So me and this guy dated for about 4 months and a few weeks ago we broke up because he got drunk read a few messages in my phone about some guy wanting to be with me and just totally flipped!!!! he was yelling at me he broke my cell phone into about 8 pieaces and kept just pushing me around. But a few days ago i saw him and just cried becuase i want to be with him and now we have talked things out and are abck together but everyone of my friends tells me im stupid and i shouldnt be with a screw up like him! when we started nearing our 3rd month i started drinking with him and getting high with him just so we had another way to bond and now i no thats not a good idea!! so we are back together and he isnt going to make me do it any more!!! i love him with all my heart and want to be with him more then anything in the world!!! So what do i do take the wrap from my friends or say fuck you to being happy!!!!

Question:
Should i forget what people say and be with the guy i love or should i dump his ass and find some other fairy tale guy that people say are out there!!!

Choices:
Yes i should be with him
No i shouldnt be with him
maybe you should take some time to think about it

 

Think about it, Would you like to be living the rest of your life with a man that gets drunk and is abusive all the time? Give it time, stop going out with him, give it 5 months, if you still love him with all your heart and can't stop thinking about him... Then go back. But i will bet you anything, that you will gradually start to forget him, it will be extremely difficult the first few months.. but get busy, start doing things, get involved with some classes or something... Get your mind off of him, and your life will be better. Stop trying so hard to look for someone you can love.

if you have to be high or drunk to be HAPPY together then maybe its time to find someone you can be sobber too.i don't think you can't find happiness w/out him ur just not willing to search for it. Remember
Edith Wharton:
If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time.

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omg if a big part of your relationship or at least a part of it; is getting high, then HELL NO, hes just trying to fuck up his life kuz its his only way to control it and feel good about it but dont let him enjoy an unhealthy lifestyle with you! just leave him! and I betcha if you watch him enough He'll look so much worst then you do. And you'll feel so much better when you realize how much of a fuck up he is and how good of a job you did not trying to be like him.

Okay darling, be his friend, no more. Be there for him, don't give him power over you though by letting him know how you feel. People chang,e and he may, but don't put yourself under his foot while you are waiting for him to.

Shade I feel like everything I say you always have a come back. I feel like we are relatd in a way

It takes two to tango, BT.

he's a bitch and typically if he does it when he is drunk then that is what he really does when he gets mad. Don't take that shit for nothing. FOr your safety don't get back with his ass

It's obviously the alchohol that is the problem. Stop drinking.