Hello. I need help and I want people to tell me what they think, while I was at camp, I met a girl who had befriended another camper in a younger division. She was like a little sister to her. This girl was athletic and very nice, she has a really nice family and house and she was pretty. She confided in my friend that she had been cutting herself. My friend asked me what I would do if I was in this situation. This girl didn't seem to understand that she actually had a problem. Although more mature than the girls in her division, she was still little and didn't seem to GET what the big deal was. But it IS a big deal. We told her counselor a week before camp ended... I don't know whether we did the right thing or not. My friend was there to talk to her when she needed support, and she had someone to confide in at camp whenever she felt the need to cut. But at home she doesn't have anybody to talk to. She cant speak to her family and she just moved... she started a new school and had no friends... which is why she says she started cutting in the first place. We live far away from her... so far away we can't keep an eye on her. What's your advice?

get her email address or something.... tell her that your there for her and always will be...... but mostly the girl needs to know that cutting is a bigger problem then she thaught... she needs to get some other help. if not from a parent or councler then she needs to get help online... she can email me (a former cutter) at angel_devil1384@yahoo.com .... tell her if she feels alone then she isnt... she will never be alone because there are some people who know and want to help.....

yeah and DIEFROMINSIDE: what the hell??? ok i think i read one of your posts before and you said you cut too.... i know when someone told on me i was pissed but i got over it and now am not addicted to it anymore.... cutting kills your feelings and you become dependent on it. i know. it kills me to think that you are cutting because i feel for you...

MARY: i know how you feel too. my friend courtney is cutting again and she wont stop... shes going to councling and everything but its not helping. i love courtney more then life and it hurts me every time i see another cut. so just tell her that your there for her. and tell her parents because they love her.

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you should leave her alone because already ruined her life. its her life not yours so you should lay off. i really think wat you did was very rude and absentminded. you can live with my answer or delete it.

email her and call her and make her feel like you care...... sometimes they just need love

You did what you thought was best to do, and that was the right thing. If you have her e-mail, address, phone number, you could keep in touch. No, you can't keep an eye on her, but if you can be a friend, even from a distance, that is good. Yet, even if you can't help now, you did what was best.

You've done all you can do. You told someone, you tried to get her help. You can't do anymore than that.

I volunteer for the TeenLine and we were told in training that sometimes you might get a call where someone is in danger to themselves but you can't get any information from them. You can talk to them, you can try to help them, but it may not work out; they may hang up before you can do anything. That's not our fault. We did our best to help and that's all we can do. S

So I'm very sorry about your friend but it will do you no good to obsess over this. You did the right thing and, until you get a chance to see her again, there's nothing else you can do. It is not your job to be her guardian. Just be glad you told someone in the first place.

we were at camp and didn't know how to handle this situation... did we do this right?