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Picture of angel394
Registered: December 22, 2004
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Hi every1. i am 13, almost 14. I have never had a boyfriend. all of my friends are already making out, kissing, etc. I just want to fit in. Im definitley noth the best looking. But i dont think im the worst either. WOrds of advice...ne1?


"The man who doesn't read good books has no advantage over the man who can't read them."-Mark Twain
Picture of worthwaitingfor
Registered: June 14, 2004
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I didn't have a boyfriend/first kiss/make out until I was 14 and I didn't have what I found to be really making out until I was 15.

And people have told me I am mature for my age (i.e. a lot of people were surprised to see me in band this year because they thought I was a senior last year...some thought I was a junior...I was only a sophomore).

So just chill. All will happen in due course.


Belief makes things real/Makes things feel, feel alright/Belief makes things true/Things like you, you and I
Picture of BlueJean06
Registered: August 20, 2004
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Hey no sweat! I didn't start dating until I was about your age! I met this guy in like May, and before the month was out, we were dating! And then the next month, I had my birthday, and I turned 14. We only went out like twice, and the firthest we got was cheek kisses! lolz! Now I'm 17, and I've dated 4 guys, broken 2 of their hearts, and have had 1 really good random hook-up! lolz! Don't be doing that though, you'll hate yourself in the morning for it! No matter how good it was! But my first two boyfriends, were only my boyfriends, cause I felt pressure to go out with guys! I liked them, but I don't think if I hadn't felt the pressure, we would have gone out. So just relax, enjoy the single life, like I do everytime I break up. Right now, I'm just chillin, thinkin' about going to see a guy this weekend, but I don't know how that'll turn out...Just learn to roll with the punches!


Don't worry you're just as sane as I am!!
Picture of artbeat
Registered: July 21, 2005
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I've had a lot of boyfriends and kissing and whatnot and trust me, it's not that great.
It's better to just do what your comfortable with. And it's great to just hang out with girl friends. It doesn't matter what you look like because I know beautiful girls who can't get dates and ugly girls who have had the same boyfriend for years. Just be yourself, you'll get a boyfriend when the time is right, even if it's not for what seems like a long time
Picture of AtomicSneeze
Registered: October 09, 2001
Posts: 176
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I just finished my first year in college and I didn't really makeout with a guy until last fall (I was 18).

Do I care? No, not really. I spent middle school and high school playing sports, doing homework, hanging out with friends, traveling, learning to drive, working, etc. I was really busy and didn't have a chance to date.

And, in college, when I finally did meet a guy that I kissed, I was thrilled. It was fun. But personally, I didn't need a guy to fit in or feel good about myself in high school. I admit that I would have loved to have a boyfriend, but I didn't have one and it worked out fine.

Now I've been with one guys for two months now and it's awesome. Being 19 and having a boyfriend is better for ME because I've matured a lot and I'm confident in who I am.

My point is this: you don't have to have a boyfriend to fit in. Some of my friends had their first boyfriend around 13, some of my friends still haven't had a real relationship. There's no point in worrying about it. At some point you will meet a guy who might become your bf, but don't force it. Just ENJOY the wait and do fun stuff without worrying about being attached to a boyfriend.

Just my two cents.


"Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding." -Albert Einstein
Picture of Jenos
Registered: May 03, 2003
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I am guessing she said that angel will die alone.


I like these calm little moments before the storm.
Picture of bella123
Registered: July 26, 2004
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What did you say to make 'em delete?


Evitere Les Contrefacons.
Picture of Kharybdis
Registered: April 15, 2003
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Regardless of what whichever mod deleted my post believes, you'll still die alone.


Those who profess to favor freedom and yet depreciate agitation are men who want crops without plowing up the ground, they want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the roar of its many waters. Frederick Douglass
Picture of Euterpe
Registered: September 29, 2004
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quote:
Originally posted by Karategirl28:
Get over the peer pressure and enjoy being single.....

I second that. Being single kicks ***. Being in a relationship is fun (for the most part) but you've got a lot more freedom right now.

Enjoy your youth, kiddo, before diving into something you're not really ready for.


A lo hecho, pecho.
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Registered: February 18, 2004
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Get over the peer pressure and enjoy being single.....


Hope for the best and expect the worst............take whatever life throws at you...
Picture of risika2004
Registered: April 03, 2004
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Uh, no one knows how someone else feels. Everyone feels differently on everything. Are you still 13? Because you seem like you're 8.


The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. - Robert Bloch
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Registered: December 20, 2004
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hey christian soldier i know exactly how you feel. that happened to me when I wuz 13 just he was my boyfriend.


*Dances* dude... listen to your own drummer... and... Dance. (or play along)
Picture of Jenos
Registered: May 03, 2003
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Grow up faster.


I like these calm little moments before the storm.
Picture of Nicoley
Registered: June 05, 2003
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At least you interact with the opposite sex, and don't fear they still have cooties.


"What are you worth if no one's watching? How do you know you're even there?" -Marya Hornbacher
Picture of CelticNewAger
Registered: December 11, 2003
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You're too young to make out or be sexual in general.

Just trust me on that one.


"Regardless, I have always, and will always, succeed."
Picture of clpo13
Registered: November 05, 2004
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Boyfriends or girlfriends aren't required to fit in. I'm single (and lovin' it) and I fit in perfectly. Heck, all my good friends are single. Of course, if I wanted to, I suppose I could get hooked up, but I rather prefer having no dependents.


The more you know, the less you don't know.
Picture of risika2004
Registered: April 03, 2004
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Savour the moment you're single. Just enjoy it. Being lonely isn't fun, but being with someone isn't fun either. Just have fun with who you are. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend isn't that great.

Green, you're 14?! I thought you were older.


The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. - Robert Bloch
Picture of Greenleaf771
Registered: March 30, 2005
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I'm fourteen getting close to fifteen and I've never been on a real date. I've never even held hands with anyone (Heh, unless you count contra dances). I'm just waiting because I know if I rush into it with someone, I will hurt a friend or myself. I'm waiting until I feel the time is right. Anyways, who cares if you fit in or not. Obviously you do, but. . . Nevermind.


"I imagine a lot of people tune in simply to watch reporters get bitch-slapped by Mother Nature, and frankly, who can blame them?� Anderson Cooper
Picture of Ikki14Reed
Registered: August 17, 2001
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Like Glove said, wait. It's fun being single, at least that's what I think now. Instead of wanting a boyfriend, concentrate on what you have: Friends.


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Registered: August 06, 2005
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Ha. I'm 13...

The Farthest I've gotten is 3rd base.

With a guy friend of mine.

So that sucks.

I, also, have never had a boyfriend...

I want a steday one.

Oh I hate him now.

My first kiss was a jerk, Joshua (the guy friend).

He said he loved me, that he even would marry me one day...

I thought it was sweet...

He kept saying he was scared to ask me something, that it would ruin our friendship, and he was making it obvious that he was gonna ask me out..

But then I found out that he was hitting on other girls...

Asking to be "friends with benefits"...

Feeling on my friends.

I loved him.

BE CAREFUL WHO YOU GIVE YOUR HEART TO.

Ha. My first broken heart was at 13 (this year). I couldn't believe it. Be careful.


"THE GREATNESS OF A NATION AND ITS MORAL PROGRESS CAN BE JUDGED BY THE WAY ITS ANIMALS ARE TREATED." -Mahatma Gandhi
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