I've heard several horror stories in the gay community about kids being kicked out when they come out of the closet to their parents and it's really unfortunate. It's very sad. I got lucky; neither set of parents did that. Although, my dad and stepmother hate the idea. They think that if my brother hears anything "gay" he'll turn out to be gay. They say they don't care but they do. I love my dad to death, so I respect the fact that he grew up in a different time.

What I'm getting at is the question of parents of gays and lesbians. Were you kicked out of the house because of your sexuality? Did you have friends who were kicked out? Or are the parents supportive or at least tolerant?

When my stepmom finds out I am gay she will push my dad to try to get me kicked out of the house. I don't know how he will react. But at least I will have my mom, she won't care.

I don't have any personnal experience with this because I'm not gay/lesbian but I do have this friend. He's gay and he moved in with his dad sometime this summer. It was because of his mom. No, she didn't kick him out because he was gay. He made the choice to move in with his dad because his mom literally hates him because of his sexuality. I never thought a parent could hate their child and hate them that bad just because they aren't a heterosexual. I'm just glad that he's dad has been supportive of him and let him move in. I just think what might of happened if my friend hadn't had his dad to fall back on.

Hmmmm. College dorms. Heh. I wonder what they'd do with me. (sigh) The only movement the UofO has made to acceptin transpeople is puting "other" on the application for gender. My mom got mad when I told her.

-----"""Well, the director of the camp freaked out and decided that I couldn't be in a cabin with 11 other girls. So I got sent home."""---

That's terrible.

My parents were good about it...my mom didn't believe me at first, and all my dad said was "Whatever, it's fine with me". However...something sorta funny, my mom was almost mad at me for choosing to get a dorm room with a roommate in college, because she thinks whoever my roommate is will immediately want a transfer when he finds out I'm gay. But that won't happen most likely, and if it does, he'll have to wait a while and probably grow comfortable with it while doing so anyway.

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I hate the "it's only a phase" rhetoric. It makes absolutely no sense and it's denying a basic part of the kid's identity.

Yeah, I think everyone hates that. My dad (we don't really talk about my sexuality since I came out; it's better than getting yelled at by my alcoholic stepmother at two in the morning because of it) thinks it's a phase but I know it took me 13 years to come to terms with my sexuality (I'm 16 now) so it'll take him a while to adjust to it as well.

Ha ha. I never told them, per say, but I did hang up a big picture of me and my best friend making out in my bedroom, which I know they poke around in all the time.

They don't ask, I don't tell, and I can still have sleepovers...

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Why does one's sexual tendencies apart of one's identity? What makes you so sure that one tendencies are not apart of what makes up who a person is on the inside?

I didn't understand the question well, but I'll try to answer: because even though you are not a part of your sexuality, your sexuality is a part of you.

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Originally posted by DJPip:
I hate the "it's only a phase" rhetoric. It makes absolutely no sense and it's denying a basic part of the kid's identity.

Why does one's sexual tendencies apart of one's identity? What makes you so sure that one tendencies are not apart of what makes up who a person is on the inside?

I hate the "it's only a phase" rhetoric. It makes absolutely no sense and it's denying a basic part of the kid's identity.

Celtic, thanks for your honesty. I learned something new, and that's always good. I think I'll follow your example and answer Yogore's question honestly...

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What happened at summer camp? I'm leaving for one saturday, but last year I only told one girl because I didn't want my roommate to freak out.

I went to a conservative, Christian, Southern camp. That was problem number one. Basically, I freaked out being in that environment and I... shared my feelings of aleination with a staff member. Well, the director of the camp freaked out and decided that I couldn't be in a cabin with 11 other girls. So I got sent home.
The worst part was that the camp was actually fun. I mean, we got to play all of these sports and go to the lake and do all of this stuff that people don't get to do sitting at home. If it'd been a boring camp, I'd be able to deal with it better. But I wanted to be in that place, and I got kicked out.

OK, I'll stop ranting. Yogore, what kind of camp are you going to? Whatever the answer is, I advise not coming out unless someone directly asks you.

Mom justifies any odd behaviour by calling it a phase.

A phase? How is that a phase? That's like saying "Oh, little Timmy went out and robbed the 7-11. It's just a phase." Tantrums and nose-picking are phases.

Hmmm... (if you're offended by man-girl sex or whatever, don't read this)

I've always gotten along better with adults than kids for some odd reason. I never took it too seriously until, well, my sexuality sort of appeared.

At 10 or 11 I began sort of like staring at older men. I knew nothing of sex so it really didn't bother me and I kept those feelings to myself. I just continued, as always, getting along better with adults and in the back of my head fantasizing about having a relationship (non-sexual, I mean kissing at much) with older men.

I went on a cruise at 13, about a week before my 14th birthday. I met a man (36 was his age, specifically) there, and we talked a lot, formed a friendship. My attraction to older men caught up with me, next thing I knew I wanted him...sexually. And so "it" happened.

Ever since I've been with a few men (girlfriend type of thing only we can't go out in public), but I've quit that. I still am attracted (and likely will always be) to men in their 30's-early 40's, granted, but I don't try to have them in any way other than friendship-wise. At the end of the line, I've realized it's too hard having a "secret relationship". I still date people considerably older than me, but in their early-to-mid 20's instead. Hey, from 42 to 24 (for example), is an improvement.

I did tell mom though, and she was like "Ohh, no, it's a phase" and blah blah blah. I don't think it's a phase because it's been there for years. If possible, I could have gotten it from her; my father is 11 years older than mom. But that's not much of a difference in comparison to me.

When did you first realize that celtic?

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Originally posted by bisexualgirl:
my grandmom is against gey people but i want to tell her that i am bi...but i dont want her to kick me out or anything.....how do i tell her about myself???????

You have to be true to yourself. It might not be the right time to tell your grandmother. You have to remember that they grew up in a different time where homosexuality wasn't an okay thing. Bar raids, riots, the very beginning of the gay rights movement. It wasn't okay for gay people to be out. As painful as it might be, you might have to stay in the closet as a bisexual for a while. Only you can judge how to tell her and when the right time is.

well i really dont want to stay in the colest cuz i want her 2 love me 4 me even if she doesn't approve.......

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What do you mean by that, if I may ask? I'm not gonna judge you. You don't have to say if you don't wanna.

The Lolita syndrome, better called, alphamegamia. I'm into men who are old enough to be my father.

What happened at summer camp? I'm leaving for one saturday, but last year I only told one girl because I didn't want my roommate to freak out.

I'll have to check out that book. It sounds interesting.

Yogore: *OUCH*. Must've hurt. I've had a somewhat similar experience, but it was with a summer camp, not with my parents. That experience hurt a lot, can't imagine how much more it would hurt if your parents did it.

CelticNewAger:

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I've an odd sexuality anyways

What do you mean by that, if I may ask? I'm not gonna judge you. You don't have to say if you don't wanna.

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Originally posted by bisexualgirl:
my grandmom is against gey people but i want to tell her that i am bi...but i dont want her to kick me out or anything.....how do i tell her about myself???????

You have to be true to yourself. It might not be the right time to tell your grandmother. You have to remember that they grew up in a different time where homosexuality wasn't an okay thing. Bar raids, riots, the very beginning of the gay rights movement. It wasn't okay for gay people to be out. As painful as it might be, you might have to stay in the closet as a bisexual for a while. Only you can judge how to tell her and when the right time is.

my grandmom is against gey people but i want to tell her that i am bi...but i dont want her to kick me out or anything.....how do i tell her about myself???????