when i was in 7th grade i met this guy named jacob. when i first saw him which was the first day of school i liked him.in class i would daydream about him all my friends would say foreget it it is never going to happen i was about to give up on him when one day at UIL competition he started to hang out. he made me laugh so much. when i got up to go outside or to the gym he would go with me. i never suspected the he liked me i just thought he was just a really friendly guy. when i went to my event he didn't know i left and when i came out he was standing there waiting for me. he asked were i went and told me that he got lonly. on the bus comeing back he told me that he like me. i felt like cinderella and it was almost midnight because the next monday he was suppose to be moving so we didn't go out. when i got home that night i cryed my self to sleep because i have liked him for so long and now he likes me back and he is freaking moving. well friday night my parents went out to eat and all other stuff and i stayed home. i talked to him on the phone almost three hours. he told me that he like my smile and my attitude because he never sees me sad or down or mad. i asked him when he was going to come back to our school and he said that he wasn't going to move anymore. he said that he got in the car and looked all depressed and said that he didn't want to mov and his mom said that he didn't have to if he didn't want to. i was so happy when he told me that because i liked him so much. obe the weekend we talked for about all day. i said i guess we could start going out now. that week was the best week of my life. the both of us had never had our first kiss so we thought that this would be the realationship that we would get ours. then one day at a basketball game he leaned over and kissed me when we were in a class room with our friend.i thought i had died and gone to heaven. then it all went down hill. this big rumor got spread around and he broke up with me. i was inlove with him and was about to tell him before he did that. i thought i was going to die. it has been a month since the break up and i am still not over him i tell myself that i am but im not. my friends say that i need to find someone else but i can't stop thinking about him and now its almost valentine's day and it's really hard because i see all the time and it breaks my heart because i think back to all those fun andromantic time we had spent together. i try to talk to him but he won't talk to me and t is making me ma because if i stat to talk to him i can get over him, what should i do am i still in love with him or something please help me because i might go insane noise mail me if you have a response

I'll say again: "I don't think anyone can say for sure if something is or isn't love unless they've actually experienced it."

A person can't make judgment calls regarding another's emotional state. You can't do it with depression, and you can't do it with love.

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Originally posted by Katie60826:
yall have really helped me with this situation but i know what love is i have a 23 year old sister and she has taught me many things and i know this was love

And your sister knows jack about love too. What you experienced was a crush.

This is what is wrong with the world today. Everyone keeps throwing the word 'Love' around like it's nothing, to the point where it has lost its meaning. And it pisses me off to no end...

I am in complete and total agreement with you.

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Originally posted by Katie60826:
yall have really helped me with this situation but i know what love is i have a 23 year old sister and she has taught me many things and i know this was love

And your sister knows jack about love too. What you experienced was a crush.

This is what is wrong with the world today. Everyone keeps throwing the word 'Love' around like it's nothing, to the point where it has lost its meaning. And it pisses me off to no end...

i am really mature for my age so that's how i know this was love but wish me luck on friday because i have cheerleadng tryouts i hope i make it again

yall have really helped me with this situation but i know what love is i have a 23 year old sister and she has taught me many things and i know this was love

Love is many things because there isn't just one type of romantic love. What Katie was describing is known as passionate love. It could very well just be a crush, but passionate love shares some of the same characteristics (intense feelings upon seeing a person, etc.). Over the course of a relationship, passionate love often gives way to companionate love, which is characterized by caring for the needs and desires of a person's partner.

It's a complex thing, and I don't think anyone can say for sure if something is or isn't love unless they've actually experienced it.

No.

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Originally posted by Katie60826:
the defenition of love is the feeling that you can't help but smile and you get butterflies when you see that person or think about them. that's what hapened to me and i oved him abd i couldn't get him out of me mind and i couldn't stop smiling so to me 13 is the point were you kno wwhat love is and can feel it

Wrong. That is a childish crush. Love is when you'd sacrifice everything in the world for someone. Love is when you put their life above and beyond your own. Love is when you dedicate your life, your whole being and soul to this person for eternity.

Love is not sex. Love is not butterflies in your stomach. Love is not smiles. Love is joyous, yet painful. It is the greatest thing in the world, and the worst. Love is a battlefield! (Thank you, Pat Benatar)

This is why love is not something that a 13 year old can even begin to fathom.

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Originally posted by Katie60826:
the defenition of love is the feeling that you can't help but smile and you get butterflies when you see that person or think about them. that's what hapened to me and i oved him abd i couldn't get him out of me mind and i couldn't stop smiling so to me 13 is the point were you kno wwhat love is and can feel it

I would like to know where you got that defintion because you are totally wrong. Refer to my last post to find a somewhat more acurate definition of love.

the defenition of love is the feeling that you can't help but smile and you get butterflies when you see that person or think about them. that's what hapened to me and i oved him abd i couldn't get him out of me mind and i couldn't stop smiling so to me 13 is the point were you kno wwhat love is and can feel it

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Originally posted by Katie60826:
i thin you can fall in love at any age just as longs as you nw what love is and sorry ikki14read i jumped on you iwas mad that night

I fell in love for the first time at 8 years old. We got married, but then we fell out of love and got divorced at 9 years old.

Give me a break. Most adults are incapable of being in love much less 13 year olds. 13 is way too young. You fall in love with someone because of their values that you share. Not because he gave you his extra sandwich at lunch. Boys and girls are being pressured into maturity too early these days because of broken families and messed up parents and media role models.

You have the rest of their lives to find someone, don't waste your time at 13 on something that has very little chance of lasting more than 2 weeks.

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But I know 13 is too young. If you don't agree, then you should support 13 years old being able to marry.

False correlation. Love does not need to lead to marriage.

Besides, that happens all the time in certain areas of the world. Ironically, it's not for love most of the time...

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Just a question: at what age does it become possible to fall in love?

Seeing as Katie is only 13, she is too young to fall in love. At what age are you not too young to be in love? I don't know. But I know 13 is too young. If you don't agree, then you should support 13 years old being able to marry.

i thin you can fall in love at any age just as longs as you nw what love is and sorry ikki14read i jumped on you iwas mad that night

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Originally posted by notsojoey:
Too young for love.

Just a question: at what age does it become possible to fall in love? Is there a love hormone that becomes activated at some point in life?

Seriously, blanket statements like that are never universally correct.

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me and jacob are frineds now we talk all the time and he doesn't care plus i got that other boyfriend back so ikki14reed get off me ass

Well, if he's fine with it, then go ahead. I was just thinking that if someone put a pic of me up on a website and I didn't know about it, I'd not be particularly happy.

I'm glad your life is working out for you and that you and he are friends.

me and jacob are frineds now we talk all the time and he doesn't care plus i got that other boyfriend back so ikki14reed get off me ass

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that boyfriend that i got we broke up i still like jacob go to my profile and you can see a picture of jacob

You know, I don't know how much Jacob would appreciate you putting a picture up on a website of him.

Just a thought.

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It'll never work. Get that through your skull.

Fantastic point.