Why do people date? Most of the time these days it's because they want someone to love them and possibly to have a sexual relationship. Really, the point of dating is to find a husband or wife. So, why would you start looking for a husband at the age of 12 or 13? I'm not saying it's wrong to have a boyfriend, because I do. I just don't think it's right to go places when you're under the age of 15 or 16 without a group of people, and maybe not even until you're older than that or not at all. Going with a group prevents things from happening that shouldn't happen. So, that's my opinion so tell me what you think.

I DON'T GET IT EITHER. ITS POINTLESS, A WASTE OF TIME, AND THERES ALL THIS DRAMA AND STUFF THAT IS REALLY UNNECESSARY TO DEAL WITH. DATING IS A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME. SO, THE OTHER PERSON LIKES YOU. NOW WHAT? YOUR GONNA GET MARRIED AND END UP LIVING A POINTLESS, BORING,ARGUMENTAL, DULL LIFE WITHOUT THE LIFESTYLE AND CAREER YOU'VE DREAMED OF AND WORKED SO HARD TO MAKE BECOME POSSIBLE, AND YOUR GONNA THROW ALL THAT AWAY JUST FOR 1 PERSON WHOM YOU'LL BE STUCK WITH FOR THE NEXT 40 YEARS???? WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEW! SURE, THERY'LL BE GREAT LOVE AND CARE FOR THE FIRST 1 OR 2 YEARS, BUT THEN YOUR STUCK IN THE LIFE YOU'VE NEVER WANTED. MY OPINION.

I do have a boyfriend and we're both 14, but I don't go places with him by myself. I see him at school, some church services (we go to different churches), special activities, and other places with people we know. I talk to him on the phone and we write letters. I love him, and I don't know if we'll be together forever, but I hope so. I just still think it prevents us from going to far if we're with other people especially when we're so young.

I have only had one date in my whole life, compared to other younger girls I know who have had bazillions. That doesn't matter to me as much as the fact that these girls just date to say they date. It isn't to find a match or to have a companion in life----it's to have a person to carry your books and $hit, and to have some good arm candy for a couple of weeks, and then the girls are off to another 'hottie' in a flash.

My process of finding a mate has been described as "overly scientific." I do a lot of observation and theorizing (seriously!): I observe my intended target ( 'intended target' makes me sound like a hunter or something) when he's by himself, with friends, and with family. I see how he acts in school and outside of school (if I'm lucky enough to see him outside of school). If I see a flaw I can't abide (such as drinking, smoking, bad treatment of women, being overly confident or arrogant without having anything upstairs to back it up), I forget him and move on to the next guy. If I see that he behaves like a gentleman both in and out of school, treats his parents and siblings kindly, and pals around with friends without having to act like a total @ss, then I'm going to be interested.

In the realm of my mind, I've probably dated every guy in my high school---I've imagined (realistically) being in a relationship with a lot of guys, and if I can see a true potential in the relationship, I start giving signals that I like the guy. I think my radar must be busted, however, because the one guy I like has either not picked up my signals or is choosing to ignore them. After all my research, I've found that only one man so far fits my criteria, and I can't get him to like me back! RRG it is so frustrating...but anyway...

I do think that a person can find his or her soulmate at any point in the life. Love knows not physical maturity and age, but only spiritual maturity and age. And you have to admit, some kids today are more mature spiritually than their "adult" counterparts. The point of dating is to find a match, as far as I'm concerned. Heck, I started kindergarten looking for my soulmate, and I swore I would never settle for anything less. For those who date to have fun and to share a part of their lives with many people, that's fine, but I don't want to share life and waste time with a man who may not be the one. I want to be absolutely sure he's worthy of my time and I'm worthy of his. I'm a perfectionist---- 'nuff said.

Peace,

Birdy

What's to say you can't meet your soulmate when you're 14? It does happen that people get together in their early teens and stay together for the rest of their lives.

When you reach a certain age you start to get attracted to people, hence you want to spend time with them, hence dating. It depends on the relationship how serious an experience it is. Some people are curious or just want to have fun or experience holding hands/kissing/sometimes sex, others want emotional fulfillment and someone to understand them and comfort them, especially if they're not that close to their family or secure with their friends. Most people want all those things. People date as teenagers for the same reason they date their whole lives. Everybody wants somebody who cares.

Bex

Ahhh you're right. Why do people under 15 have BF's? I'm one of them, but I don't know why. Maybe it's to be "cool" (which I know is not my reason, but since it's not...what is???) Maybe the HOPE that we'll stay together forever??? Hmmm...you got me thinking now...

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Going with a group prevents things from happening that shouldn't happen.

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whatever happens between 2 people is thier business, and what should and shouldn't happend is up to those 2 people. Instead of relying on idiotic morality issues, people need to start excepting responsibility for thier own actions. It is not our job to live people's lives for them, it is souly up to them.