Is anybody good at giving advice? I really need it!!!

to tell the truth to get rid of the feelings takes time. i still have feelings for my ex and its been almost 2 years. the last time he said anything to me is when he told me to shut up cause i was being too loud. and that was about 6 months ago. and still i have feelings for him.

but i realise that i'm just in love with the past. its something that could never be again.

idk how long its been scince you guys broke up but if he reacts that way then i'm sure he doesn't feel the same.

you should maybe try dating someone else in the church so that you can keep ur mind off him and who knows you might even find a really great guy. ^_^

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Originally posted by SingSongGirl:
Okay... Fair enough. Of course, he's always hated pet names, even when we were together. Now, the only thing is trying to figure out how to get rid of the feelings.... Any more advice???

just think of why you broke up with him that will kill your feelings for him (fellings of wanting to date him again) well it works for me when i find i still have feelings for a girl i broke up with

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Originally posted by SingSongGirl:
Okay... Fair enough. Of course, he's always hated pet names, even when we were together. Now, the only thing is trying to figure out how to get rid of the feelings.... Any more advice???

Even if he doesn't usually like pet names, I would think that given the circumstances if he did like you and wanted to get back together he would want an opportunity like that to reciprocate. But that's my opinion.

As far as how to "get rid of the feelings," if we knew the answer to that we could make millions. I would just say, realize that there probably isn't another relationship with him in your future and really try to not hold on to the "oh maybe someday" thing. That won't help anything at all.

Okay, one more thing for the record. I call everybody dear, sweetheart, babe, etc. So, I apologize if the name slips in any of my reply posts.

Okay... Fair enough. Of course, he's always hated pet names, even when we were together. Now, the only thing is trying to figure out how to get rid of the feelings.... Any more advice???

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Originally posted by Ikki14Reed:

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he said I should call him his real name.

This is probably a good indication that he does not want to go out with you.

Pretty much this. From a guy's perspective, if a girl I liked called me dear, I'd probably reciprocate or at least respond positively.

He didn't reciprocate. Draw your own conclusions.

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he said I should call him his real name.

This is probably a good indication that he does not want to go out with you.

The thing is, after you break up with a person, feelings for them linger because of the bond, however brief, that you shared with them. Before you do anything, I advise thinking to yourself about what went wrong in the relationship and, even if he does like you still, if it would be better the second time around. However, as he does not want you to call him dear, even if he does have feelings or remnants of feelings for you, he probably does not want to pursue a relationship again.

well... If he says no then thats the way it will be. it will, of course, be hard to take but if he is truly a nice guy then he will put behind him and wont act different towards you becuase you told him you liked him. if he says no a big part of it is being able to let go and try to have the same friendly realationship as before. hope this helps.

Wish I was brave enough. But, what if he says no?

I am in my church chiior as well... glad to find somebody else here who loves to sing

well... i havent ever dated so im not the best one to trust but I would say the best answer would be just to find a quiet spot and ask if he still likes you. you never know... you might get lucky!

Okay, here it is: This guy and I broke up two years ago. He and I go to the same church, he's the pianist and I'm in the choir. It was a messy breakup, but I'm starting to like him again. I called him "dear" on accident today and he said I should call him his real name. Something about creating awkward moments in verbal conversations. How can I discreetly find out if he likes me? He's a friend, so I don't wanna ask, cause that might wreck it... Any advice?

You should write out your problem as what the problem is depends on whether or not some people are able to give advice.