Question:
Is it wrong to have sex under the age of 19?

Choices:
Yes it is! (try to post a answer why!)
No it never is (try to post a answer why)
Depends on if the people are in love
Depends on what age under 19
I dont know

 

In my opinion, having sex under the age of nineteen is not necessarily right or wrong. I'm eighteen and while I'm still a virgin, many of my friends have had sex with their boyfriends, but most of them weren't stupid about it. There are a many things to consider when having sex, especially if you're so young and not married (I'm assuming you aren't? correct me if I'm wrong). First, and what I consider the most important, are you in love and is your boyfriend/girlfriend in love with you? If there is even the slightest doubt in your mind that this isn't love, I don't recommed having sex, it can cause many problems if the two of you aren't feeling the same way about each other. I have seen relationships fall apart because of sex. Second, talk about birth control. The girl should highly consider the pill, talk about who is going to get the condoms, and make sure you know how to use them!! Next both of you should be tested for STDs whether or not you have EVER had sex. Next, talk about what happens if the girl gets pregnant. Will the guy support her? How will you manage school, will there be an abortion, or adoption, who will take care of the baby? (I personally think it's unfair to make the girl's parent care for the child because the daughter is too young to be responsible for it) If there is a baby, will the two of you get married? So on and so forth. In my opinion, if the guy isn't going to be there to support the girl if she gets pregnant, I wouldn't have sex. That is a horrible thing for a guy to do and if he can't take care of her when she needs him the most, is it really love? If the two of you aren't comfortable talking about things like birth control, STDs, ect with each other, you aren't ready for sex. Most people don't realize how important sex is and how mature one has to be. If you don't think you can handle the responsibilities, then sorry, but you aren't mature enough for sex.

Ok, I don't agree about putting an age limit on sex! I feel that if you are ready than go ahead, have sex! However, most people or teens are not ready finicially or emotionally, to deal with the consequences sex may bring. If you feel you are ready for anything that may come w/ sex than I can't stop you....no matter what age you may be!

I agree with you on that one rockrgirl228. I feel the same way, I dont think people who are 16 should be making love due to one thing and thats responsibility. If you get pregnant who has to deal with it? Your parents or guardian, you are busy with school and a social life but once a baby enters into the picture your life is all about the baby and then you have no free time and you life will never be the same. My dad told me that if I wanted to date and have a girl friend then I needed to have a job as well. Why? Well because he was teaching me responsibility and he told me that if I ever got a girl pregnant then I needed a job to support myself and my child. He helped me realize that if I wanted to love and grow into a man then I needed to know that once a baby is made then I have to be a responsible adult and take care of my children as well as myself.

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I wonder why so many of you think it is wrong? I mean I know about the obvious reasons like std's and pregnancy, but what actually makes it wrong. Look at our military when you are 17 you can sign up to learn how to kill people, you may even be able to kill people. At 17 you can also watch rated R movies and even NC17. But again why is makin love wrong? At 18 you can vote and are considered an adult in a court of law. But yet being 19, 1 year older and you view making love as being wrong or bad.

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You make good points, but I think sex is wrong for some people at certain ages. Nothing so definite as "it's wrong if you're under 19, period" because who am I to decide something like that? But my best friend is 16 and she's having sex, and I think it's completely wrong for her. She doesn't know what she wants and she can't see that she's being used by the guys she gets involved with. She's too young to see the implications of her actions, and there are a lot of other people out there in the same situation as her. I just think that some teenagers think they're ready when they really aren't, and somehow they need to be convinced to wait. I don't have a solution to it, but from my perspective I can definitely see a problem.

Who said, flat out, it was wrong, Dumars, besides Loc and myself (I was *completely* joking, and I assume the same for Loc, seeing as I could feel the sarcasm oozing out of his post).

Sex isn't wrong. I think it's a beautiful thing two mature people can share. Just think twice before sharing it with another person.

I wonder why so many of you think it is wrong? I mean I know about the obvious reasons like std's and pregnancy, but what actually makes it wrong. Look at our military when you are 17 you can sign up to learn how to kill people, you may even be able to kill people. At 17 you can also watch rated R movies and even NC17. But again why is makin love wrong? At 18 you can vote and are considered an adult in a court of law. But yet being 19, 1 year older and you view making love as being wrong or bad. I am in no position to question your beliefs but before I start to spout off about it being wrong I would take into consideration other things that most people consider to be higher on the wrong scale.

i personally dont think it is wrong to have sex under the age of 19 but others may beg to differ. I think that if u r resonsible and stuff then it is fine. For i am a teen mother and i wish i have waited but that is a totally different subject. But to get back to the subject. I think for most people it depends on their religion and other stuff too. But thats only my 2 cents...

Now now Loc, that's a bit harsh. Oh wait, no it's not. Sex always wrong. Down with reproduction!!!! Who's with me?


Get my point.

Of course it is Wrong, dont question the powers that be in such matters. If you are 18 and 364 days, 23 hours and 59 minutes it is STILL wrong. Your ethics should be black and white, determined by precise numerology and time frames, rather than conforming to your social and eithical viewpoints, as that would lead to individuality, generations preceding having shown it to be a Bad Thing.

no but you should be married and only sleep with your spouse.

in my last post I said, "and where protection." I meant: "and wear protection." sorry. :-)

Only if its with chickens or other farm animals....thats just plain wrong!

i didn't vote on your pole because none of those answers are the answer that I wanted to choose. Sex is not wrong under the age of 19 but it is not always right either. Sex should be kept between two people- and thats all- who love each other and who want to spend the rest of their lives together. None of that orgie stuff should take place. Some people have sex with just about anybody they want to have sex with and that is wrong. Who wants to have sex with somebody that has had sex with 15 people before you? It's like passing around a bag of potato chips and then getting the crumbs at the bottom. If you aren't married or if you aren't 18 and able to take care of a child by yourself then if you do have sex you should definately wear protection or get birth control. (I mean the girl should get birth control and the guy should wear protection.)

I mean if you can't wait to have sex then do it and don't feel bad about it but don't do it with EVERYBODY and where protection. And make sure you know that that is really what you want to do before you do it. If you have any doubts about it then don't.

how could the thing that ensures the surivival of a species, and is in fact part of what makes the being alive be wrong? sex is how we reproduce, it's a necessary part of life, to say the least.