I have a VERY dysfunctional family, if you don't know:
My Mom-White.
My Dad-Black.
My Step Mom-Korean <married to my Dad>
My Sister-Mexican.

On my Dad's side I have more than 50 cousins, and second cousins that are WAY older than me. I have a lot more cousins I don't know about, and I'm meeting a lot of them by chance.
My Dad played my Mom when they were together, and that's why they're not now. I'm putting pieces of my Dad's story together and it's not a happy one. It turns out all of my uncles saw my Grandpa cheated <ALOT!!!> on my Grandma-so they thought it was okay, too. One of my uncles has 14 kids!

Lately everything within the family has been going crazy. I can't stand my step mom so I moved out two years ago. Now that I'm with my Mom, she has a new bf and he's...very...dirty, disgusting, pig like, nasty, mechanic with the black black fingers from grease, etc. He looks at me like I'm an *object* <thanks to Korith> and has done some small sexual harassing to my Mom's friends. He's going to go to jail for three weeks because of an assault. I'm scarred for my Mom and my sister (shes nine) but my Mom's blindly in love.

In the bible it says to avoid all appearances of evil because your neighbors/other people are judgemental and will only see the bad. If she gets married to him <like she wants to> then I'm changing my name. I already know what I want to change it to. I'm EMBARASSED just to have him around. I respect him as a person and I know God loves him, but NO. I won't go there. He's disrepsectful and invades my privacy and space. Any advice for the lost and confused?

I did leave for a little bit, and Billy I didn't mean it in the wrong way, sry. My Mom's always told me that and made sure that I knew the truth, but she is a bit dumb when it comes to love.

Her bf is an alcoholic and some close friends of hers and mine suspect that he does drugs, because he'll never look anyone in the eye and acts totally wigged out a lot.

I'd never disown my Mom, I 1. Don't like my name anyways: Nakesha Marie C.2. Everyone calls me something different and it gets on my nerves, 3. I don't want to carry my sur names just because one is famous for doing good things, and the other isn't going to exist in two years. So I want to make my own family, with my own name. Even if I ever do get married, I don't think I will but IF, then I still won't change my last name.

[This message was edited by YNLissa on August 28, 2003 at 02:59 PM.]

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In the bible it says to avoid all appearances of evil because your neighbors/other people are judgemental and will only see the bad.

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It is totally wrong to say something like that, I had horrid parents, yet there were so many people who could see my worth through my deeds...even when my deeds were bad. You should not disown your mother for her choices, that's wrong.

However, this guy does sound...ummm...yeah. And I agree with the last post. Not only leave...report it. Don't waste time on trying to show your mom the truth, talk to someone you can trust and report him. People who do this stuff need to be stopped...silence will end nothing.

If he ever tries to do anything to you or your sister, leave. Go stay with a friend, whatever, just leave. Don't wait for a situation to get worse!!!!
Good Luck

-rito