I agree w/banshee and when you love the person and trust them.

your not living if you don't take chances.

when you have a condum ....

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Originally posted by TLWgirl09:
wait till your married then your know he's the right person case he loves you enough to put a ring on your finger

Umm...my bf put a ring on my finger? Glad to know I can have sex by your standards. Personally I don't really care...ppl have sex for different reasons and yea they're not all great but...it happens. I lost my virginity @ 13 (most guys can ejaculate @ 13 horsegrl..)and while I regret it at times, I know it's made me who I am today and taught me to pick the guys I choose to date better. The guy I lost it to was 17 and I don't know that it was for the right reasons except that we were together for a long time and back then I really did think I was in love. He and I still talk now and such so I'm not really sure that I regret it except for the fact that the guy I'm with now gave me his virginity and I couldn't give him one. It's kinda like,I'm the only girl he's ever been with..from first kiss to first time. We dated on and off from 7th grade to us finally being together for a long time in 11th. I kinda wish I could give him that but at the same time I know my love for him and his love for me is no less simply b/c of that. 13 is a little young I think and I know I'll tell my girls to wait longer than that but as long as you're in love with the guy and you're together for awhile in an exclusive relationship that means something I don't think you really have to wait until you're married. Idk...w/e works for you though I guess...I just think it'd be horrible to be like 40 and a virgin...I can promise you though that you're not kissing true love goodbye if you do have sex before marriage though. I've found it and I did...The whole TLW (true love waits) thing is a nice concept and true to a certain extent. True love DOES wait...it just doesn't have to wait until marriage. The guys that I have had sex with, for the most part I'm really close friends with them...we were completely comfortable with each other and in love at one point or another...we grew up together and all that good stuff...the one is even dating my twin sister now...and she's one of those ppl who's gonna hold off probably until she's married. She'll give up everything but actual sex and he's fine with that. Wait however long you want but as long as you're in love and together for awhile and completely comfortable with each other...go for it...you're not losing much.
~Ser~

What a great idea, take advice from a virgin, someone who knows EVERYTHING about sex. Virgins sure talk a lot for having nothing to say.

wait till your married then your know he's the right person case he loves you enough to put a ring on your finger

MY friend was 13 when she had sex. We told her not to, but did not listen. Thankfully, though, she did not get pregnant, even though she already had her period and he could ejaculate,too!! They are still together and believe me, they are not bad people. Her mom found out and talked to her bf's parents and they straightened it out. It's been a year, and hopefully they won't do it again

i agree with the one below me, when your married.

you are ready to have sex when you are married.

ok the whole virginity is a gift thing is ticking me off, even though I think you should wait til you're married. To me it's like...every little physical thing you do w/ sumone, holding hands, kissing, more kissing, touching each other, sex, all of those things is just taking a piece of your heart and giving it to your partner. so it sort of is a gift but seriously, calling your bod a diamond or pearls or a package in brown paper seems so stupid. It's like you have a date set off in a day in the future and your life you're getting dolled up for that date, and you don't wanna look all crappy on your date, and your physical stuff with lots of people makes you look worse and worse...

Lots of love,
Lynne

u no thats a real good questions. i dont think there is a rite or a wrong time to have sex. u jus do it wen u both feel like it and wen ur ready ...real ready. so yea

You can't name a point in your life when your going to be ready for sex. All i can tell you is it's gonna happen when you feel your prepared for it (mentally and physically) you can't just go into sex and think nothings gonna happen. Sometimes there are good things that happen (like a deeper relationship) or bad things that happen (like having a baby and not being prepared)

You have to be mentally ready as in if you do it will you regret it? Always question if you are doing the right thing. because your actions will have a major effect on your future.

but love is something more than sayin 'i love you', if a girl falls for that well then i feel sorry for her. Love feels so good. mayn i get jitters whenever i am near my boyfriend, but yet i am so comfortable around him. i feel so safe with him.

But I highly recommened (esp for the ladies) that if you feel you love your bf/gf, make sure you have a established realtionship first, before you have sex. make sure you are emotionally ready. you have to know each other real good first. know each others emotions some what.

to finish the process, yes some of ya'll won't be ready until marriage, but some are ready earlier.

it's your choice

~*Foxy*~

all these peeps r saying u know "if u live ur b/f or g/f enough then just go for it." no. because they could say "well i love you." but only so they can get some. they way you know when your ready to have sex is when you're standing at the altar in the pretty white dress, or for guys a nice tux, next to the only person you want to spend the rest of you're life with, after the "i do's" and after the preist tells the man "you may kiss the bride." after you married is when your ready to have sex. that's what i think. and that's what i'm waiting for.

the right time to have sex is when you know you won't get caught j/k but seriously if u r ready and love ur bf/ gf and they are ready then go for it! but make sure u use protection!

A hoe is a garden tool, dammit.

What if there is no damn regret?! Do you all still feel the need to belittle people who think and act different then you?!... Gah!
What kind of guilt trip are you putting on people? You are the reason people question themselves. if they cant even make the right decision about their own bodies then how can they know what’s good for the rest of their lives? So they start living questioning everything, and not taking chances. Granted sex isn’t something to be taken lightly. I'm not saying it is, but you cant judge someone on one action and choice they have made.

Tootles.

Remember one moment of pleasure is not worth a life time of regret.

married, unless ya like being a hoe

The only time you should have sex is when you feel ready to do it. Ten year olds don't even know the concept of why we do. You should also understand what it means to have sex with someone, and I hope you do before you take that step. The only way i can tell you how you know its with the right person is that you know you love them. It is really hard to actually describe how youknow itsthe right person...its just something inside you that tells you it is. But the only time you should have sex is if you yourself feel comfortable about it.

*~*~*~Ravyn~*~*~*