Has anyone out there ever experienced severe emotional abuse from a parent? My family had a really rough time back in 2001, driving my mother to reach for the bottle whenever she got home to relieve stress. Us kids were too young to drown our problems this way so we had to deal with our own emotional turmoils as well as her verbal attacks on us when drunk. This went on for many years (Actually I think 3 but it felt longer) until I aged and matured more and just stopped fighting her. My brother is now the same age I was when this all started and I can see the exact same patterns in his behaviour. I live 400 km away now and I fear he'll be just as emotionally scarred as I.

My question is: Has anyone experienced similar situations? How did you deal with it? Did you deal with it at all or just leave as I have done? Would greatly appreciate any answers you could share! Thanks!

ok, so i'm not gonna write my sstory here, but i go through this eeryday. i have found a solution, it may not be much but it's a start. if you're 16 or under 25, this will be very helpfull to you. and i'm goung to recommend you to try this out, i know i am, and i'm waiting to see how it will work out for me. i've decided to leave home, but at the same time, i want o keep going to school, so i called this organization called Job Corps, to help me. it you got to their website or google them, and get more info it would be amazing. just dont sit and wait until you drown in the abusive and do soething absolutely stupid, and end up throwing your lives away, i know i dont want to throw my life away for sure.

Cyber bullying is a bunch of crap and so was deleting my previous post. *glares at mods* (jk i'm not mad)

But really, emotional abuse, cyber bullying, yes words can hurt, but think about how great your life is. If you live in America, have a house and you aren't starving in the streets than you really should have nothing to complain about. In case no one has noticed, the other 90% of the world lives in oppressive third world countries ridden with disease, crime and poverty. With this going on how can someone complain about being made fun of for being "different." It really sickens me that people let words affect them when they have it made in this country.

Cyber bullying is a joke. If you are being bullied online than just ignore it. Just ignore whatever bothers you because if you let it affect you it will only feel worse. Besides, once out of high school (usually middle school in many cases) teasing and verbal "abuse" pretty much comes to a halt.

Lots of parents aren't supportive. Get over it. Everyone has a shitty parent(s) unless they were just lucky and happened to be born into the perfect family.

You can't change people, you can only change how YOU react to them.

I think we all have dealt with emotional abuse. Because let's face it, this world is not a nice place. People just like to attack others. No matter if it's physical attacks vs emotional attacks. No matter if it's via the Internet vs. in person. People like to attack others. I concluded three reasons for this behavior.
1. People have issues of their own so the only way to deal with it is to attack others.
2. This society is not accepting of change and differences. If you are different in the smallest way, you will be attacked.
3. This society (U.S, that is) lives in such an individualistic way that people have no or very little common compassion for other people. Simply because they have their own problems to deal with and they don't know if they can trust this person who is honestly coming to them with a problem.

However, I think it crosses the line when the abuse is at home. It's one to have societal abuse. But, if you can't even have a safe haven at home, that really fcks you up. That hurts and scars you.

I've had abuse at school, on the Internet, and just walking down the damn street. People just don't like me and it's because I'm different. But, the abuse that hurt the most is the abuse I got from my mother. She gave me a roof over my head, clothes, food. But, she wasn't supportive. NEVER! If anything came out of her mouth is was just to tell me how wrong I was in anything and everything. I could have farted wrong and she would have been all over that. Then she would have those public fits where she starts yelling God knows what in public so everyone can see and then she might hit. She also put men before her children.

She was just neglectful and verbally abusive. I just dealt with it. If she started with me, I would yell and go to my room. The best thing to do is leave. Go to college. Emancipate yourself so you can live on your own. Let your brother live with you for awhile. If you really have hope in your mother, you can talk to her and see if she can get professional help. She probably has issues of her own and to deal with it, she takes it out on others. Being a mother fcks you up if you can‘t deal with it productively. I’m sorry. I know motherhood is a wonderful thing. But, dealing with little kids who don't know any better, makes you go coco. And if you have a husband who doesn’t do crap, but makes things worse, that also makes you even more coco. Desperate housewife syndrome or post-pardon depression can be the cause of their behavior. And if they have substence abuse that makes things even worse. But, when it all comes down to it, it depends on the individal person and how their mindset works for them to cope. That's why some women do things like that and some wouldn't even think of doing something like that.

I don't know. I think leaving is the best option. Before it really messes you up and you become as bad as them.

I deal with emotional abuse everyday and I've been dealing with it for as long as I can remember.I try to ignore my mom all the time and it doesn't always work.She gets on my nerves all the time.Every morning is a verbal fight.I wake up to her screaming and shouting everyday.She tells me all the time that she wishes I would just die and that my late brother who happened to be a year younger than me should have lived instead of me.(He died when I was a year and couple months old.I have no memory of him).She swears at me and tells me I'm rotten and will never amount to anything in life.She says she's not my mother but she's my biological mother.She gets me so aggravated that sometimes I have to walk out the house and leave before I lay my hands on her.She tries to get along with my younger sister but it doesn't always work.She had a physical fight with her.My stupid dad takes my moms side when I get angry and retaliate,so I end up going out and coming back drunk and they accuse me of doing drugs.I fear oneday I might not be able to hold myself together and just might end up killing them and committing suicide.I feel like they think I don't have my own problems to deal with.I feel worthless,useless and lack confidence.I have no self-esteem.I can't date anymore.I find a lot of people boring because I have nothing to say to them.I'm the boring one.My social life is in shambles.My friends are people that talk too much and I don't mind that because I don't have to say much but just listen.I'm treading towards doing something stupid.I would've left a long time ago but I'm unemployed and don't know how I'd survive if I left.

Emotional Abuse...

U can say that again
ive been through it all my mom does thing for no reason at all she's always raising her voice at for things i dont even do!!
i hate my life at some points...sometimes i feel no reason to live at all!!
She looks at me with eyes of hate only because i look like my father!!

Ive been called bitches and fat names and so on..!! i wish that i can just move on with my life and make her look like a fool when i graduate from high school and college
so i can so i told you so!! theres been time when she just wanted to actually fight me..man ive got it bad i wish that i can just live free of hate and dislike..LIFES hard but always try to do your best..and dont do the opposite

I deal with emotional abuse everyday that I'm with my mother. I can not leave, even though I would give all of my limbs to get away from her. I'm practically her verbal punching bag. In her eyes I need to grow up, I'll never amount to anything in my life, and of course I'm stupid. My needs are not as high of a priority as hers and my sister's. I just take it and deal with it by crying, cutting myself, and/or drinking. Good times.