Maybe if strange new revelations were made on days other than those when I've just stayed up all night doing paperwork, I wouldn't mind. But important new information always comes when I'm already tired and confused! I'm trying to make sense of today. I was informed by several friends that dating in a formal sense is basically dead, and that the way a relationship is expected to progress is friendship, then maybe a couple dates to establish a transition to romance, then sex. I was always taught that having relationships with friends is a bad idea, and that formal dating works better. If I hadn't been such a failure with girls in the last two years I would've just ignored this information, but it might explain a lot of my problems. This would be confusing enough with full brain power; why must I suffer it on no sleep?

Do what you believe feels right. That is how I make these little decisions. In the mean time, you need a hobby.

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Maybe if strange new revelations were made on days other than those when I've just stayed up all night doing paperwork, I wouldn't mind. But important new information always comes when I'm already tired and confused!

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That happens to me. It's always when it's about midnight or later when I all of a sudden have "brilliant" revelations lol. I usually forget them by morning. It's really irritating that I make myself think about something so hard when I'm already half asleep.

About the dating thing, I think it's fine to start a relationship as friends. There's always a risk of breaking up and being enemies, but that's a risk you have to take. Plus, if you start as friends you already know the person you're dating isn't some psycho.
(That doesn't mean it's a bad thing to start dating without being friends first either.)

Socrates - I somewhat agree. "Formal dating" is dying. Unfortunately for modern youth, mainstream pop culture portrays love too lightly. Look around. No longer are deep meaningful relationships prevalent. Instead, many teenagers have lustful "hook ups" (engage in sexual acts with strangers they've known for less than 24 hours no doubt). Too fast, too soon? I think so. So perhaps the slow relationship you mentioned ; starting out as friends, then romance, then sex...IS a better option? You might to get a know a person better that way. If you value friendship more than a gamble a romance, then by all means, it's up to you to decide between the options. Times are changing so therefore the rules of dating and love change too. To sum it all up, my advice is to ditch the "Never date a friend" rule.

First you need to tune down the drama. The world isn't out to get you (I know you never said that it was, but you said the "WORLD" won't let you sleep).

Anyway, I didn't really understand anything you said. Like, are you saying your having trouble with homework and girls? I stay up all night doing homework; you're not alone. But... I don't know. Did I interpret what you said correctly? 'Cause I got a little confused in the middle...(I know, I get confused easily)