FALLING FOR HIM. :]
I LOVE HIM SOOO MUCH.

dont know what you dont get moms ... i love him.

I am in love with my 18 year old boyfriend. We have not done anything sexual and will not until i am age approval. yea i am 1
4 turning 15 next month.
I LOVE HIM.

She thinks and he think..... GRRRrr. i dont care. ive made this decisoioin.**
<<My boyfriend and i are both bipolar>>
HE makes me smile. :]] i nevr do.
Is that a crime.
Why should i not be able to love?
My grandma and granpa are 10 years apart. WIErd. hmm>
i think that everyone needs to chill and worry about themselves.
:] Okay.

My friend is 16, and she's in love with her 21-year-old boyfriend. There was a massive scandal around the time they got together, cos one of her friends 'liked him first' and was being a real... Anyway, I suppose your mom is allowed to have her reservations about the age difference. I know I'd worry too if my 14-y.o daughter was dating an 18-y.o. But as long as you two respect that your mother is legally in the right, and respect the limits she sets for you (within reason... being in the room together and leaving the door open is reasonable, not staying the night at his is reasonable, forcing you to split up is not), I don't think she has very much reason to oppose the idea of you being together. My dad refuses to let me date, but that's completely unreasonable, so I ignore him (I'm 15, my boyfriend is 16).
And about your grandparents. When did they meet? Age is not as big a factor after you've hit 18 or so (both of you). But legally, you're still a minor. You can't accompany him to a lot of the places he might want to go, and probably don't have many of the same friends or interests. If you still want to be with him, that's your decision; just think it through instead of doing the teen-rebellion I'll-do-what-I-want thing. It could end badly.

Here is my sister's story.
My sister met her boyfriend at school through Mock Trail. She was a freshman, he was a junior. They started dating, then broke up, then got back together. He went to college, she finished highschool for two years. Then they went to college together, and did for the next 2 years. Now, she is in Spain for a semester, and her boyfriend, who graduated. is in the Philippines for a while working on stuff against humane slave trade or something before who goes to grad-school in International Justice. (as will my sister next year because she's crazy smart and only needs 3 years of college). She fell in love 15, and still is even though they are thousands of miles away. She and him have a 3 year age difference.
But, 14 and 18 are to different. sorry. bad idea. Do you really, really, if you think about it hard, truely love him? Or is it just that he makes you happy?

Canvas hit it right on the money. Opinions != truth.

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Originally posted by Bushsupporter:
I guess, by you logic, you can't question football calls unless you have played. You can't say stealing is wrong unless you have done it. You can't have an opinion on rape unless you have been raped. This is an insane way of logic. I most certainly can judge something that I cannot experience totally.

You can give your opinion on it: you can't say whether it's true or not. What you feel and think is yours and yours only. I can imagine what lobster would taste like; but I can't imagine what you feel like right now. You can't judge if someone is or isn't in love, or if someone is furious, sad, happy, numb, afraid, or in pain if you're not them. What you feel and what you think can only be determined by you. It's a world of difference between being in love and calling a football foul.

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EarthGoddess:
No, you can't. Young teens are too selfish, whether they admit it or not. Maybe you weren't, but that's extremely, extremely rare.

Isn't this a contradiction?

I've said it before, and I'll sure as hell say it again: don't judge what you can't know. No one can say if a person is in love unless they are that person. Saying a young teen cannot possibly fall in love is like saying an 85-year-old man cannot possibly have an erection. Sure, it may be rare, but it still happens, whether you know from experience or not.

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I guess, by you logic, you can't question football calls unless you have played. You can't say stealing is wrong unless you have done it. You can't have an opinion on rape unless you have been raped. This is an insane way of logic. I most certainly can judge something that I cannot experience totally.

Moved here from Randomosity.

So you're only 14 going on 15, and thats really young. I mean, I understand the fact that the relationship makes you happy, but how long have you guys even been together? Too often I see young teens abusing the word LOVE. You might at some point think that you're in love, but when he leaves you and reality hits you, are you still "in love"? Many young people tend to move on real quick, and think that they are falling "in love" again.

Seriously though, when you're in a relationship so young, do you really think you're going to marry the guy? I'm not trying to say there's anything wrong with anyone building a relationship, but to be at such a young age and thinking you're in love, which parent wouldn't want to look out for you? So don't complain and whine all day about it, GROW UP! I'm not trying to be mean, but you have so much more things to learn, people to meet, and things to do. Life will not revolve around one guy that you "love" at the age of 14.

I fell in love with my boyfriend at 16 and I'm still with him, and this May it'll be 4 years.

Delilah, the problem that I have with your post, isn't that you're only 14 years old and you're in "love" or that even that you're dating an older guy.

It's that from what I judge from this, and your other posts, you are still very immature. It's important that when you enter a relationship with somebody that you're doing it for the right reasons, sure he makes you happy, sure he makes you smile but what happens on the days he doesn't make you laugh? or the days things aren't going great? Are you emotionally mature enough to deal with the situation or are you, like you do with your mom, going to pout and complain that things aren't going your way?

Relationships are complicated, they're not all flowers and chocolates. Sometimes its about giving up a little bit of what you want for somebody else. But it goes both ways, if you're man isn't ready to slay a dragon for you, and stick with you no matter what hardships show up, is he really worth investing the emotional time and effort to keep.

Too many times I've seen young girls have their heart broken by older men who grow up and move on.

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Originally posted by clpo13:

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EarthGoddess:
No, you can't. Young teens are too selfish, whether they admit it or not. Maybe you weren't, but that's extremely, extremely rare.

Isn't this a contradiction?

I've said it before, and I'll sure as hell say it again: don't judge what you can't know. No one can say if a person is in love unless they are that person.

If you can find me a teenager with a fully developed sense of reason, I'll believe you. In the meantime, I'll continue to believe that the majority of young teenagers are simply incapable of knowing what love is.

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EarthGoddess:
No, you can't. Young teens are too selfish, whether they admit it or not. Maybe you weren't, but that's extremely, extremely rare.

Isn't this a contradiction?

I've said it before, and I'll sure as hell say it again: don't judge what you can't know. No one can say if a person is in love unless they are that person. Saying a young teen cannot possibly fall in love is like saying an 85-year-old man cannot possibly have an erection. Sure, it may be rare, but it still happens, whether you know from experience or not.

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Originally posted by EarthGoddess:
No, you can't. Young teens are too selfish, whether they admit it or not. Maybe you weren't, but that's extremely, extremely rare. Like getting stuck by lightening five times in one day rare.

Maybe, maybe not: I think the difference is that emotionally-mature people can handle how they feel. I was too young to fall in love, but I did and the aftermath was messy.

Because teens can't handle it, they can't handle "letting go".

But Delilah, I'd back out of this nicely if i were you. Don't go breaking hearts or anything, but my gut says get out. My brains agrees.

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Originally posted by Canvas:
First of all EG, no you CAN fall in love when you're 14/15; been there, done that.

No, you can't. Young teens are too selfish, whether they admit it or not. Maybe you weren't, but that's extremely, extremely rare. Like getting stuck by lightening five times in one day rare. They care too much about what they want, as this has girl so "eloquently" pointed out. I thought I was in love when I was 14, but now I can see that I was wrong and stupid. And I feel horrible about how I treated my mom during that time. If you can't imagine taking a bullet and dying for the one you're with, you're not in love. If you can't accept the possibility of letting them go in order for them to be happy, you're not in love.

First of all EG, no you CAN fall in love when you're 14/15; been there, done that.

That's just it: you can't think straight. If I were 14 and some 18 year old wanted to date me, I'd have to question why. It's different when you're older - a 27 year old can date a 23 year old - but 14 and 18 is a huge gap.


In other words, get out of it because, hey, at least that way he won't get in trouble for breaking the law because your age difference is larger than 2 years old.

You're too young to know what love is. When you turn 20, my age, you'll smack yourself in the head feeling stupid for thinking you knew what love was. Guaranteed.

Your mom has more life experience than you, more experience with love and more everything. She knows what she's talking about. You're at the age where you think you know everything and what's best for you, your mom knows better because she's been there. Your mom probably just doesn't want to see you get hurt. It's instinctive for her, so get used to it.

Also, go play with Barbies or something. You're too young to be dating anyway.

Another also, if your boyfriend likes young girls, he'll most likely dump you for a younger girl when you get too old. Just sayin...

I am not going to judge your situation...just provide the same observation that I provided to my sister in a similar situation.

I am a college student, as are my friends. Even a few years ago, there was no way we would date high school students. It's nothing ageist...it's just that we are in completely different stages of life; we've already been there, done that.

Nothing against you...but I would question the sexual motives of any 18 year old guy who wants to date a 14 year old.