theres this guy n i dunno if i luv him. i have then havent then have then havent! i mean hes kissed me twice but still procedes 2 like other gurlz that dont like him. im 2 shy 2 ask how he feels so do u no wat he feels? i wanted 2 ask cas i have liked/luved him on n off for 2 yrs!! n if he "likes" me then i may ask him out. or should i ask him out? HELP PLZ!!!!!

First of all, I know that most girls will meet a guy and automatically assume he's the one so don't rush into it just take it easy. Don't confuse love with lust which is a common mistake for most teenage girls are age and remember their really are other fish in the sea with a great body and even better personlity who won't flirt with other girls you've just got to take the time to look.

I know it sounds impossible (especially coming from me) but forget him and move on! Youve got plenty other options, for gosh sakes! Speaking of which, why dont u send a few my way if you dont want them?! lol

if you have to ask yourself if it's love then it's not.

the easiest way is: go up to him and ask him!if it doens't work, u guys can still be good friends

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well from my experience with doing what guys do...being a jackass...it wasn't that good. I wasn't even trying to make him jealous or anything, but apparently, he got really mad at the fact that I was innocently talking to my friend Matt. For the rest of the day, he was apparently giving me the evil eye and saying how he was mad at me. Hell, he even wrote a paper for language class about my bull****, apparently. I mean, not just about the Matt thing, but everything that had happened that made him upset at me since he told me how he felt for me. But the breaking point was when I talked to Matt...although this guy had another girl's head in his lap at the same time that I was talking to Matt...so go figure. But I would not do the whole flirt with other guys to get him jealous thing, because then you might be in the position that i am now...five days left of school and absolutely no ****ing idea how he feels for you, and beating your brains out because you know you didn't do anything wrong to him, yet you want to apoligize to him, because he's your first love, and he matters so much to you. Or at least that's what happening to me. Stupid boys. Make me feel guilty when I know I shouldn't.

Um, this doesn't really sound like your asking, if you love him, it's more does he love you.

For me, I would say don't jump into love just yet. Fix this problem first okay? I'm not saying you can't love him but you have to fix this problem first before talking about love. That's what I think but does it really matter?

Um, you could do lots of things, it depends on the person you are and what you feel more conformable doing.

1. You could play "Hard Ball" and do exactly what he does and see how he reacts to it. That will show you if he at least cares about what you are doing. It won't show if he loves you though.

2. You could break up with him and see how he takes the break up. That will show if he really enjoyed you as a girlfriend and wants you back or if you were just a girl to date while he found someone he thinks is better. That would still not show you if he loves you though.

3. You could tell him how you feel and how much it hurts when he does that to you. Open up to him and he might open up to you. If he doesn't open up then don't push him into answering why he does that to you or how he really feels about you. Don't push him to open up. He will do it when he is ready. You know what will happen if you push so please don't do it. I know it might be hard but you just can't do it. I know this might sound hard to believe but he might have a good explanation to why he does that to you and he probably will open up to you sooner or later.

4. Tell him that you really can't take this anymore and that maybe you two need a break. Make this break as understandable as possible. If he agrees that you both need a break then both of you could give the dos and don'ts of this break so there won't be any problems later.

What I would do: I would talk to him about this so I would do number 3. I will tell him how much it hurts me when he does that to me. That I really care about him but I won't tell him that I love him because you said it yourself, your not sure. So if I tell him that I love him and I'm not sure about that then I might be mistaken later on and I never did love him in that way and I would be in this whole mess. Also, you might know you love him but you saying it might scare him away. It would scare me for sure and I'm a girl, it's probably the same for some guys too. So I would lay off the love until you are sure you love him and you are sure he will not be scared away when you say that you love him. Really tell him how much you care about him and how much he means to you. Tell him that it hurts and you can't take what he does anymore. Give him time to talk too, don't do all the talking. Try to find a way to fix this, TOGETHER.

Okay well hope that helps but I bit it didn't so I'm ending,

Bye N Have a nice day

I would not tell some guy I love him if I wasn't sure if I really did. Think about it this way: could you live without him in your life? could you see him as your future husband (I'm not saying for sure)? I agree that ya'll should just chill and be friends for awhile.

like ive told u b4, he doesnt know what he wants and neither do u, so chill for awhile and maybe things will just work themselves out.
Love ya much!
Amanda