My parents say that dating and love is for the adults and that kids can't understand how important it is. In my opinion they are wrong. Love is for everyone. My parents don't understand how these feelings can come to you at any age. I know I realllly love my boyfriend. And it isn't just that i love him because hes hot anything like that, its i love him for his personality and how he treats me. What do you think about teen love and dating? Or are the parents right?
Parents only tell kids they aren't capable of love because so many of them aren't yet capable of handling everything that goes along with that emotion. I mean sure children understand what love is, as in general they in some way love their parents. What they don't understand it just how much commitment of energy, time, emotions it takes to have such strong feelings, especially if you are acting on these emotions..dateing the person you are in love with. I mean..at 13 are you prepared to be responsible for your partners well being and happiness. It's not that young people aren't capable of love, it's more of a perspective thing. Parents look at love from the angle of that commitment, rather than purely the emotional aspect, as in general the commitment follows the emotions.
I believe that everyone is entitled to love, that everyone is capable of feeling love. I once spoke about this to my mother and she totally agrees with that. She says that most parents discourage us from having boy(girl)friends at this age is 'cos they think that we are still too young to differentiate between real love and pure infatuation.Most teens just see how 'hot' that person is and decide to be a couple, and that relationship is not based on real love-easily broken. But if you're sure that what you're feeling between you and your honey is real, mature love, then good for you! -Jina-
I think a lot of it depends largely upon your ability to judge. If your parents believe you are unwise enough to get involved, feel "love", and then have sex, they might say something. On the other hand, if they think that you have a good head on your shoulders, they will question you about what your position is. Then, if it satisfies them, they usually back off and give you room. Note, however, this is from personal experience. It may not work with everyone and their parents. Mark
i will reiterate: your capacity to understand your emotions grows as you get older. that is not to say that what you feel right now is not love - only you know what your own definition of love is. all i'm saying is that you will probably look back in 5 years and realize that you are later capable of feeling something deeper.
when i was in high school i said that i was in love. i believed it too, there's no way anyone could say that i was faking it or just being shallow - i was as much in love then as i could be at that time. now (much later) i define love differently because my capacity to feel has grown tremendously. looking back, yeah, i was in love for a 17 year-old, but that kind of feeling wouldn't cut it for me to say that i was in love with someone today.
so the definition of love changes as you change. the reason that parents say "you're too young" is because they're using their own definition of love. you use yours. but let's not be naive and believe that all parents are wrong - it would be quite a coincidence for millions of parents to be wrong over hundreds of years. they're simply using their own experiences and definitions of love. let's not forget that they have been young before. we haven't been old yet. cut them some slack.
jaxb - i guess you didn't appreciate my unsuccessful attempt at tounge-in-cheek humor. my apologies. however, when you get to college and you see how many high-school relationships flounder within the 1st semester are you going to tell those people that they really weren't in love?
As for whether or not it's love, I think you should reflect on it... analyze your feelings. Is it closer to affection? Is it mere infatuation? Do you truly like him for who he is, or do you like him for what you think he might be? Just ask yourself questions like those... it might not resolve anything, or it might give you a better grasp of your emotions. Either way, a little introspection never hurt anyone.
Parents are wrong. The are utterly and totally wrong. They have absoulutely no right to contradict what we feel, no one can tell anyone how they feel. Love is for everyone. If you did not love, you couldn't live. This world would not exist without love. Everyone has there own idea about love. For parents, it is time. They think that we don't have enough experience. For us, it is caring and respecting them for who they are. They don't understand. Love cannot be restricted. It goes past all the limits of human emotion. And we need more of it.
Hey, hey, hey. I never said I thought you were going to get pregnant. I said parents' worst fear is that you'll get pregnant. In my defense, I don't believe anyone can tell you when you're in love, or not in love. Hell, I fell in love when I was 13, so don't whine to me about that.
I'm just saying be logical. Why would your parents say stuff like that? I mean really, does it require that much thought. Plus, they don't want you getting hurt, which is understandable, yet inevitable. Don't get too annoyed about stuff like that. It's a parent's job to worry, to care.
if i was gunna write to seventeen i wouldnt, but i can write to this, now, and i kno that it will get posted. how many times have parents and teachers warned ppl not to get pregnant. im not that much of an idiot. oh ya, and im 13. for your information, not all kids my age are stupid **** heads that go and get pregnant for no reason. i just dont think that MY parents are right in assuming that i dont understand what love is! i know that understanding love grows as you get older, so does your knowledge in a lot of other things. that doesnt stop you from starting them at an early age does it? you learn, i just dont htink its right for some parents to go ahead and say you have to experience love when ur older when you can experience it now
I agree with blak that adults are wrong when they say that teens can't feel "real" love. Why not? Just because we're their kids? I know that I love my boyfriend, better than I love anyone else. And he loves me the same. So who's to say that what we're feeling is fake? And who's to say that adults can feel more because their older? Because they have experienced more? I know kids my age that have gone through more than many adults; so why do they feel less? You people are so cynical. I don't think that the majority of high school sweethearts end up divorced or on the show "Cops". Please. And just because we're in love, we're not going to end up pregnant, outspoken. You've just been listening to bush and his moral crap too much.
i believe that love is important and applicable to all ages. however, the depth to which you feel and understand any emotion, especially love, deepens with age. you may feel more in love now that you have ever felt in your life. you may feel love more deeply now than some adults (i would guess they would be the cynical miss haversham spinster types). chances are, though, that you'll feel love more deeply later in life. i would agree with your parents that adults are much more likely to understand the feeling of love than a young teenager.
but who cares? you can only define your own emotions by what you've experienced, so go ahead and call it love. just don't be blind to the fact that you'll probably look back at it in 3 or 4 years and realize that you're capable of feeling something much more. and then you'll look back in 10 years and realize that you're even more capable of feeling something much more. and in another 10 years you'll be telling your kids that they don't know anything about love.
you know why people always find happily married high-school sweethearts so cute? because the majority of high school sweethearts that get married usually end up divorced or on the show "Cops" before their 10th anniversery.
How old are you? Twelve, thirteen at most? Of course your parents are going to tell you that love and dating and all that is for adults: Their biggest fear is that you "fall in love" and get yourself pregnant. And if there is anything they can possible do to deter you from the boys for longer, they'll do it. Honestly, be logical. And you think your parents don't know anything about love and being young? Oh boy. Go write to seventeen or something.
