What do you think about relationships that are on and off? If they are like that are they really worth continuing? Post!

NOT WORTH IT!!!

i don't know how many times i've said this to some of my friends, but if you're in an on/off relationship, then there's obviously something wrong with it... i hear so often young couples saying that they love one another, but what i see is confusion and lies... the truth of the matter is, there is no love without christ... to find a relationship that is true and that will last until death, it has to be one that is preordained by god. pray about it. if you are truly lonely then god will give you the desire of your heart and he will give you someone that is worth your while, and who has qualities that you didn't even know you wanted. so in short, if you have an on off relationship, get out of it, straighten your life out with god and then consider a relationship with the one that god has for you. aslo, remember, god did not plan for all of us to have a bf or gf of husband or wife... some people have a different calling in their life. take for instance the girl at columbine who said that she believed in god and was shot for it. she was only 15 or 16 or so... if she hadn't died that day, thousands of people wouldn't be saved because they wouldn't have heard this courageous story... i am one of those thousands... hearing about how somebody with a gun to their head could still admit that christ is their god inspired me and many others, because it shows that she must have truly known god... and known that she was going to see him face to face soon. i challenge anyone who reads this to get to know christ immediately... it is a wonderful experience. if you know christ, then you will find out what your calling is eventually and whether or not it includes a happy relationship and/or marriage with someone... so if yours is on/off... remember what i told you.

~snoopyD~

Hey Everyone
If a relationship isnt stable chances are its either not a very happy relationship or one of the parnters arent very loyal. If a relationship isnt working though, I wouldnt put my money on that itll last. People are either ment to go out or not, and if the couple can't decide then that aint a good sign. If your young though dump them no one needs a relationship that is shaky when their young.
Cheers Steve

Well, I can't really say, since I've never had one of these on/off relationships...wait a minute...okay, I have, but it was a totally ****ty relationship for a completely different set of reasons. (bleh)

I get the sense that most people our age have generally unhealthy relationships with a lot of weird gender-related power **** going on. From my experience, that itself is not worth it. The continuity becomes irrelevant.

Actually, the relationship I'm in now (almost two years) has seen rough times. We "broke up" (I hate that term) a few times, but I think the longest it ever lasted was six days. And now we've been through it, and stronger than ever (I think...)

So yes, the answer is (once again) that it entirely depends on the situation. Yay!


Love, Jenny

If a relationship if constantly going on and off, chances are that it is not very stable. Why waste your time on something that won't last? Also, when it finally does end, it will hurt a lot worse than if you had cut it off earlier.

TOTALLY depends on the situation. Anyone who is outside a relationship can't guess what is going on between the two people. Couples who might seem to be completely secure to outsiders could actually be on the verge of breaking up. You just never know. But anyway, to get back on topic, if the two people really love each other it will work out, but it'd be better if this was more specific, because there are so many reasons why a relationship can be on and off.

Bex

It all depends on many factors. You need to try and make your questions a little more to the point instead of what if. Like what about age, race issues, money, friends, other peoples influence in the relationship, both parties view of why the relationship is on and off then on then off.

With on and off relationships it depends on why they are on and off. I mean if it's an abusive situation..... say a girl is getting beat up by her boyfriend so she lives him but then he apologizes and she takes him back... blah, blah, blah... then it's not worth it. But sometimes in relationships when you are with someone and then you break up with them you really just needed that time to be apart to see that you really do care about someone and that you really do miss that person. Time away from someone can really show you how much you really need them and how much you don't.

But if it's like we'll go out for two days and then break up for one go out for a day and then break up for half a day, etc. etc. etc. then we really need to just decide what we want because if that's the case then we don't know what it is we want and we aren't mature enough for a relationship.