my boyfriend and i are very different. he's a christian and im very agnostic. i'm DEFINATLY the smart one. and he wants to be in the military and i hate war. he says that when he graduates that he's going to basic training for 14 weeks and that he cant even talk to me when he goes. im so scared that they'll break his spirit. not to mention how much i'll miss him. i just wish he knew how much i love him and would rethink it. i mean i dont want him to give up his dream for me. but i cant imagine life without him...

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Originally posted by Hydrok:
Marines-12 weeks
Army-8 weeks
Air Force-6 weeks
Coast Guard-6 weeks
Navy unknown

All are subject to change due to the fact that some people suck and have to stay longer because they dont understand how to grasp simple instructions.

...or because they suck at pull-ups (the reason my bf had to stay an extra week before actually starting the boot camp part of boot camp).

And, the boot camp part is 12 weeks but I was told they were there for an extra week for other stuff.

i know many people that have been killed in the war in iraq. i lost my step brother, two best friends, a cousin, and i have a nother cousin who is still in the war. he used to be funny, talkative and fearless but now...its like he's always out of it. he has nightmares about all the people he's had to kill and all the people that have tried killing him. this isnt meant to scare you i just wanted to share it with someone because ive held it in for so long. i wish you and your boyfriend luck and may god be with you both.

I'm sorry your boyfriend is leaving, but he is doing what he believes is best for his country.You should be proud of him and support him. Also you say you love him yet you think he is dumb and you are not being loving when you say mean things even if he isn't reading it.So good luck.

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Originally posted by ampmaster:
don't worry when he comes back from basic he'll be diffrent but in anything his spirit will be stronger basic isn't to break some one it's to take raw materials smelt it with new skills and turn him or her into a weapon or a tool depending on what he/she is specilizing in within the military. Marine bootcamp is three months long I'm not sure about the other services

Marines-12 weeks
Army-8 weeks
Air Force-6 weeks
Coast Guard-6 weeks
Navy unknown

All are subject to change due to the fact that some people suck and have to stay longer because they dont understand how to grasp simple instructions.

don't worry when he comes back from basic he'll be diffrent but in anything his spirit will be stronger basic isn't to break some one it's to take raw materials smelt it with new skills and turn him or her into a weapon or a tool depending on what he/she is specilizing in within the military. Marine bootcamp is three months long I'm not sure about the other services

THANK YOU, Hydrok and swimem...finally people who know what they're talking about. I told her that boot camp was only 12 weeks and if he was gone for 14 weeks it had to be for something else. Maybe if three people say it, she'll understand!

He might be thinking if after boot camp he was to take some extra training, for example SEALs school or Green Beret school. But that doesn't count as boot camp. And when someone goes off in the military the best thing you can do is show your support. Tell him you'll be there for him when he gets back and that you know he is kicking butt. It doesn't matter what you think about the war, he needs to know you support him.

Hey guess what, I'm in the military, and you are only in boot camp/BMT for a max of 12 weeks unless you royally suck and get recycled, And I cant imagine him loving someone or rather you loving someone that you claim to be stupid.

hm okay.
my brother has wanted to be in the military since he was yey high. my dads also serving and i think it makes my dad proud to see my bro join.
hes going to boot camp this summer, which i think will be very positive. i'll miss him this summer alot, but i totally support him.
its his dream, and its what he wants to do with his life.
i thinky ou sh ould let your boyfriend go into the military. that is his way of giving back to OUR COUNTRY. if wants to it, you have to let him.

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Originally posted by JohnnyIsDead:
ok so u dont understand our relationship at all. and yes he will be gone for 14 weeks because his brother went to basic and i talked to his brother about it. and where do u get off telling me that im not inteligent. i really really dont need this from you and im not going to make him give up his dream. and no it doesnt hurt his self esteem because everytime i call him dumb he calls me a buh(vagina) our relationship is one of a kind and its kindof confusing sometimes. but i do love him and u have no right to tell me i dont.

First of all, the quote you posted along with this wasn't mine, but I'm assuming all of this is directed at me.

I'm telling you the facts---not something some brother of a guy told me. Marine boot camp is the longest: 12 weeks. He can't be going for 14 weeks; maybe he's staying an extra two weeks for something else but it's not basic training.

I can call you unintelligent when it's difficult to read what you write. And why do you care so much what my opinion is? You don't even know me. And it does sound like you're considering making him give up his dream---that's what this whole topic is about!

That is a weird relationship, I have to admit. It sounds like it's not very fun; to me loving someone isn't calling them dumb and having them call me something mean back. I didn't say you didn't love him; I said you might not love him enough that you're going to stay with him forever if you're not willing to let him go into the military. Complete difference.

My boyfriend IS in the military. It isn't too bad, but it's definately different and weird without him here. I miss him to bits, but I know he's doing what he wants and I'll stand by that. What do you mean by "spirit broken"? is that your way of saying that he won't turn into a mentally broken person or an uptight jerk? He prolly does know how much you love him, but there is no way to change a person's mind usually.

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he knows im smarter and i know he's dumb



Well.... Now we all know why he wants to go into the military.



he's wanted to go into the military ever since he could walk. and shut up. im asking to help not to be dumped on by people who think they know everything about us

my God. She said one thing how did you get all that...

My friend's boyfriend is two years older than her and last year he was stationed somewhere that I can't remember and it was her senior prom. He suprised her the night of prom by showing up at her house in a tux and with flowers. Her mom knew he'd be coming to see her but wanted it to be a suprise for Kim (my friend). After he left again it was really hard for her to be away from him but she says she's getting used to it. Try keeping busy Kim is a Journalism and Mass Communications major at NYU and she's been taking on an internship also so she won't just sit around and mope. She didn't want him to go either but she had no choice. Adjusting is tough but possible.

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Originally posted by EarthGoddess:

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he knows im smarter and i know he's dumb

Well.... Now we all know why he wants to go into the military.

he's wanted to go into the military ever since he could walk. and shut up. im asking to help not to be dumped on by people who think they know everything about us

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Originally posted by EarthGoddess:

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he knows im smarter and i know he's dumb

Well.... Now we all know why he wants to go into the military.

ok so u dont understand our relationship at all. and yes he will be gone for 14 weeks because his brother went to basic and i talked to his brother about it. and where do u get off telling me that im not inteligent. i really really dont need this from you and im not going to make him give up his dream. and no it doesnt hurt his self esteem because everytime i call him dumb he calls me a buh(vagina) our relationship is one of a kind and its kindof confusing sometimes. but i do love him and u have no right to tell me i dont.

My boyfriend is leaving for the military on June 13th. I don't want him to go either but He'll be back for 10 days in September. I love him enough that I know we can stand the distance.

You're boyfriend has fudged the truth or at least lied to you a little. He can't be in basic training for 14 weeks; my boyfriend is only going to be in basic training for 12 weeks and he's joining the Marines---they have the longest boot camp. Also, your boyfriend can write you letters and you can write him letters. He can't call you but you can communicate through the mail.

You really shouldn't be so stuck on him that you "can't imagine life without him." I mean, I'm sad that mine is leaving but I know I can manage without him there; the world will just be a little grayer than usual with him gone. Don't make him give up on his dream; remember, you may not be with him forever. This is what he wants to do; if you can't stand to be without him then obviously you don't love him enough to stand the distance and test of time. If you truly loved him as much as you say you do, you'd let him live his dream.

Grades don't necessarily determine intelligence. You certainly don't speak intelligently. And it can't be good for his self-esteem if you always tell him you're smarter and he's dumb.

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he knows im smarter and i know he's dumb

Well.... Now we all know why he wants to go into the military.

um YEAH im the smarter one. he took Physics which he failed and i took Physics Honors which i passed with an A. he knows im smarter and i know he's dumb but i love him all the more cuz he's soooooooo adorable

Someone I know got to call home from basic training because he had to go to the hospital because he fell over spitting blood at one point. He went back to basic training after that.

So there is a chance your boyfriend will be able to call you.

That probably doesn't help...