if you like him go for it hun! but make sure you get out if he treats you bbadly.

it dosent untill a sertain point. 10 years is probably a maximum if 1 is under 18. and to so many people will think its wrong so do be aware of the dirty looks and littl comments.

I was not speaking of relationships under seventeen years of age, which I did not clarify well.
I agree, ten years is a big age difference for some one under eighteen -- yet I do not see so much of a problem with somebody whom is seventeen with someone older, considering that person is almost of legal age (at least in most states, including Iowa, where Tia05 is from).

This is just my honest opinion on the subject, rather anyone agrees with it or not.

Ten years is a lot when one of the people is under 18...then it is illegal once the relationship hits a certain point...

Oh, seriously, come on people. Ten years apart is NOT a big deal. The most important thing to worry about is the compatibility; do you two have good chemistry? Are you two able to communicate well? Can you picture yourself with him ten years from now? Those are the questions to ask. I know a few happily married couples with a 15-20 year age difference between them and I, personally, see it as no big deal. Take a look at Lauren Bacall and Humphrey Bogart, whom had a 25 year age difference, those two were the essence of love. However, large age gaps aren't meant for every one -- some women find it hard to relate to an older man, same goes for men with younger women. Maturity is vital, if your intelligence doesn't match up with the other person, then it will not work.

As for me, personally, I find it hard to relate to a man anywhere near my age. If I try I usually feel more mature than he is, thus I believe I will end up with someone older.

Tia05:

The law prevents such age gaps in dating for safety reasons. But I cannot say that age always matters because in a lot of cases it doesn't.

Look at me. I'm not a legal adult yet (just a month and I will be) and I'm not dating because I want someone older-or at least more mature. I've always been attracted to older guys because they were more experienced and overall smarter than the guys my age. All my fellow teenage guys cared about was sex and video games. Guys think sexually a lot I am told but at least older guys are usually a bit more responsible.

I don't know your boyfriend. I can't tell you if he's just another guy who still has growing up to do or if he is the ideal older lover. All I can say is ask him to respect your parents until you're old enough, out of the house, w/e, and if there's still love there then it's a good thing. Trust me, keeping a good relationship with your family is vital, and there's no better way to test out a relationship than to put it on hold. If it's true it'll last or return.

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i wuz thinkin bout breakin up wit him bcuz of mi parents but everytime i try to leave sumthin keeps pullin me bak tellin me i need him in ma life

I'm saorry, but 10 years when you are 13 is too much. That'd be like you datnig a 3 year old. You need to stop having sex with him, if not for your sake than for his, because it is completely illegal.

i honestly dont think age matters at all i mean whats it gotta do with love and respect? if i cant tell my parents i guess i wont tell them at all i mean my mom is not the understanding type and my dad..ehh no...well my sister knows about it but i lied 2 her n told her he wuz 16, she told ma grandmother but i denied it all && crap.. well i duno wut to do..i wuz thinkin bout breakin up wit him bcuz of mi parents but everytime i try to leave sumthin keeps pullin me bak tellin me i need him in ma life =)

i really am in love with my boyfriend i think some people say im too young for love but i dont c how anyone is 2 young..im 13 and my bf is older den me by 10 years ( +3) so im a minor and hes not and he rele is da best thing das eva happend to me .. yea i guess its illegal cuz were havn sex but i rele rele like him he repects me advice?

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my boyfriend is 10years older then me and i wana tell my mom but im scared she will call da police on him anyone have AIM n wana talk bout it?!?!

Hey Jamergirl,

i'm 20 and there's a guy that i work with hes 41 and we really like each other. we talk all the time and totally connect. its crazy cuz we're really attracted to each other. what happened with you and that guy at work. no one seems to have any good advice on people really far apart in ages. looking for advice!! I'm crazy about this guy

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Originally posted by jamergirl:
do you think its wrong that im 18 and theres a guy i work with and i really like him, he really is great but hes 38 he likes me alot to, he always tells me how much he likes to hang out with me and its funny because for the past week all together we talk for about 6 or 7 hours on the phone and another 12 hours at my house what guy talks that much.

The specific rules are different in every state. One overlapping rule does not make it the same.

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Originally posted by risika2004:
It's different in every state, stupid.

well most of them are 16. And its not different in every state, because some states are the same.

http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm has a list of consent laws, but there are som rules about when you're 16 you can't have sex with anyone over 18 and stuff like that.

An adult can't have sex with a minor if I am not mistaken.

It's different in every state, stupid.

its legal to be with anyone if your'e over 16. she cant put him in jail.

age matters. hands down. don, Your parents should be concerned. A HS sohp/junior with a guy out of college? I think that is just a little wierd.

um it would really be appreciasted if you could reply to this.. do u think it is wrong for a 14 year old an a 22 year old to date. the 14 year old is very mature for her age and they hit it off.. before she does anything with them i would like to have the worlds point and veiw on this it would mean a lot. thanks

hey i am in kind of the same situation with the age difference and everything. i am currently dating a guy who is 7 years older then the (im 16, he's 23). when my rents found out.. they were about ready to seriously injure him, but i made sure they knew how happy he made me, and how much i really love him. my parents still dont really agree with the relationship, but they have accepted the fact that he is a special part of my life, and will be around for hopefully forever... we have now been together for 8 months and grower closer and stronger each and everyday

there is nothing wrong with being with someone older than you as long as you love them and they love you. just show your folks that, like bosnaluv said.