ok. so heres the deal. im 16, ive been going out with this girl i really like whos 14, for 5 weeks now. but we havent had our first date yet, mainly because of cumilative events (eg. extra curricular activities). but as of now, its kinda getting boring. the excitement we had 6 weeks ago when we werent going out is like..gone, the excitement of like...wondering wut was gonna happen next is gone. and i kinda think shes getting bored of me, when were together. theres like silence between us and most of the time im the one who comes up with something to say, though sometimes she also does say stuff first..idunno if its because she rather be with her friends or wutever...and as for our first date..shes always like..oh, this friday hmm, maybe. so i dunno if shes even looking forward to it. ne girl who cud get their opinion back on this, wud good

HAHA!

Don't worry there skatergrl4evr! Maybe your post will help someone else in the same situation :-P For what it's worth though, it shows excellent character for you to try and help :-)

But YNmod is right, there are allot of old threads in here that the original authors aren't even around anymore, so keep that in mind :-) Just FYI, the second post (The one under the original) is always the newest.

Welcome to YN, skatergrl4evr!

In the future, please be careful about checking when things were posted before responding to them. In this case, for instance, the topic starter only had one post and posted it over a year ago (and his last login was the same date he posted), making it extremely unlikely he will ever read current replies to this thread.

Dear pine,
Maybe this grl u like isnt the grl ur suppose to be with. God might have different plans 4 ur life. When the time is right you'll find out that there maybe someone out there for you. But this grl ur with now maybe just a test of your faith in God. Just trusu and believe in him

if thats how it is, then theres no chemistry, she isnt the one, so move ON. srry for the harshness, but still........

im no chick but i know what the problem is. shes testing you dude! shes trying to see if you are going to try to make he situation more exciting, & shes trying to see if youre gonna be the "man" per say & take charge. the reason for this is probably because shes a little self concious. you need to be straight-foward honest with her about the whole thing & you need to do it on your first date with her at a place that you choose.

You need a line from Camelot:

King Arthur: Genny, (referring to Guenevere) what are you thinking? I don't understand you! But Merlin always told me, "Don't be too disturbed when you don't know what a woman is thinking. They don't do it very often."

There you go. I love that line. One of my favorites...I have lots of favorites from Camelot though.

yo what up pine dude?! welcome to YouthNoise! (or YN as us locals call it.)

I know this is kind of lame, but this really reminds me of that Desperate Houswives episode (Season 1. Episode2) where Gabrielle is getting bored of her marriage to Carlos and tells him to "take her breath away". He buys her a car..but if that's out of your budget, bring her a rose, or another flower or candy, or something. Be thoughtful. If you're getting a soda or something, and you know she likes a certain kind, bring her one. Stuff like that.

hhmmm... well i have dumped guys for being boring. take it from a gurl who has had lots of experience w/ guys (me)... you need to spice up the relationship. play a game '10 questions' or however many. ask random questions. have some fun. play truth or dare with each other (sounds kiddish, huh? but its fun) i agree with the others, you guys should go on a date. HAVE FUN! (no offense) but DONT BE A LOSER. just because your not a kid doesn't mean you can't act like one ONCE in a while. but just know don't play too much! then she will think you are really immature. and that would ruin it.

hope everything goes awsome <3

If I were you I would talk to her. Tell her how you feel but don't blame it all on her. Listen to her side. If you find out she's still interested than take action and make definite plans for that first date. If you find out she doen't like you cut your losses and go you own way. She's the one missing out.

Women suck. Mixed messages and never telling us what you want wreaks absolute havoc in our simple minds. Come on girls.

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Lmao, yes, call her ALL of those things at once.

Absolutely, I could totally see that happening.

Make her knees go slack, pine! Pull an Odysseus! Confront your humblest Penelope with a heart swelling of love and all those jumbled pet names escaping your teeth's barrier!

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Originally posted by faerienite:
Do you know what I'm talking about, babe/hun/my sweet darling everlasting?"

Lmao, yes, call her ALL of those things at once.

I was also confused when you said you two are going out, yet you haven't gone out...

But as for what you could do about your problem, talking to her would be your best bet. During those moments when you two have nothing to say, bring up something funny or say something that would let her know that she still means a lot to you. If that does not avail, talk to her about what has changed between you. Maybe you could bring it up (not in front of other people) by saying something like, "Maybe it's just me, but have you noticed a change between us? I like/love you more than the day we got together, but things have been kind of silent between us. Do you know what I'm talking about, babe/hun/my sweet darling everlasting?"

If I were her, I would want you to ask me what's up? Girls like guys who are honest, just ask her how she really feels about you.

suprises are good and friend on not knoing what she's thinking your male get used to it you won'y be understanding women for the rest of your life

You need to get her to do something with you. I've been there. I've broken up with a guy cuz of that. Surprise ger get her some flowers or something. Get her a little present. Say I love you more often. That'll make her feel like you care. When you feel like you can't talk to her come up with something. She probally is feeling the same way fix it before she breaks up with you.

hello i am in that same situation he has a lot of things to do and i bust my ass to make my schdule accomidate him and he bails.chances are shes bored already.so go out with her and once u hang out together again and talk u it will be fine again.ask her how she really feels and tell her how u feel.if u guys feel its worth it u will work it out

Wait, you consider yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend yet you've never gone out? Maybe it's just me, but I don't see how that works out.

Anyways, things cooling down isn't necessarily a bad thing. It just means you've gotten stuck in a rut of sorts where nothing new ever happens. Going on a date would definitely be the best idea at this point.