you love him right?....then showur parents how much love u have for him and if hes gone ur nothing wihtout him ..... if they dont understand make them understand ..... if this is the man uwa nt to spend the rest of ur life with or at leats u think u do (showing how much u love him) let them know show how hes changed ur life made u ahppy so on.... hope all goes good

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Once your out of your parents house and above 18 ... literally age shouldnt matter . But if the difference is really big you generally want different things from the relationship than he does . It depends again on wether its a fling or bells thing .

I dated a guy who was 3 years older than me...I loved him, but my parents kind of put an end to it. A lot of my friends thought it was kind of weird too, but so what? I mean, my parents are AT LEAST 3 years apart, so...

Although 10 years is alot, I'd say try and be descreet about it until you're 18/out of your parents' house and then...just be careful.

I'm glad you're beyond superficial things, but I'm getting some bells ringing in my head too. So, as I said before, good luck and be careful!

And here i was thinking i was a cradle robber for dating a girl 3 years younger than me...

do you think its wrong that im 18 and theres a guy i work with and i really like him, he really is great but hes 38 he likes me alot to, he always tells me how much he likes to hang out with me and its funny because for the past week all together we talk for about 6 or 7 hours on the phone and another 12 hours at my house what guy talks that much.

Age, to me, never seemed like a big issue. When I was 14 I dated and 18 year old. That waws risky, and my parents didn't approve. But he wasn't after me for sex or anything. I was on his level. I've always been above my age (I'm going to be 16 in May) and such. He liked me for my mind and because we were on a level where we could understand each other. But 10 years? That's pushing it. Try separating for a bit and see how that goes.

I think it's really weird that you want to date someone who is 10 years older than you...there are plenty of people who match that description who are 17, 18, 19, 20...but 27 is way too old. You might say to this "well age doesn't matter to me! why should it be a factor if we really like each other?" the reason why it is weird for you guys to be together is because he is a complete adult now and you are still a teenager...you can't even vote. He sounds like a sick guy and you should find someone who is more your age

It isn't illegal for you to date him- so your mom really doesn't have a case. As long as you don't have sex, you aren't breaking any laws.

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if you really love him you definately wouldn't want him to get in trouble, as your mom is threatening. if i were you i'd give it a break and then when you're 18 it will be legal and if your relationship is strong enough the two of you should be able to get back together.

I dont think it does. my boyfriend and i are 3.5 yaers apart. i am 16 and he is 19. we both care about each other and love each other and that is what matters. there are limits just use the half your age plus 6 rule. you take half of your age and add six and that is th lowest u can go. good luck to all relationships

Im not really sure here.. but isnt 16 the age of consent? where you can make your own decisions about relationships and if you are involved with someone older, nothing can happen to them unless YOU decide to press charges? Im not too sure so check that out if you think its a possibility.
Another thing, I agree with you. Age and looks dont matter.. Or at least they shouldnt... But sometimes.. if the age difference is great enough, it can cause some issues.. like with maturity and just the fact that you are in different points in your life. Just be careful, because dating older guys can be dangerous

well i had a friend in your place... and they thaught they were in love and well when things started to get going she wanted to stop and well he didnt, he raped her. she never told any but me b\c she feels its her fault for going out with a guy 9 years older then her when she was 17, and the guy is still around and he still "loves" her. not saying 9 or even 10 years older is a bad thing, many people are merried and have that many years between them, but some meet when they are a little older. I would never date a guy that much older, but im not you and if you truely believe like you guys are like ment to be and like getting merried then, ok its love. but if you know you can live with out him, you dont think you could merry him, then it just might be lust which you dont need with a guy 10 years older then you, even if he is mature im sure if you can get a 27 year old you can get a guy with all the same things as he has and better b\c hes younger. Everyone told my friend that she was wrong and they said, why is he dateing you someone 10 years younger...can he not get a girl his age? I sure you can do better and i dont ever know you.

And what is happening is illegal and if he truely loves you and understands he will wait till your 18, i could be a test to see if he really cares or he just wants you now.

i would say wait

i think its fine to date an older guy as long as ur sure he loves you and is honest wid u! i mean noramally when theres such a vast age gap ur priorities differ greatly and the person shud understand them as well as u shud too... i dated my professor for 4 months who was 12 years older to me and i think dat was the most serious and meaningful relationship i've been in... i normally prefer older guys cuz they are more mature... the guys i know who are 17 and 18 are pretty dumb... so i guess if u really like each other u shud be together...

ok so i don't understand. when ur 25, he'll be 35, almost in his 40's. and don't think well i'll almost be in my 30's. age gaps that big practically spell d-i-s-a-s-t-e-r. (actually they spell a-g-e g-a-p but what the h-e-l-l. gosh i'm good at spelling) anyway, he was probably having sex when u were still playing with my little pony or barbie(i was playing with skydancer thats such a kicka$$ doll it can fly) or whatever u guys played with. i always think that way u know he was doin this when i was doing that what a contrast. i mean totally go with ur instinct but how long is it till u turn 18? ur mom gonna wait that long?

Hmm, so... you either stay with this man that you really like and he might be sent to jail (or just arrested and set for bail), or you leave this guy... and you stay unhappy. i think you should stay with him. i mean, once you're 18, it won't matter. you'll legally be an adult and you will be able to choose what you want. plus, even adults date people 10 years older/younger than them... it's just since we're at "critical ages" that society wants us to believe someone 10 years older than us is a danger and that it's totally wrong to date them. do what you want to do. good luck.

To me, 10 years difference is the most I'd go for. I had a boyfriend who was 28 and I was 16 (which I still am) but it didn't work out cuz he was kindof an a$$, but what really matters is thier maturity, if they're 25 and act like they're 8 then I just subtract thier maturity age by thier real age and thats thier true age. so that 25 year old would be 17. interesting concept if ya know what I mean.

As for the advice: tell your parents that he's a real nice guy and he wouldn't ever do anything to hurt you like that, and maybe possibly have your parents have a talk with your boyfriend and they can just discuse their problems cuz just imagine you having a kid your age and they have a boyfriend who a lot older than them and they don't know how mature he is or what he's done with his previous girlfriends. so yeah, I never did that cuz my relationship didn't last that long but I believe that that will work, cuz all your parents want is for you to be safe and happy.

Dear Tia05, I sorta know how you feel... I kinda have the same problem as you. Right now I'm dating a senior in high school,(she's 18 and I'm 16)and my parents really don't care for her.

yeah, i agree with some of the stuff on here, and honestly i don't know my opinion on this one..i think i am confused as much as you. I have a friend that was kinda dealing with that for a while, she's 16, he's 25.. but it all got broken off cuz he was a drinker and a jerk.. but we won't go there.. but i think that you need to follow a combination of ur head and mind. You need to look at it logically, and then see if ur heart can conside to what ur mind is saying.. and sometimes it will, and sometimes it won't... however i do believe that being of legal age is important, it will cause less problems with the parentals and then when you know you can make ur own decisions, it will make it all that much easier... well, i think that's all i got to give tonight, i'm off to join dreamland.. i hope everything turns out for you, and i hope that i've helped.. i try!

I suggest people focus more on maturity than age because there will be many times when the age has nothing to do with the person. Yeah, a ten year old wont be as mature as a 20 year old but what about a 20 year old and a 16 year old? It just so happens that some people are more sophisticated than others.