Just recently I was just talking to one of my friends online, and she said that people should instead of spending time working out, you know trying to look good, and spend more time on developing a better personality. You should know that she is the type that looks for personality in a guy rather than looks, actually most girls do... Anyways I soon gave her the question, how do you develope a better personality. She was clueless. So instead of pressuring her to answer m, I am going to ask you. Do you think someone can better their personality? And if they can how do you think someone would go about it.
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ya know, i think your personality develops somewhat because of what your exposed to, but it's all really what YOU want to believe and what kind of person YOU want to be..my parents, who are suppose to be one of my role models, are ignorant and racist, but i am not at all like that..i think it is wrong and one of the biggest problems in the world..going to school and being educated has helped me realize that..so i think it all depends on yourself and following your own footsteps..anyway, i think that a person can definitely change their personality by seeing different perspectives and if a person really wanted to, they could..

Personality is an elusive thing. I am genetically identical to my two sisters, as a triplet, and we had pretty much the same upbringing. Nevertheless our personalities are different, and what's more, differences started to show even at a very young age. When we were about two my mum wrote an article about being a triplet mum for a magazine. She described one of my sisters as assertive and knowing her own mind, another as emotional and boisterous, and me as a peaceful soul and the quietest. 14 years later, and fundamentally, not a lot has changed!

I think somebody's core personality is formed quite early on in life, but experience enriches and develops it. I think we learn from the people around us how to behave and how to treat others. I think it's possible to damage yourself, too. You've got to look after yourself or you can get really stuck in a rut, personality-wise.

Just getting out there and living with your whole self is the important thing, I guess.

Bex

Personality is formed through experiences, your environment, what your exposed to, influential people around you, etc.

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instead of spending time working out... spend more time on developing a better personality

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What is a "better" personality? What makes a personality "good" or "bad"?

You can never completely change your personality but I think it can be altered, adjusted, and tweaked. However, I don't think any changes come about consiously; they have to be more natural. Actually... maybe I take that back. I suppose if you said "Hey, I want to be more loud and outgoing" and you actually did that, you would have consiously adjusted part of who you are, or at least how you come across.

...hummm.... I don't know. I just contradicted myself. I still think personality is more of a natural thing. And there is no way to judge the quality of a personlity; it's all relative.

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instead of spending time working out, you know trying to look good, and spend more time on developing a better personality.

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That's really funny, I work out a little, but I have a friend who lives at the gym....and don't tell him...but most people think he has zero personality.

Developing personaility I believe comes from worldlyness. Getting out, doing things. The more things you do, the more poeple you meet...the more you understand about the world and just people in general. Me for instance will talk to nearly anyone, people I even strongly disagree with. I love debate and especially with those who opose me. I hope they take something from me as I learn something from everyone. Personality through direct action!

How to improve your personality? Think, read, do. Ironically, certain ways of working out can improve your personality. It's not something you can actually spend time doing. If you try to do that, then you'll just end up seeming fake/awkward.