Am I the only one who has a super sucky love life? The guy I like right now, and I really really like him, has a girlfriend and he told me that he thinks of me as a super-close friend but not more. All that after gonig out with a guy, dumping him, then him getting over me and me liking him for a long time after (sadness ensues), then there were like 4 other things that just didn't work out either the guy was using me or plenty of other situations. I'm so damn sick of this. Why can't something just work out for me? I know I'm young still but I can't understand how I connect so well with this guy, we have tons of fun together, we talk about really personal stuff and other things, we really trust eachother, we have a lot in common, and we're just perfect for eachother. But here he is going out with a girl who's kind of a wh0re and just asks out guys she likes spur of the momently and I know she's not good for him. I've known her for a long time and I know that no matter how much he likes her now it's nothing compared to what he and I could probably have if he felt like I do about him(compatibility factor). It just isn't fair. I hate this...I just want to isolate myself from humanity.
Sorry that that was such a complaintive rant but I had to get it all off my chest and I want to know if anyone here can relate or has any suggestions on how to isolate myself or get over this sh!t. Or maybe get this guy to realize that we're right for eachother
Thanks,
~Quebbah~

Socrates makes a good point.

Quebarda: Patience is good. It sounds like he'll come around. But remember it's his choice. Don't push him.

Bex

Could sexism be the reason you all have bad luck with guys? I tried being a misogynist once and it didn't work out too well. You only decrease your chances by hating males.

I have really bad luck with girls. I know how ya feel. Its not fair.

The Man Show? What's that? Love, Jen.

my friends and i have a (false) saying about my relationship with guys
sunshine doesnt like boys.
precisely. boys are the scum of the earth.
theory:
all men should be made to live underground and used only for breeding purposes.
i am also against the man show. i will stop at nothing to get that show off the air.
besides, the only girls boys like are
1. to put it lightly, hookers
2. ****s
which is why they suck beyond all belief.

It's too bad we can't immobilize their brains...oh wait! We don't need to! (Do I sound bitter? ) Love, Jen.

that's an absolutely great idea. oh, and when we don't need them, just tie them up AND drug them....so that way they won't say or DO anything stupid.

our schemes are wonderfully evil.


!.suzy.!

Hmph. I suppose we would have to keep a few. They could be drugged so they couldn't open their mouths most of the time. Jen.

you go, jen!! lol......but only the nicest ones, that are really not that great at all universally, should be saved for reproductional purposes. either kill all males and eliminate yourselves as well in the aftermath, or save a couple and we can all live happily ever after most of the time.

what a tough decision.


!.suzy.!

All the ****ing males should be killed and burned in pyres. Or baked alive. Or something. Jackasses. Jen.

"It just isn't fair. I hate this...I just want to isolate myself from humanity."

exactly how i feel!! screw guys, all the jerks for some reason flock to me, and i keep getting burned and burned. and now i actually do like someone, and he loves (omg i still can't believe it), but we've decided to remain friends until we can get local because he lives all the way on the other side of the country. i hate that we're so far because he's the best thing i've ever had, but we do plan to get together later on. meanwhile it f*cking sucks, cuz i feel so alone. heh, sorry now i went off on my own rant, but i noe how you feel. i guess we just have to stay hopeful and noe that there is someone out there for us. as for that guy you like, dont lose hope. maybe they'll break up or whatever. i mean i don't really wish it on them, but you never noe. we're still young enough to have the rest of our lives to look forward to.

good luck,
!.suzy.!

See, you've already got the advantage over the situation b/c you are being strong about it. He will see that and b/c you aren't flipping... it will spark his interest. B/C of hanging out with guys all my life <2 older brothers and their friends> I've learned one thing about guys.... If they know they can have a girl the minute they say.. "Lets date", they are more likely to date someone else whom might give them a challenge. Then they know they always have those whom are always there to fall back on. Make him work for it...
He will wake up. If your this passionate about it.. and your feelings are this strong... He's gotta come through!
But more power to you for being so strong! It's awesome!

We've been talking, and he likes me as a girlfriend. I don't know how much, but right now things are too confusing for him:
He has a girlfriend who he likes but I know is only going to hurt him (I've tried to tell him)
He still (really) likes another girl who doesn't deserve someone as wonderful as he is (she's a b!tch)
I guess until things get sorted out I can be patient, which is weird because normally I get really upset and frustrated int hese situations but somehow I care about him so much that just the thought maybe having him some day and even just his friendship keeps me patient. That's kinda rare for me to not freak out about these things. I've been less depressed since I became friends with him. I hope some day things will clear up.

I know exactly what you are going through...
Check this....
I have been "close" to this guy for awhile. We've thought about dating a few times.. but never followed through. Then two weekends ago, we went to a camp together.. where we sorta got together. It was unofficial, but we both knew about it. I cancelled my date to homecoming with another guy so "my guy" and I could go together... then when we get back to school he acts like I am invisible. Then I find out he has another girl! He thinks he can play me like that. Uugh. So I feel your pain. Girls tend to go through this constantly with guys in life... it does cause pain... and the pain won't subside in a day or two. But inly time will tell what will happen. maybe it is destiny for you guys to be. He will just have to open his eyes ... and when the time is right he will. Who knows, maybe he has those feelings and simply can't express them b/c he has a girl!
Good luck in it though.... keep your chin up and remember to stay strong! There are always other guys out there if things don't work out!

everybody has these types of problems. It is sad i kno, but it is life. Boys only cause heartache and pain.

now i know you arent stupid enough to let something this immature get you upset.

I'm sorry but you're boy is clueless. I suggest you move on and find someone else. Someday he will mature and realize how perfect you are for each other.

There isn't a lot you can do, I'm afraid. My only suggestion is to try to find someone else. I'm guessing this guy is the centre of your life at the moment? Find someone to distract yourself with. Also, try to appreciate your friendship, it's a beautiful thing. Get on with your life. Hanging around waiting for someone isn't a rewarding experience. If he's going to come around he'll do it in his own time, you pining over him isn't going to change a thing. Of course, if you really feel like there's a chance he could change his mind, then you could ask again (I don't know the guy) but it helps you to move on if you just accept his answer as being final.

Safe to say I understand, I've been through this kind of thing myself. Don't expect it to get better overnight, but it does get better.

Bex