I totally messed up. I been with my girl for a while but now shes threatening to break up with me because we don't hang out 24/7 like we used to. She says I'm neglecting her, which is kinda true, but we don't have the time like before. She says shes thinking about leaving me but I don't even want it to get to that point.

Anyone got any ideas on how to win her back? I've been trying to take her out to dinners and stuff to show her that I care but time time time. And we always go out and do stuff together so I think the little gestures aren't enough. Please help!



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realistically its probably not going to be that easy

if youre busy and hse doesnt understand that then its not worth it. if you cant already tell she is the one getting mad about it and when shes busy you dont say anything because you know that she is busy just talk to her about and tell her that your whole world doesnt revolve around her email me of you want to talk more about it katie_varsitycheer94@yahoo.com

Wow, you really touched a chord there with me because that is the same problem me and my boyfriend have been having. We used to work at the same place and see each other everyday but that all changed when we both switched jobs. Now we are lucky if we get to see each other more than once a week. It was difficult for me at first to understand and I would get upset with him because I felt neglected. The best advice I can give you is for you to sit down and talk to her. Explain to her that there really is no time available like before.

Discuss your schedule with her and try to find as many windows of available time as you can. But also make her understand that breaking up is not the solution and make her see that you really are trying. And the night out wouldn't do any wrong

if you love her, go all out. plan a night out with her, but take her to a really private place (if you live near a beach, then beach, or a park) and set up a romantic picnic. get sparkling cider , and everything. the works. and tell her how you really feel, and explain that things change and you cant hang out all the time but that doesnt mean you like her any less, and she will be blown away by the picnic and relize you really DO like her, just time is getting scarce.

hope i helped.

i put it like this, you should sit her down and let her know whats really goin on.let her kno that you just need some time alone and that its not her its you and make sure you call her everyday.and if it is her then let her know what it is that is bothering you.shes use to you being there all the time and getting her what she wants. well if you had enough and you wanna take a break then you do it.shes just going to have to work with your schedule from now on. im sure that will work.ask her if she loves you and if she says yes then tell her to work with you until you both can work it out

Color me crazy but it almost seems like shes using breaking up with you as a threat, and if that's the case it is completely unacceptable. You should talk to her, explain that you are sorry and you have been really busy. Tell her everything and if shes still saying that she might break up with you then you have a problem.

just try in your own little way to set things back the way it used to be and lets see what happens then.

Just apologize in the most sincere way and explain the reasons you haven't been hanging out as much hope she understands

I think that u guys should talk...and if she cant compromise for the sake of the relationship then break up and let her feel what its like being completly cut off from you

"Love for each other should exeed the need for each other"

I think that you are putting too much of the blame on yourself.It takes two people to communicate and spend time together.

If you do want to win her back and you really like her then tell her how you are feeling about this and how hard you are trying, and if she doesnt appreciate it then maybe it is the best idea to break up, maybe after you will find someone who has a more similar schedule to your own, or someone who knows that you care even if you're not there 24/7.

and nice, thoughtful texts are nice if you cant always be together too.

wow i remember i was in a situation like this girl i was going out with realy liked going shopping and that takes money you need/want money means you need a job so i got a job and well same circumstances it ended up not working out

I actually just like the fact that you want to win her back. But if she's saying that she wants to break up with you, then I think you should really talk to her about that if you really don't have the time go hang out like you used to.

Spend time together where you can, call/text/IM where you can...if that's not good enough, then she's probably not the best person for you to be in a long term relationship anyway.

I think there's more to the story than just not spending time. It honestly sounds like your girlfriend is going to break up with you no matter what, so just let her go. Not worth your time.