Well I dont mean to start another boring and attention grabbing conversation on here but all I would really like is help form a few people and if you could help me..thanks! Anyways my problem is my friends..I am 14 and only have older friends(around the ages of 17-19)and the fact that they are all gone to college now is bugging me non stop. I cry myself to sleep almost everynight because I miss them so much. What should I do? How do I keep in contact with people that live at least 45 minutes away...o and to add onto this..my sister is moving in the summer! Bummer...but if you can help..please do!

ya...i am 14 and my best friend left for collage.....it sucks, but i know how you feel....

I hope things are going better now, tell your friends to come visit you! I had to drive 12 and 1/2 hours to come see my bestest friend/cousin. They suck if they don't come visit you and you deserve better friends!

Friends essentially contribute to the desecration of one's life.

Depending on others will not help you later on in life, kiddies.

Haha, well that's good you have friends older than you. But i would suggest these things(which you probably already know) there are little things i like to call e-mail, instant messenging, phone, cell.....even walkie talkies! schedule something to do with them each weekend. I mean, be gladit's only 45 minutes, so you need to cherish the time you have with them, pretty soon they'll be gone with a job. So live it up!

E-mail them, write them letters, call them, there are at least a million different ways!

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It's about this boy named Charlie going through his first year of high school and all his friends and his sister are seniors, so they have to leave him at the end. Your story really reminded me of the book so I thought you'd want to check it out. And don't worry, I didn't reveal everything.

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I know! Words can not describe how beautiful that book is.

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Originally posted by EarthGoddess:
I think you should read The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Even though it would probably make you even more depressed. Oh well.

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Oh my god the most amazing book ever written. It's my all-time favorite book. It's jsut genius.

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Originally posted by EarthGoddess:
I think you should read The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Even though it would probably make you even more depressed. Oh well.

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Why was is it all about? Maybe I will get it if u let me know more about it

I think you should read The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Even though it would probably make you even more depressed. Oh well.

Yeah, Cranberry, I know how you feel, too. I have 7 older brothers and sisters - I am the youngest. While growing up, everything was great because I had all my family with me. But, when they moved on (I hate saying "move on" because it sounds like it is the end, but it is only temporary) it is so depressing. Whether it was going to college, moving into an apartment/house, traveling abroad, etc., I felt like it was the end of a great relationship. At the time, I became really very sad and depressed, not realizing that it was truly not "the end" of those relationships. Somehow, things always turned out for the best. You will soon realize that it is not as bad as you thought it would be. You'll probably see your friends more often than you expected, and you'll probably gain new friends. Just have faith that it will work out.

I'm sorry to hear that your in the same situation as I am. It really does suck. If there is any way I could help you let me know..and I ask for the same in return if thats alright. I will keep trying my hardest to get over them because I know we wont be together forever,although thats what I really would like,I know I will not get so *o well* for me!

Aww!! I had the same thing happen to me. Since I'm on cross country most of my friends were in the older groups. I made new friends in my age group as I matured more, yes I know I'm only 15 but I think I'm fairly mature. Also my two brothers and I were never very close but my world stopped when they went off to college. My oldest brother graduated from Clemson and got married just this past summer and he now lives in Georgia (3 1/2 hours away from me!) it makes me so sad! Plus my other borhter never really completed college but dropped out of 2 and lived at home until a couple of months ago when he moved into an apartment like 20 minutes away from my house. I still miss him like crazy! I wish I could drive! My parents can't just drop everything and take me to visit them either. It sucks because I can really open up to my brothers more than I can to my parents. I think sometimes you just need an older brother (or sister-in-law) to talk to. I miss you Matty and Bubby! And Steff Steff, you know you can always come to me! You know the number! I love you!

Cranberry, you ust have to keep taking to them. I'l be in the same situation in not too long. I'm supposed to be afreshman but all my friends are juniors and seniors. But don't worry about it. it's just like having long distance friendships. Just because they live far away doesn't mean you can't talk on the phone or hang out when they're around. plus, they can drive which is always nice.

I feel for you, cranberry. I went through the same thing in high school: befriending a group of Juniors seemed very wise as a Freshman, but when I became a Junior myself it became very lonely. Try to make some new friends closer to your age, and as for your old ones, I recommend AIM. It's how I keep in touch with all my buds in college. Just remember that you'll be getting ready to pack up and join them sooner than you think. Of course, if you're only fourteen, they may well have moved on by the time you get there, but some will be bound to stick around and work for higher degrees.

You could also call them up and ask them to give you a tour of the campus, if you haven't already; they'd probably be delighted. Forty minutes can seem like a long drive, but it's really not so bad.

Ya i guess you are right! I have to learn to make new friends but it very hard because these people are like my life and my world..so i dont know how easy this is going to be but i will take your advice and try finding some new friends my age. Thanks!

I know how you feel, most of my friends graduated last year. try to make some friends your own age, but maybe hang with your old friends on weekends or talk to them online sometimes.