing random girls i never met before, neither would i wanna sleep with diffrent girls each night. As Wolfie said you don't know what each other like.

Euterpe- I agree with the all parts especially the third. My love and I were best friends before anything started. If we weren't we probably wouldn't love each other as much as we do now.

I guess we're a prime example of the "best friends turn into lovers" scenario.

However, I think the idea of the one nighter's becoming lovers is completely stupid because 1. you have no idea what they are like 2. they have no idea what you are like. The chances of both parties being compatible is so slight it should be considered impossible.

1. Yes.
2. No. Lol, unlike most women, I can separate the two.
3. Yes, but the type of love is often shallow unless there were unspoken, unrealized, deep feelings beforehand.

Yes I talked to him before. I was just wondering about it because we started off as best friends, then FWB, then love. I suppose I should have been more specific with my questions... I have a tendency to be too vague.

Do you think FWB could become lovers?
Has it ever happened to you?
Can sex/lust create love? ("making love")

That's what I was trying to ask, but I was being a vague freak for no apparent reason.

"What kind of sex isn't casual?"

Girl Interrupted aside, as long as you're having safe sex, casual sex is fine.

Wolfie, I'd still say talk to him about it.

Casual sex? Again, been there done that. Is it right? Sure, if you lack any type of capability of attachment, and if you can be sure that you will never have your emotions involved. For me and for most people I know, it's not any good. It's good at first, then you really realize how much shit it causes.

I suppose casual sex is all right for some people. I wouldn't do it, but that's because I'm an old school hopeless romantic who puts a little more into relationships. It makes me feel obsolete every once in a while, but I'm fairly sure my relationships have been better off.

Not that I'm trying to force anyone to conform to my way of thinking. I'm not a Republican. You do what you feel is best.

Hmm...The only guy I ever did anything with was a "friend with benefits," and though I flirted with other people, and he did the same, we only did anything with each other. I think it's okay to have ONE friend with benefits, because if you have more, it will probably turn out that one of you only want to have sex with one person...but are afraid of making the relationship an exclusive sort of thing.

I really recommend talking to him about where you both are in your relationship...obviously this is bothering you a little if you're mentioning it, so I suggest telling him that you want to date...or whatever you want. If you're not sure if you want to date him or not, but you can't decide if you're okay with being friends with benefits, you need to step back and find out...until you feel perfectly okay with it, you really shouldn't have sex.

Casual dating, etc., can be really damaging; I don't recommend it.

Well this isn't supposed to be about me anyways...

I want to know how others feel about casual sex. Is it ever right?

Well, he did ask me to marry him...

And I was his best friend for years before we did anything...

And I was the one who wanted to slam him first because I'm a sex kitten so I am the one to most likely use him rather than the other way.

And when we are with each other, we're usually happy just to see the other, not because we're horny. I don't know; it started out as lust like two years ago, but now it's really deep love. We're like married already... It's interesting.

hmmmmmmmmm....

And I have only done him... and vice-versa...

I think I love him, so what am I so afraid of? I'm afraid that I'm not sure of love there is no cure for...

Wow. I feel cheesy.

Yeah, casual relationships typically just complicate things to the point that I don't even get involved with them if offered. I'm sort of turned off by it. It's all about instant gratification, and now that I think about it I feel like I equate it with drug or alcohol abuse.

And anyway when I'm sleeping with someone I want it to be consistant. Otherwise you don't know which buttons to push to make things, for lack of a better word, interesting. /

Any I agree with Celtic about the ring. If you were his girlfriend you'd know it.

Been there. Done that. You'll only get fucked (not just literally) at the end.

He probably bought you the ring to keep you as a fuck buddy.

Honestly, if your feelings (other than lust) are getting involved, you need to talk to the guy. You're gonna get hurt if you're falling for him and he's just enjoying the fact that you're in a horizontal position.

Of FWB?
Or the fact that you had sex with your best friend?