My dad is such a bum. He thinks that i don't want to live around him because i want to hang out with my friends and i am 13 and i try to tell him that i won't be around a lot because i am a teenager and i won't be focused on family anymore and its more about friends. What do you think i should say when he mentions to me again??

make deals. to make sure he knows that u want to be with him set up a schedule to hang out every .....saturday i guess. join a volunteer network and go together. if u r a FOX racing fan, try getting into those topics and going to races together. worked for me

you should be so lucky to have a father around who wants to spend time with you. hee hee, i see him now in his fave chair wearing slippers asking to spend more time with you while you're somewhere in the background doing this and that. not many people have that. i agree with the bit about having at least one meal a day with him. just to talk about your day.

CrazyBeautiful:

Watch what you say. Sometimes it's the FAMILY that is being the jerk.

Take this situation:

A thirteen year old girl who discovered part of the financial problem is that her father is a porn addict (no one else knows in her family but her). He is also an alcoholic. The mother is verbally abusive and throws temper tantrums constantly. Her younger sister is treated like a queen because the mother feels it is her way of "getting back" at her older sister, and thus treats the youngest of the family accordingly. The eldest child wants to spend mroe time with her friends for obvious reasons and is yelled at constantly from her family because of this, being called ungrateful, self-absorbed and disrespectful.

Now, who would you say is the jerk in that scenario?

yes, you're 13, and yes, you'll do what you want (i love the cartman quote). but you dont have to choose between dad and friends. there is a easy way to have both. you can have your friends over to your place a lot, you can include your dad in little ways - like asking him to take you places, talking to him about what you and your friends did. believe it or not, adults love to hear what their kids do because its been so long since they have done crazy funny things like that.

sure, you really should spend some time with only your dad. but for whatever reasons, it dosen't always happen like that. so try it a different way - make him part of what you do with your friends. that alone can really deepen the bond between you and your father.

Plan family time and make time for your family you jerk. They are what should come first. He just wants to feel that you still need him. He wants to know that he isn't losing his baby. He wants to be apart of your life so quit being a *** and just make some ****ing time for them.

Peace Out Ya'll
~CrazyBeautiful

You dont have to search for time to spend with your dad . Its not exactly a fit into your busy schedule kind of thing . Just spend time with him everyday like always have atleast one meal together . Talk to him dont keep running around him without saying anything . It adds up to become a lot of time.

THat's horrible geraldine.
My heart goes out to you!

I was at home on school holiday that year. I spent no time with my father. He complained about it but i paid no serious attention to it. I went out all day long with old friends.
Before end of my holiday, my father got stroke, and a day after he passed away.
I regret FOR YEARS why i could not just sat down and talked to him a lot??

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Just tell him that since you are growing up you need some space to get out on your own. though you should try to spend a little bit of time with your family every week.

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That's good advice. Just pick one day out of the week and set it aside as the day that you spend with your dad so that he still feels important to you and still feels apart of your life. So by having this special day set aside you have something to look for to and you will be starting new traditions in your family. During that day, you and your dad can plan and do whatever you want but the concept is to do it together. It's like a father-daughter day.

Just tell him that since you are growing up you need some space to get out on your own. though you should try to spend a little bit of time with your family every week, and belive me i know that you should try to get your space as i am the same age.

Assuming that you have both parents at home I know there are many kids/teens out there that would give anything to be in your shoes, including me, to have that or to just have a dad or some kind of male role model in their life. I think that having that kind of role model or driving force in a kids/teens life, especially in a young girl's life, is powerful. So my advice is this: Be thankful for every second that you get to spend with your dad. Every second counts so spend as much as you can with him now. Get it in while you can. Live life like you aren't worried about the regrets.

Nothing is ever more important than family... God comes first, second is family and third are friends... i think i know why your dad is bummed... he is just being....you know, a dad...
You know how it is when you are growing up and parents will always say how their children have all grown up?? Well, he is just being loving so you should try to understand him... Like my dad... i know parents can be so annying sometimes but i try to put myself in their shoes and wonder how i would feel if i would see my kids all teens and they would hang out with friends instead of me... i would miss my kids too...
Oh well... just try to hang out with your friends and also try to have more quality time with your family as well too. It should be balanced.

Get over yourself. There is more to life than your friends, I promise. You are only thirteen. You'll learn eventually, but for now, you're going to have to trust those who know better. It won't kill you to spend some time with your dad, and show him that you care about him.

I'd give anything to be in your shoes too. I haven't seen my dad in seven years and my mom threw me out of the house.

Appreciate your dad (and your mom). Take it from me, if you didn't have them you'd realize how important they are to you. It may not seem imortant now but in hindsight you'll see it was a good thing to do. You don't have to do boring things. Go bowling, watch a movie, go to dinner, just spend time together.

He's been there for you through thick, thin, and even those times when he could be doing the things that he wanted to be doing but wasn't because he knew that he had to take care of you. Being a parent means you have to make a lot of sacrifices to take care of their family but a teenager, however, doesn't have to give up anything to be there for the well-being of others. My advice is this: You only have one dad and you have plenty of time to spend with your friends. My suggestion is that you spend more time with the father you have- he only gets to see you grow up once- and spend a little less time with your friends. If they are your true friends than they will understand. You are lucky to have a dad because most kids don't. I'd give anything to be in your shoes.

If you and your dad are still in good terms with eachother you should try spending a little time with him. I know you want to hang with your friends more, but whose been there for you since you were born? I doubt your friends have. Just try and spend some time with him and explain that to him, you want to spend time with your friends, but also with him too.

"I'm 13, I do what I want." Cartman
Unless you really hate your dad you should make an effort to spend time with him, many people don't even have the option because they don't have a father. Since the day you were born he has done nothing but work his tail off to make sure that you were happy and taken care of, which made him happy. Now you are reaching an age where you can give something back to him, it's not alot to ask to give up one of your weekend days to spend time with him.