I've said it before and I'll say it again when you are ready to accept the consequnces of those actions wether it's a child or AIDs or some other STD

Sex isnt something you just "mess" around with, its a serious thing. Its not just physical contact its something that is emotional, atleast it should be. When you are ready to have sex is up to you and you alone. Its not oh im graduating so i "need" to have sex or my best friend just had sex so i "need" to as well. Its more, is this the right person, will he/she stay with me in the worst of situations, will he/she be there for me? The worst case is the two of you make a baby and when there is a baby stress is high and its very possible that the guy may leave or the girl may have an abortion and neither of the situations are fun. And take my word for it, having a baby as a teen is not easy, with or without the daddy. So i guess from my point of view, its a matter of when you can handle the outcome of sex. When you are capable of that, then please have all the fun you want. But remember condoms and birth control are NOT 100% effective!

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
When you're ready. Damn sure you're ready. Period.

Love doesn't matter. You may love someone and not be ready. Marriage doesn't either; you can divorce them and fuck someone else.

It's an issue about being ready.

This may sound weird coming from a boy, but love does make a difference. Aren't you the same shallow person who said i was going to grow up and my girlfriend was gunna dump me and I'd have to do drugs? lol, i see now why you say what you say! YOU'RE COMPLETELY STUPID! Don't say that i'm going to grow up and have a bad life, just because you need to reassure yourself that everyone has bad lives. I don't know how happy you are with your life, but lol don't tell me i'm not happy. I am perfectly happy remaining with this girl without having sex. I love her more than anything. Perhaps you should figure out what a relationship is. It's not all in your pants.

I'm sorry to find that you are one lost soul my dear...

Love does matter...

Well actually, it depends. To prostitutes love doesn't matter. I find that very sad, depressing and low. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

To me...well I'd prefer to have sex with someone who truly loves me and respects me. Sex isn't a game to me...it's a show of intimacy and it's a beautiful, natural thing.

When you're ready. Damn sure you're ready. Period.

Love doesn't matter. You may love someone and not be ready. Marriage doesn't either; you can divorce them and fuck someone else.

It's an issue about being ready.

These discussions are so personal and the answers can vary so much...it's so hard to debate something that depends on every situation.

Well, personaly I believe sex is between two human beings who truly love each other and are old enough and wise enough to make such a rash decision...sex for me isn't between specifically a man and woman; I think as long as the two beings are in love (men-men, woman-woman, men-woman), then they can have sex ot show their love an intimacy for each other. I myself won't have sex until I'm married.

I think young teens should be careful, because teen sex causes a lot of unwanted babies and sick young adults.

The right time for sex is when the couple agrees that it is. If a man/woman wants to decide that they want to screw themselves over while they're young...that is totally their choice.

freedom, it takes les than 30 seconds to check her profile and see that it does not say USA as her country. Perhaps you should do that before being mean.

Is English your first language? I am being serious. It is sound advice, I agree. But your internet maturity (in terms of language) is that of a 12 year old...

what do u mean confused. i know what i am talking about. i think that is sound advice. what is so confused about waiting until understand what relationships and sex is all about and give your virginity to the person u decide to spend the rest of your life with.

You don't talk like a 26-year-old... Are you sure? We've already had one person confused about their sex. We don't need an age-confused person to add to the list...

I am now 26 years old and i could do it all over again i would still be a virgin and give it to my husband.i have a 10yr old daughter and day by day i struggle with my past. i have a good education and a permanant job and still all i need is for these pain connected to my past be removed. i have given myslef of freely at a young age and if i could tell a young person on thing it would be 'PLEASE WAIT AND GIVE YOUR VIRGINITY TO YOUR HUSBAND" cause your past will sure come back to haunt you. BE SURE YOUR SINS WILL FIND YOU OUT.

At a responsible, educated and mature age, when both partners are willing and cautious.

The right time to have sex is whenever you feel ready. Be safe, use protection. Just to let the girls know...the first time is going to be painful, but don't worry, it gets much better with time and experience.

I think its fine to have sex even if your like 12 or 13. Ten is kinda weird, but as long as their willing and using protection (ex: Condom, the pill), anythings cool.

i have sex with my bf all the time and it always feels right

I totally think that No one is ready to have SEX until after marriage. Because there are so many teen pregnancys these days and most of the parents are immature and those children are being brought up in a family where there needs are not always taken seriously. Also because if you DO get PREGNANT with a child u have to worry about how to take care of them and how to feed them. Its just somethin that you I think shouldnt have to be dealt with until AFTER your marriage when hopefully you are more mature, because then you dont HAVe to worry about STDs, AIDs, and all that crap that comes from having SEX before marriage with diffrent people. What do you guys think??

i honesty think der is no way to describe how ur ready...especially if your yung. cus lets say ur in high skoo and u have a boyfriend and been wif him for a 1yr u think ur ready and u mite even think u'll marry the guy, but sumtimes relationships end. and you'll never know if u will stay wif him ur whole life. i guess u can say ur ready if u know if yall do break up..if u wont regret it

But who determines what or when one is READY? That's not a criteria you can just pin point, you know.

There are so many complications and emotional overoads involved with sex that most people don't know what or when ready is.

So now what?

And is it possible for a person to be mentally but not physically ready for sex?

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I think you should have sex when you're ready. The problem is is that too many people make the mistake of thinking they're ready too early.