Hey this is my first post but i'm super pissed. me and my parents have never seen eye to eye on the whole "church" deal, being how they force me to go to church every week and a youth group every wednesday. i believe in god and don't mind going to the youth group but i find it hard because i do sports and with homework and all its just to much and i just want to take my 2 hours of my wednesday and relax instead of sitting listening about god. this past wednesday i came home from a track meet and was super tired so i just went straight to bed. the next day i wake up and find out i'm grounded because i didn't go to church. this is horrible because i had plans for the weekend and i don't want to let my friends down. i would have gone but i was so tired i new my sleep was more important and being awake for the next day for my history test and track meet oppose to 2 hours of god. please help me because i see no reason for me to be grounded....so please just help...

Just be glad that they are interested in what you are into and be lucky that they aren't making you doing the millions of other things that are ten times worse than going to church. Church can be a really good outlet for today's youth if you give it a chance.

why din't your parents wake you up if church is so important to them? i am Catholic so i go to church on saturdays. I normaly have more time then. Church isn't just a sunday thing. Talk to your parents about doing the youth group or just church. they essentially talk about the same things just in a different setting. lots of luck.

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Originally posted by bauhaus:

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Yeah, I'm busy, but not too busy for God. He's never been too busy for me.

I thought he's "resting"?

Not funny, bauhaus.

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Yeah, I'm busy, but not too busy for God. He's never been too busy for me.

I thought he's "resting"?

To "LoversandFriends"-(this isn't meant to offend you):
Have you ever that thought maybe you're putting dancing before God? I guarantee you that I have more going on in my weeks than you do, and yet I can still "find the time" to go to church twice a Sunday. I've got school 8am-3pm Monday through Friday, work four nights a week for five hours (4:30-C, usually 9:30, 10ish), and deal with homework from 5 AP classes. Yeah, I'm busy, but not too busy for God. He's never been too busy for me.

Well, I have Youth activities (sports, service projects, self improvement, yadda yadda) for 1 1/2 hrs. on Wednesdays, and 3 hrs. of Church on Sundays, and I think it works for me. I don't know your life exactly, but I think that your parents were out of line. Partly because it was just...well you wouldn't be listening to the meeting anyways if all you could think of was our history test and how tired you were. You were distracted, and not in the situation to be able and worship God. You should always have Him in mind, but just going to Church and not concentrating is meaningless.

Also, I think that parents, though they can try to teach you what they believe, they can't force you to believe in God, but they can let you find Him. I'd just try to explain this to them.

I was in the same situation as you and because I was sent to church I rebelled at 15 I decided that I was going to be a Pagan and so I did for 1 yr. I am now 17 and found the lord 1 yr ago. I am now a christian youth worker. MY ADVISE IS: try and comprimise with your parent/ Gaurdians and go to a sunday church servise or just to a youth group. You do need God in your life and a weekly input is great.

Prayin 4 u Child of the lamb x

Umm so I believe in God and all but I also have a busy life. I guess I could go to church really early Sunday but I don't feel like getting up. Just b/c I don't go to church and youth group things doesn't mean that I believe any less than those who do. I understand what you're saying...it's hard to do. My week is completely filled...Monday I teach dance classes until 7:30. Wednesday I teach dance until 5. Tuesday and Thursday I have my own dance classes until about 4:30 or 5. Saturday I teach dance in the morning from 9 to 2. Sunday I meet up with the other girls that I teach the classes with from 10 to 7 (obviously we take large breaks inbetween lol) and we work out the stuff we're gonna do for the next week. I don't work b/c I have to...I'm just extremely passionate when it comes to dance and since I'm at the top of the classes offered, the only next thing to do was teach so I figured ok w/e. However Friday is the only day I have off to myself and I like to keep it that way and chill with my twin and bf and friends. After I get outta dance durin the week I have homework to do b/c I have so many honors classes and I like to go tanning and shopping to just relax. I also run with the track team when I have time (I can't be on it b/c I can't commit to the practices and meets for the most part b/c of dance) and I go to the meets to watch my bf run. Between all that I guess I COULD fit the whole youth group thing in and all but I'm just not a person like that. I guess I kinda figure after I lost my virginity at 13 and cut myself and have attempted suicide more than once and did drugs and drink and all that that I need to have my own relationship with God..not one with others around that will criticize me and tell me how much I have f*cked up. Just b/c I don't do those things doesn't mean I don't love God or believe any less...I just do it in my own way...
~Serena~

of course, u should put God first. i personally really enjoy going to youth group cuz all my friends are their and we play fun games. but if you don't feel like you're spending time with God when you go to youth group, tell your parents that you'd much rather read the bible at home or something. i'm a busy person too, but i still go to youth group and bible studies cuz i have so much fun and i get to spend time with my Christian friends and in front of them i get to be myself and not worry about how they would think about me cuz we have the same faith. God wants you to enjoy spending time with him, so just talk to your parents about it.

Tell you parents that you need to worship in your own way maybe, besides your 17, soon you'll be making your own decisions. Just explain to your parents your reasoning and how you feel about your punishment, maybe they'll understand.

I don't believe in god but i'm at church every sunday in a skirt no less with my grandma. I di it because I love her and i don't want to hurt her feelings. I think it's just best to go with things when it comes to family.

It sure sounded like you did:

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but there should be no doubt in your mind, that if you don't have time for God, even 2 hours, than you need to quit some of the things you do, or plan your time better.

And, thanks.

I didn't say you couldn't.

And, I'm glad you got your old YN name back.

ChEeRxXxBaBi:

You can have time for God without attending church and youth group every week.

Well, first of all, God should always come first. I mean, if you're truly a Christian, you should already know that. I'm not trying to be all super-religious and stuff, but there should be no doubt in your mind, that if you don't have time for God, even 2 hours, than you need to quit some of the things you do, or plan your time better. I know how it feels, I am very, very busy myself. I actually don't even go to church or youth group. But, if you're serious about all of this God stuff, then you need to set aside time for Him. Read the book "The Purpose Driven Life" for some insight on what I'm talking about from a preacher.

That's crazy, I mean really talk to your parents grounding you for not attending church and sleeping, I can relate to you sometimes I do not want to go to YG (youth group) on wednesdays but I still go...or stay home and sleep my dad doesn't believe in grounding kids...i'm sorry hope it'll get better but deff. talk to your parents and see whats up!

Yaah . Unless you want to really fight ur pretty stuck until 18.
If you make up ur mind to fight . Then u r going to be grounded and a lot worse...

Don't expect too much progress. The unfortunate reality is that the type of parents who would ground a kid for not seeing spirituality their way are usually not the type that can be won over with a conversation, no matter how reasonable and mature you're being about the matter. But hey, it's worth a shot.

This is one of those times when parents have overstepped a boundary. It's not even like you didn't want to go...you just were tired and had every right to miss it for one day.

I would say to just talk to your parents and explain it to them. But calm down first and don't yell. Don't start a screaming match. Calmly talk to them about it.

And what's with all the Christian-bashing lately? Maybe I'll find out when I make my way to the Spirituality board in a moment.