I'm 16 and in high-school so I have found it extremely difficult to get anyone to understand my relationship with my boyfriend (he is 18 and I haven't seen him for three months because he has been in Marine boot camp...he comes on Friday!!!).

It's not your typical high-school romance. We're not simply boyfriend and girlfriend. It's so much more and that sounds so corny that no one ever gets it. So I wrote this passage I'm about to share in my blog one day as a final attempt to express what we really have and I think it may be one of the best things I've written before. So I thought I would post it on here to see if I could grab some people's attentions.

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You guys (all of my friends) just have absolutely no idea what it is like to have someone you love so much but not even be able to call them on the phone...to have to wait on a weekly basis just for a short letter from him. It's painful. But I think the phrase, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true in my case - even just the prospect of seeing him is exciting. Even the idea that I might get a 5min. phone call is exciting. I love just getting a short letter once and awhile; when I started getting one a week, that was even better. When you compare that to just like three months ago when he called me every night and I saw him every day and it was no big deal....it really makes you appreciate a single letter, a rare phone call. Like I said, it's surreal. It's a surreal feeling to be at a football game where couples feel like just being bleachers apart from their significant other who's in a different section in the band is too far, where you see couples talking to each other face-to-face and they take it for granted, where you see couples fighting and not realizing that they don't have as much time to be together as they think....seeing all of that and then knowing that bleachers is nothing compared to hundreds of miles and talking face-to-face would be a dream come true and that when your man is home there's no way in hell you're going to fight with him because 10 days is too short of a time to waste it fighting with anyone...it's just a crazy feeling. When you can feel the appreciation for love that I have now - that's when you know it's real. That's when you know he's worth the wait. That's when you know he's worth marrying because why would you want to spend anymore of your life apart from him?

Forget seeing me between September 21st and October 4th. I'm not sharing those ten days with anyone else.

If you ever feel it then you'll know it's real.

I don't really think there is such a thing as true love. If there is, we can all be immortal.

To add even more to the story now...

Since I wrote this, my boyfriend has returned from boot camp for 10 (wonderful) days and left again for Camp Lejune. After 3 weeks of no contact, he was finally able to call me Tuesday when he was on the bus to Virginia Beach. He is there for his school (six months or longer depending on when his class actually starts). The next time I will see him will be December 16th and he will be home for 20 days. We are still going strong and have been together for 13 months now. He told me last night that he is planning on proposing to me within the next 8 months. But I don't plan to get married until after my first year or two of college.

I'm still very very very much in love with him and I am grateful for every minute I get to speak to him.

True love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, but trusting them not to.

Of course. Just as easily as you can love all aspects of a person, you can hate all aspects of a person.

Hate is much more complex, obviously, because it takes much more energy to exert, for most.

If true love exists, does true hate exist as well?

I auctually sort of know what that feels like..
see...
I'm in love with best friend and he's in love with me.
but he lives really far away now..
and my friends are always like "y'know, he could be doing ANYTHING and you wouldnt know about it." but they dont really get it..
we arent just a couple of kids with a crush.
It's..unexplainable. and they dont get that when i'm IMing him, it's the best part of my week. and they dont understand that i cant go somewhere with them because i'm talking with him.
all week i think what i'm going to say to him.

so i have sympathy for you..

Yea, I know how it feels to have people ask dumb questions but you know how people are, they really want to try to understand but sometimes, they just can't until they experienced it like you said.

I'll pray for you along praying for my own situation and praying for everyone else. LoL, my prayers are long. They say that a prayer is the most powerful thing. I think you guys will do fine without it but you know.

They don't get mad, Apology.

They just ask dumb questions like, "Don't you miss him a lot?" and "Isn't it hard?" And other stuff like that and it's just annoying. It shows how much they don't understand, you know? They try but this is the sort of thing you don't get unless you've experienced.

Anyway, thanks for the comments and please continue. I like getting feedback. And we brought him home yesterday so I feel very blessed to have the next ten days to spend him. He's amazing.

Yogore is right, that was very well written and I unnderstood it pretty well and I am not that smart.

Not a lot of people can feel true love during high school. It's special that you have the chance to feel that and you are one of the few lucky ones who is able to experience that. Not saying, you got it so easy, your situation is very different than the normal situation between two people in love. However, I think your situation makes the love even stronger. I'm happy for you and I wish you the best of luck

There are a lot of who were faced or are facing the same thing or something like it. It's rare but it happens to some people. It's hard but I think these types of relationships are the best.

Do you friends get mad or do they just not understand?

If your friends get mad then maybe it's because of the way you say it. Not saying anything bad, but you know how you have to be careful what to say because people get the wrong idea?

Maybe this might help them to understand try changing this:

quote:

You guys (all of my friends) just have absolutely no idea what it is like to have someone you love so much but

They might not be able to even remotely unerstand what you are facing but some people get annoyed when other people say that they can not possibly understand what the other person is facing.

Try leaving that out or rewrite somehow.

What I have noticed is that people get annoyed by people who say something like no one understands. The person feels like the other person is whining about their life and not letting no one in because they believe no one understands. I don't think that is the case with you though. I don't think that you think your the only one who is facing this situation, you know there are others like you. I don't think that your whining and I don't think that you see it as no one understanding you. Your too mature for that but people misunderstand others all the time so your friends might be thinking just the opposite.

I hope that helps...

If the person is mature enough, anyone can have true love. I think I have it but again my situation is different also. I just don't have hope that I will ever get my true love or maybe he isn't my true love. I really can' tell the future. It's not like yours but it's not your everyday thing.

True love knows no age.

Thank you for the pretty compliments yogore. You're wonderful.

And it's not quite "a while away" anymore...He's been gone for 99 days and I only have four to wait until I see him. So YAY for that. It's all I can think about or talk about...so yeah.

THANKS again!!!

I think that's very well written and you make some excellent points. You are obviously wise beyond your years and your boyfriend is very lucky to have someone as dedicated as you. I knwo it's a while a way, but I hope seeing him is everything you hope it to be.