I don't really like my family in short.
More like I dont like them at all and I would rather explore different options, different lifestyles, different people, and different places ect. then be in my family. But I don't know how I could be allowed to live with someone else other than my family members or even relatives. I don't care if there really isn't something bad going on within my family, I just want to give it a try.

I dont know wth I want to say now except that; again I just want to freaking live somewhere else and have a new start on life no matter if there is valid reason or not.

Does anyone know any possible ways I could do this? And I mean good ways, I dont want ideas like twisted plots that will make my family fall apart or something, just good, legal, healthy ways I could get a chance to be living somewhere else.

HEY who suggest exchange program? That's a great idea! You should check that out with your school, i mean how adventurous. Complete change of lifestyle which it sounds like you want. Since you say you're smart also, would it be a major challenge to learn a new language if you did an exchange program? Even if it is why not tackle it. I reckon that would be a great idea to help you socially too.

Although i'm not real clued up on what being Autistic means, would that be a problem if you wanted to be an exchange?

Even so - when you're older and you still want a different lifestyle maybe you should look into that. I know i've been thinking about it lately so excuse my blatant bias in favor of an exchange program :P

You said you're Autistic. Wouldn't it be easier to continue to live with your parents because they'd understand you better? I work with an Autistic kid, and it can be hard for people to understand where he's comming from and it takes awhile for them to learn that he looks at things differently than they do. You should really continue living at home until you're ready to be on your own. If you're having problems talk to your concillor.

What about boarding school or something? Then you could get away from home without any of the legal proceedings.

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if you are over the age of 16 and are wanting to stay with someone (they could be just in the household as long as they are there to supervise) legally you can move out and live with them.

Are you sure...? I think you have to go to court and prove that living with your parents is no longer in your best interest. Based on the information given, I'd say good luck in finding a judge who would grant it.

if you are over the age of 16 and are wanting to stay with someone (they could be just in the household as long as they are there to supervise) legally you can move out and live with them. also again if you are over the age of 16 you can be legally emancipated from your parents and live by yourself. also you can always sign up to be an exchange student.

Ok i'm sorry for your time. but thank you for answering my questions. I hope I don't ask any more on this subject.

First off, please don't use the term "retarded", as it's very offensive.

Secondly, life sucks, pressure sucks, and I'm not quite sure what you're saying, but it sounds like you don't feel comfortable opening up to others? If you have an issue with your therapist, find a new one.

Thirdly, if your parents are supportive, why leave? I know you're annoyed about six grade, but it can be a hassle to change schools, situation depending. She may just have thought that it would be a wiser choice to let you finish the year, then transfer in the fall so as to make things easier on the majority of people involved.

Finally, you're too young for emancipation, so Foster care or living with a relative or a friend who's willing to take you in are the only options right now.

Yeah I'm in Both right now and I have sesions like 3 times total for about every week and a half but it's retarded because your right Foster Care sucks esspecially here in Oregon! But it's just I want to regress or something and I don't think my counselors would want me to open up on how I want to not have to worry so much, by having someone I can always openly talk to and always will be there to ask me how I am but to the extent that they don't take ok for an answer where they care so much for you that they'll keep pushing on you, just so you express your emotions. But something I can't stand to do is express stuff like that while I'm around more than just the person who I know care's. And like I get so crazy all the time just from my own thoughts that I get scared and that fear cause's anxiety, which make's me angry and I need a way to stop it at least before the point of anxiety. I just wish they could be more productive. And I have SOO much stress and anxiety that I can't cope unless I have someone there for me. And the reason I get stuck and obessed on the thought of living in another family is because I had a really bad school year that caused me to literally go insane and ever since that I have never been the same and so when I notice that my parents are supporting all of a sudden there's no way I can happily accept it. I even know that there tottally good parents. But TRUST ME, WHEN I, >SAY<:That I CAN"T get over the past. Even though they may have changed. I can't unless, unless, something happens practically like the way my therapist put it: Right. You need a Totally new start or else you can't handle the pressure.
And it's just like that. Why can't I find that Fresh, New, Piece, of Blank paper?


Just to get an idea of what happened in my 6th grade here that involved my parents; I got into a fight in school in which I got my head smashed into a wall and then had to regain composure, only to watch every damn 6th grader cheer on this fucking kid who just practically killed, I fucking threw punches at him but they didn't do shit it was retarded because his fucking friend had came up with the whole plan and part of it was to practically run afterwards and hold up his arms so I could'nt do shit even when I WAS ONE ADRENALINE! I had A fucking dent on the whole left side of my jaw that was puffy red on the edges and purple practically black, and my parents didn't say FUCKING SHIT! they didn't do one damn thing! I got bullied the whole fucking year long and they didn't practically say one word that entire year to me or do one thing that could have helped me! YOU KNOW WHAT MY MOM SAID OVER 25 TIMES?! SHE SAID: Matt just get through the rest of this year and then we'll see about finding a new school.! OMG! She had no empathy for me when I cryed, ran away from school, got punched, got laughed at, teased, bullied, EVERYTHING! *calmly* now, tell, me; how is it I'm supposed to happily accept it when she try's to act like she loves me? even if she really does? Because really I doubt anyone could.

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I missed your explanation to rugar. However, I still hold moving out isn't the answer. At least not right away. Have you tried individual or family counseling?

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Hmm I wonder... It make's me feel bad kuz I share good times with my dad and at the same time talk about him in a rude manner lol. He really isn't that much of a problem in my life but still...

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Hmm. Oh well. At least my life would be more adventurous with new everythings lol.

If you don't have a good reason for moving out, no judge, in their right mind, will grant you emancipation. If your life is bearable at home, just stay at home-- at least their you have a home and food. (And you don't have to worry about getting a job and paying the bills.)

Hmm. Oh well. At least my life would be more adventurous with new everythings lol.

Hmm I wonder... It make's me feel bad kuz I share good times with my dad and at the same time talk about him in a rude manner lol. He really isn't that much of a problem in my life but still...

OK! Thanks for letting me know. Now I understand alittle more to why you want to leave.

Well, there's alot of reason's: but one of the bigger one's
I think it's because I have a very troubled past and I make
easy to handle mistakes (which are often alot harder on me)but since I'm autistic I have alot of trouble getting over them + I have them slightly more than the average person everyday. I'm pretty smart though academically just not socially kuz I get like practically all A's. But some more recent was. my dad I have noticed has started indirectly hurting my feelings like probably because I kind of had a flashback for some reason and I practically attacked him but I stopped because I got control of myself then he got all mad and freaked out! so then I noticed he's started to treat our dog like he used to treat me (I mean like attention-wise) but instead he doesnt really treat me equally more like the only thing important now is; my mom and our dog. Not including my sister because she's never home, always at college. And like I just don't feel I like my parent's mostly just my dad are working for me. But most of it's because of the way things have been going and the thing's I can still remember that occured at school a couple of years ago and the things that occured with me and him when I was a kid. He is kind of like me but he grew up with a big family and alot of his Childhood I don't know but his dad was a smoker and his mom was a Chain Smoker and his dad was in the military. But I dont know maybe it's just that he kind of scares me even though he has'nt really done anything. And I always feel like I'm so much smarter than him and I've noticed that when I come up with ideas and share them with him he kind of try's to relate but what he say's is like half as smart as what I say and then I can tell he get's all agressive or something because he starts to try and talk over me while I'm still trying to speak and he sometimes stops me from talking and say's *deeply* Now! wait. I'm not done speaking and I dont know why but when he say's that I envision him putting his finger up. Or maybe he doe's do that? But I get so annoyed because he is starting to get more and more stressful to be around because I'm like growing mentally and physically alot at my age and I don't think he likes it now. Because I'm like practically smarter than him.

Why do you want to move from your family?

I would just like to know, what's the reason?

hey thanks. I am still unsure about it so for now I'm probably just going to stay but at some point I might try living somewhere else for a try.

You could ask your family to sign over guardianship to whoever is over 18 that you want to live with.
You can try to prove that your parents are unfit to take care of you and get yourself emasapated(spelled competly wrong) but that means that you are legally an adult and you get to basically be 18 early. Only it is really hard to do if your parents aren't willing.
You could also just ask your parents if you can stay with a friend for a while and then maybe you can rethink your situation and everything may be better. My friend did this and now everything is fine.