even after's it's been a while...do you reply?

Do you say hi back?

Do you ignore it because you're trying to move on?

Do you reply and try to stay in touch, possibly even try re-kindling your friendship?

Would you do it if they weren't so clingy? (A perspective you might have gotten after judging them because they did stupid things because they were heartbroken and miserable and couldn't really control their actions.)

Reply, try to be their friend but nothing more than that.

Its the persons choice. My friend and my boyfriend
are ex's.[I know, what kind of friend am I?..well she treated him like shit so shut up]
and they're always txting each other. Well shes
the one who txtes him because she still like him, but hes really cool with the whole situation and replies.I trust him, I know he's mine and there's nothing that she can do to change that.

well wat i do is lay low for them for a while. and then i would slowly start talking to them agin becouse i now wat u were goin i have had this happen to as well. so i just gave them a brake and now we are friend

yeah i dont even know, i would honestly have no clue as to what to do exactly in that situation

i would mabye try to talk to them but i would be hard for me

I say YES
because I went through this, wondering if the "one"had slipped away and that I had made a big mistake. But once we started talking again I realized he was a completely different person. The guy that I had been dreamign of, obsessing over didn't even exist anymore. It helped me move on and be grateful for what I have in my life.

Ouch. :/ But yeah, you DO have the upper hand.

Wow, that sucks, I hate when friendships go bad just because the relationship just kinda sucked. But yeah i would have dumped him as a friend. You kind of have the upper hand with being friends with his girlfriend and all.

Bah. I know. It's enough to make you give up on men :P

Wow, that's a bit melodramatic. Looks like that first guy wasn't ready for a relationship until he'd already sabotaged one.

While we're talking about relationships gone wrong... :P

I liked this guy for something like 3 years, but he kept turning me down, because we were pretty close mates and he didn't want to ruin that. One day, he finally agreed, and I don't think I've been happier (until last August).
4 months later, he dumps me over MSN (3 days before our anniversary! He didn't remember it anyway). The sad thing is, I didn't even realise he was dumping me until he actually said it. The whole thing was about how he didn't want to keep sneaking around my father's back (total Asian parent, won't let me date), which was complete bullshit cos as I said we'd been close, so he'd already known how Daddy dearest was. I tried to get him back, which didn't work.
Fast-track to May (he dumped me in April), and some random chick adds me on Myspace. And it turns out, she's his girlfriend. He didn't even tell me, just let me find out by myself.
After that, I just plain refused to see him, which was pretty hard since his family had become like my family.
In August, my current boyfriend asked me out (for the 50millionth time). I had kept rejecting him, because of how I have a reputation for being a heartbreaker (not my fault, I swear!), but it was all on the flip of a coin. I agreed, and it was all good.
In September, we went back to visit my ex, because I really missed being a part of his family. I also met his girlfriend for the first time, as well as some friends I didn't even realise he had (so much for 'close').
And... well, Ben (my current love) hates Rob (the ex) and the feeling is reciprocated. I talk to Mary (Rob's girlfriend) more than I talk to him! >< men.

[edit] Oh... Since the 'incident', Rob doesn't contact me. At all. I find out everything from his girlfriend and mother, who care more about me than he does. Chyeah, friendship over.[/edit]

That's the entire twisted story of that.

Yeah some people are really fucked up. But what are we going to do about it, like shit happens.
Im sorry to hear about that, like wow what a cold hearted witch.
But yeah i always get a complete jerk off and the first girl i decide to be with, she is amazing, and nothing compared to those other people. ya know

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Originally posted by TeenMisfit91:
Yeah thats good. So are you two like becoming friends again, just wondering, if its too personal you dont have to answer.

Oh yeah and those werent my worst relationships haha, but i lived through them both and now have a caring ,respectful, amazing, beautiful girlfriend, i think ive given up on guys.

Eh us guys aren't that bad, but there's a rotten apple in every batch. You seem to have a habit of picking the bad ones :P

Well no, we don't talk at all. After she told me to shove a telephone up my ass and to "suck a big fat" you know, I kind of gave up on it. Which is my point: some people are just fucked-up. Your two exs, MY ex. You're nice to someone, they treat you like crap. Fine. Here's the middle finger for those wastes of human genes.

Yeah thats good. So are you two like becoming friends again, just wondering, if its too personal you dont have to answer.

Oh yeah and those werent my worst relationships haha, but i lived through them both and now have a caring ,respectful, amazing, beautiful girlfriend, i think ive given up on guys.

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Originally posted by TeenMisfit91:
I guess it would depend on how badly you need to get over that person, how long it has been since you broke up, and why you broke up. Ive totally ignored an ex, because he hit me, then another ex showed up, we broke up because of a fight, he cheated on me, and i replied back to him. So it depends on how you feel, i wouldnt worry too much on the other person, just worry about how you feel.

Lol thanks. I did reply actually and I was nice in my reply too but I got a long email that was made-up of insults for no apparent reason. So *shrugs*. I have no idea WHY someone would send a nice email, get a nice reply and reply with a string of insults involving the insertion of objects in various places and I don't rightly wanna know.

By the way, ughh, if some guy cheats on you, or hits you? Slap him one right in the nuts; if he hits you call police, if he cheats on you publicly break-up with him and then send his reputation down the toilet. I'm sorry but I don't think ANYONE deserves either.

I guess it would depend on how badly you need to get over that person, how long it has been since you broke up, and why you broke up. Ive totally ignored an ex, because he hit me, then another ex showed up, we broke up because of a fight, he cheated on me, and i replied back to him. So it depends on how you feel, i wouldnt worry too much on the other person, just worry about how you feel.

Well, she replied. And wow. Might I advise anyone NOT to reply in a nice tone to anyone? Honestly. All I did was be nice to her during the whole relationship, everyone says that. But yeah, the only reason she wanted me to reply was to make sure I was alive and then swear at me. I have no idea why. Now I'll ignore her.

Btw im talking about the ex-girlfriend that messaged me lol, the one I referred to two posts down. Not Sphinx.

ohhh ok. it all makes a little more sense now

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Originally posted by hannahj24:
OMG! I am sooo confused at what is happening here!

I know Sphinx IRL, and she thinks this topic is about her. It's not. I didn't even know Sphinx was who she was till yesterday. That's just it

I'm talking about an ex who's emailed me on Facebook and I was wondering if not replying would hurt her or not.