I'm with this guy that's way older than I am, to be exact... 10 years older, I'm only 17. And everyone in my family doesn't approve of him. I don't know what to do. I wanna be with him still but, the problem with that is... my mom is tellin me that if I don't leave him she's gonna put him in jail. I don't want that to happen. We've been together for about 4 or 5 months now.
With a couple of my friends, they think I can do alot better. Meanin... findin someone else my age & better lookin. But to me, age & looks don't matter, as long as the person is nice, understandin, polite, has a good sense of humor, & that I can talk to. THAT"S ALL THAT MATTERS! Someone please give me some advice here.

For me, age does not really play an important part in relationship, but i think it depends on the level of maturity of both partners.. If both partners are at the same maturity level, it would be ok if the age gap was 10 years. But if one is mature and one is not mature enough (childish, in more straight terms), the relationship would be hard to maintain..

What you have to understand, is that a relationship at 14 really isn't headed anywhere. I understand that there are some people who meet the person they will marry that young, but that is the exception, not the norm. If that really is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, waiting a few years until your lives mesh better would probably be for the best.

From what I know that would be a very unhealthy relationship. There are some major differences between a 18 year old and a 14 year old. Great Mental and physical differences. I say wait till he is older say 18 then it would be okay.

please help me...im really confused.i am 18 and theres this guy who is the younger brother of my friend.he is just 14 years old but he seems very interested with me. i think i am starting to like him too. . .

i believe as an adult you can make the choices you want. But if your 14 dating a 21 year old, that doesnt seem right, at all. Especially considering the 14 year old and the 21 year old will be maintaining such different lifestyles that may affect the other one negatively. Their bodies and thoughts will be working differently, etc.
I think under 18 or 21, people just dont make decisions properly, their emotions are all over the place and people are easily manipulated into doing things they dont want to, and feeling things they dont really feel.

i'm 19 and i'm dead crazy for this guy who's ten years older. My entourage disagrees of our union but i'm still holding on. i might just be two years older than you but i fail to vision what you two could have to talk about. you might have alot in common. But have you ever asked yourself why he is interested in an 17 yr old. I bet you're still in high school. Are you sure you're not just proud of attracting an older guy. just be careful. i went through this thought process myself. Best of luck girl. Be wise.

Date whoever you want its your life.

my boyfriend s 27 im 21 i luv him mor then life but not mor then christ it s posible to luv sum1 who s older i m living proof

I belive age matters when you are young. Such as a 15 or 16 year old dating a 21 or 22 year old. They are both on diffrent levels of maturity and experience. Thoses types of relationships are unable to satisfy eachothers emotinal needs and other such things.

But the older the couple is the the easier a relationship will work out. Due to the fact that they have seen more of the world.\

Well that is my take.

I'm with Khary.

Khary, you're my hero.

I agree with Meg, about how you need someone who's in the same place in life as you are. But I know some people who are married with an age difference of 6 or 7 years. My parents, for example, have a 6 year age difference. They started dating when my mom was 16 and my dad was 22 and they fell in love and lived happily ever after. I know some other people who had that exact same thing happen. BUT I think that you really should be dating someone closer in age to you rather than someone 10 years older than you, because like Meagan said, it's a life experience thing and you need someone is is on the same level.

My sister was 15 and dating a 17 almost 18 year old. Then he turned 18.

The two of them got into some trouble, my mom caught them and, because he is 18, said that if she ever caught him in our house again, she was calling the cops. SHE IS COMPLETELY WITHIN HER POWER TO DO SO. It's considered criminal sexual conduct.

There, my friends, is the issue. If ANYTHING sexual transpires, it IS A CRIME. If your parents do not approve of your relationship, they will likely be like my parents...looking for any excuse to put the guy on a criminal sex offenders list FOR LIFE.

To be completely frank, you two are in completely different places in your lives. He's 18, he's probably in college, or going there next year. You're 15, you're still in high school, and you deserve to have your high school years...just as HE deserves to be able to grow up and leave behind his high school years.

To be completely frank with you...I am 19 years old, and I find nothing romantically appealing about anyone under the age of 18. It's just a life experiences thing...you need to be able to find someone who will be at the same place in life as you, evolve with you, and when you are both currently in different levels of school, that is very difficult to manage.

How do you manage to breathe, let alone type?

honestly i dont think age matters! ma gurl is 14 and she was with a 22 year old! i am actually rockin the same boat as you! i am 15 and ma boyfriend is 17 about to be 18 in august and ma parents dont really see what an 18 year old wants with a 15 year old! but the thing is is that we really love each other and niether of us look for sex in our relationship but if its there then its there we cant complain! so my advise foor you is to keep dewin what you are dewin!!!

Well, I don't think age really matters. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 22 around the same age of my brother..My family will never accept it based on the age and the fact that he has a son..so, we love one another and age doesn't matter but we are willing to wait on one another if our love can overcome all...

is it ok for and 13 year old dating a 16 year old

I totally agree!!! How can u be put of by someone that is older or younger than yourself, when u don't even know them. Its love that matters, and if you're compatible with one another then don't hold back, go for it!!!

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Originally posted by banks17:
If you love one another care,trust and respect. Then the age difference does not matter. Follow your heart and always be to true to it. You have to live with the decisions you make in your life. So choose then wisely.

Hope it all works out for you.

While you're under 18 and since you're mom says you shouldn't date him...I think you should end it...you'll be 18 in no time...and if you still care about him and he you, then you shuld restart the relationship. But you should honor the law and your mother.kountry_kate3@hotmail.com