Okay last night my parents started to argue and my mom left and now my dads gone so im home alone. I dont know where they went or if they will even be back for me...my dad told me they are getting a divorce and i have to pick which one to live with...well to me i would rather live with neither..ill find my nice little cardboard box and live by the side of the road, but how could i get two people that dont listen to me to go to marrage councelling? i will find a way how to pay for it for them, but how could i talk them into going? please help me! thank you...

Missy

You have the right to ask your parents to participate in counseling, but do not try to pay for it yourself. Counseling will only work if they both want it, and if they want it they will pay for it themselves. Tell them that you want them to try counseling, but understand that the ultimate decision is theirs.

It's also possible that they have already had some type of counseling. I found out recently that my parents almost divorced when I was very young; evidently they did marriage counseling, but I can't remember it at all. If this is the case with your parents, it may be the reason they aren't seeking counseling now.

Whatever the reason, it is their decision. You can tell them how you feel, but you can't make them choose counseling if it isn't what they want.

Sorry you're being put in this situation. Can't say I've ever been there before, but I hope what I say makes sense to you. Good luck.

Though i've never been through this before i think it would be alright to try and see if counseling would work. But if not then you may eventually have to choose. It won't be easy but maybe you can find a way to spend time with both of them once this gets figured out. The reason you may not want to live with either right now is bacause they're focuxing on they're problems and forgetting your there. That is definatly wrong on their part but it will blow over. Although your life may never be back to normal and you feel nothing is solid in your life remember that God is always solid in your life and if you talk to him he will try to answer. it might not be in the way you expect but he does hear you and he does love u. Good Luck

Get any scrap of money you can find... Do ANYTHING.

aww it is very unfortunate that your parents are splitting up and im sorry that u have to go through it, but maybe it is for the best, ya know? I myself am a "divorced kid" but my parents got divorced whenmy mom was still pregnant with me so it is all I have ever known. Standing where I am now, I cant imagine my parents being together because I know it would be absolute hell. I know ts hard to deal with the reality of your parents not being together anymore, but with both of your parents being happier, dont you think you will be happier too? As for deciding who to live with.... that sucks, no matter how you look at it. If both your parents decide to stay in the same school district, maybe you can split your time equally? I guess you just have to follow your heart on that one. If you are having trouble communicating with your parents, perhaps try bringing in a mediator of some sort, like a family freind or something might help. I dont really know if this helped, but i will be praying for you. Stay strong.

Did you ever find a church? If so, talk to a youth pastor or just a trusted adult or friend. I don't really know what to say, but I'm praying for you.

that's very sad

but you seem to not really be happy with them, do you think it is a good idea for them to stay together? By that I mean, would your life be better if they were together? Maybe they would be happier apart, and could you deal with it if they were?

thanks, anyone else have any advice?

i dunno if im a good adviser to tell u this one, but maybe you should just refuse to go with any of them... don't talk to them or even try to run away or something.. (but not to a dangerous place. maybe to a house of a friend whom u trust. im sure his/her parents will understand.) then they'll realise thier mistake and probably sort thing out with you... then they''ll listen to you... probably...
some time we should just take radical measures to fix a major problem....

cousling doesn't always help. I know you must be feeling tons of things right now like anger, sadness, and your really hurt but maybe talking to them could help and if it doesn't do you know someone who is more their age who could talk to them on your behalf? Parents don't always listen because of age or they feel it isn't right because you are the child but they do need to know how you are feeling. Are you still in school? Talk to someone there! a guidance cousler. But just so you know this might not make everything better. This might be a long hard hull for both your parents. And if you have to decide which to go with...pick the one who will look after you. Life isn't easy all the time...sometimes we just have to grit our teeth and go tho it. If you need to talk you can email tho this web site. Good luck. And don't let yourself down. I am praying for you.