Why do people get married if they already have sex with the person or live with them? What will it change? I mean, what's the point if you have already given yourself to them? It will just cost you more if you want to break up after you're married cause you'll have to pay for a divorce. I've just always thought it was really stupid when people, especially celebrities, live with the boyfriend or girlfriend and then decide to get married. What's the point?????

Ok, so I was a little gun jumpy. I'm sorry if I insulted you, but that is how I feel. I also think that if you get married you will have a stronger bond and be able to live together with out a sense of guilt that I think you would have. I also think that you would be much happier.

Even before recorded history it can be assumed that man made alliances, pacts, deals, and such between tribes. And within those tribes there were people who had ties to one another. Be it by blood or by the earliest form of marriage. It is human nature to bind ourselves to other people through necessity, friendship and love. Why do we form these alliances, these bonds? For security. All the nations of the world do it. America knows that Great Britain is her ally. But it is not enough for her to know it. She must have evidence of that alliance through trade agreements, support for her on international legislation and in forums like the United Nations and NATO. We govern our world this way, because we govern our individual lives this way. Two people may love each other and be fully aware of that love. But marriage offers a stronger sense of security, of permanance. Though with the skyrocketing divorce rate it is more than obvious that nothing but a marriage in which two people are commited for better, worse and forever, will be truly secure, many people still feel it to be more secure.

I do want to get married. I was just asking what was the point of actually getting married if you're already living together and sleeping together. I mean, what changes if ya get married if ya already live together?

"Well as the leader of the People Who Have Had Sex Before Marriage (otherwise known as PWHHSBM), I think I speak for all of my people when I say that we feel extremely sorry for you."

heh..I'm with you Amaris...

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I feel extremely sorry for anyone that has sex before marriage.

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Well as the leader of the People Who Have Had Sex Before Marriage (otherwise known as PWHHSBM), I think I speak for all of my people when I say that we feel extremely sorry for you.

iluvjp, how can you say you don't want to get married. You don't have to have a huge wedding you could just have a small casuall wedding. I mean I think I want that. Nice clothes, none of the puffy white things they where, and all I want is my close family there (mom dad ect.). To think of just living together instead of marrying is stupid.

To think that you would do that is amazing. I hate people who think that they can go from one person to another just having sex. It is stupid!
Seriously stupid

I hate people who think that anything they do doesn't have consiquences. I feel extremely sorry for anyone that has sex before marriage.

I know a few people who say they won't kiss till their at the alter. I don't konw if I will go that far, but come on SAVE YOURSELVES EVERYONE!

Marriage is simply a legal bond; it does not strengthen the love two people have for one another. It's simply a proclamation of unyielding love.. but then, there's divorce.

I think people get married to early, which is why 50% of American marriages get divorced. I suppose people change and get frightened of the thought of spending their lives with one person.

I am wondering the same thing as Amaris.

marriage is meant to cement the bond between two people. If you're in love and you have a huge fight or whatever, it wouldn't be that hard for someone to walk out on the other. But once you go throught he whole ceremony in front of potenetially hundreds of people vowing to remain with that one person, it makes it a lot harder for petty fights etc. to end the relationship. Basicly, its meant to provide stability to a relationship and show your commitement to it. Oh that, and its nice to hear someone tell you how commited they are to you. Once its spoken, its a lot harder to break. OOOH! and peopel don't want to be alone. And when you go through the ceremony of being bonded together with somone, its makes sure you feel a lot less lonely in the years to come. Oh, and one more thing. Marriage usually means a greater degree of stability with-in the family. You can't raise emotionally healthy kids in an unstable enviroment. So, marriage helps the whole breeding process.

Some people like weddings. Some just want to have that commitment. And for others it is just not there cup of tea....

apparently you are the only one that gets my point

thanks

It disturbs me that a lot of people said that marriage is worthless! It's not worthless, it's beautiful. You are supposed to save yourself for marriage, that's the whole point. I see what you're saying iluvjp. If you are already having sex with someone, why get married. Here's something, if you love someone so much as to have sex with them...why not get married first?

My parents never got married. They're committed enough, but they never wanted to get married, couldn't be bothered I guess! Maybe because of their example, marriage is not very important to me either. Yes, I want to spend my life with someone I love and am committed to, but the whole ceremony and fuss of a wedding seems a bit pointless just to say 'we're together' especially as I'm not religious. I guess it's a good way to show everyone else how committed you are, but if you're in love you should both know it anyway, I don't see how it needs a declaration.

I'm not saying I never will get married, because if the right guy came along and he wanted to get married I'm hardly going to say no, and who knows how I'll feel in the future, but marriage is not one of my goals in life. The way I see it relationships can work just fine without it.

Bex

it is suppose to be a binding tie of love, if you ask me, it is pointless. You can have that binding tie without it, but girls and families want the whole ceremony and the whole nine yards...

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Why do people get married if they already have sex with the person or live with them?

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Wait...so are you saying a reason to get married is to have sex?

Well c'mon, iluvjp. Look at the boys in our generation. Consider them, and how completely horrible most of them are, and come up with a better reason to get married to one of them than tax returns. Or cake. Whatever.

Great reasons to get married... tax returns???? What has this world come to!

Some people just finally decide they want the ceromony..

Also, think of all the benefits that married couples get: tax benefits, the right to decide whether or not your spouse is taken off life support, etc. There's a lot of legal benefits to marriage that people don't think about but then realize that they'd like to have.