Lots of kids say that one you break up with either your girl or boyfriend that you have to hate each other.

Question:
My boyfriend broke up with me, and asked out another girl in the same day. Every one was asking me if I hated the two of them. what sould i do?
-Confused in a Fallen Camalot

Choices:
1)Say no! Be above the infulence and still be the 2's friends!
2)If she said no, definantly don't stop being friends!
3)It's ok 2b hurt, just dont hold it against them.

 

you really shouldnt hate him. yes, he broke your heart, but always remember he was still that person you loved, and back then you wouldnt hate them, so why should u now

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Originally posted by waterfairy:
Lots of kids say that one you break up with either your girl or boyfriend that you have to hate each other.

I'm with clpo on this one, you don't have to do ANYTHING. Much less force yourself to hate someone(I don't even know how you do that, and also it's so exausting...). Let yourself feel whatever you're feeling, and what others think you should act like or whatever does not matter. This is a personal thing, like everyone else has already told you, you have to listen to yourself in this case.

Like everyone else is saying, this is one of those things you can't let conventional wisdom or society decide for you. Just evaluate your own feelings, and decide whether you really want to stay friends with him.

One word of caution, though: it's always easier to maintain healthy friendships with exes that you're really over. If you're still longing for your ex and that's the main fuel behind your friendship, be careful of getting hurt.

Sadly some people don't stay friends when they breakup. Breaking up is not a reason to be enemies though. Plus its alot easier to have a friend than an enemy.

What? That's the silliest thing I've ever heard of. You don't have to hate anyone. When I broke up with my first girlfriend, we stayed close friends. This is partly because it was a clean break. We both knew our relationship wasn't going anywhere, so we decided to cut it off and just stay friends. Heck, I found out a few months later that she still liked me and regretted breaking up. It was too late for anything, but at least we were still friends.

In your situation, it's perfectly normal to feel hurt, but don't feel hurt just for the sake of feeling hurt. It's all about how you really feel. There is no "right" way to feel about it. I'd be kind of put off if my ex had asked someone out the very same day I broke up with her because I'd feel as if I didn't mean anything to her. But I wouldn't hold a grudge because it could be that she didn't know I was taking it that seriously.

It all depends on the situation. You can't look to other people to tell you how you are supposed to feel about something lousy that happened to you. It's good that you seem like you are trying to be open-minded about things, but here is a place where it's okay to feel however your heart is telling you to feel.

Well, my relationship ended a couple of months ago and I was able to remain friends with my ex. Now, I know every situation is different because the circumstances of the break up and how close you were differs with every relationship. I think that you should be honest with yourself about your feelings. You are obviously going to feel hurt and betrayed if he broke up with you and asked out someone else on the same day. But then again I think a guy that does that is not even worth your time and tears. Just give yourself time to move on. And as for people asking you, it's none of their business. You have no obligation to tell them anything. This is personal and it will take time to heal. Hope it all works out for you in the end.