I GET SPANKED ALL THE TIME, BUT I DON'T GET ABUSED.
SOMETIMES WITH A BELET OR A HAND OR WHATEVER IS BESIDE MY DAD OR MOM.
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS BAD?
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS ABUSE?

I think spanking is just a form of discipline.
My parents spanked me and I learned from my mistakes.

I live in a place where corporal punishment is allowed, even in school. People get hit with belts into their teens, but nobody is really hurt. Even people who get beat think that it's okay. Sure, there are some who get hit a lot and still keep acting dumb, but I think that's because of personality, not the form of punishment. I think that abuse is when you break the skin or cause internal bleeding or some other damage that won't wear off fast. As long as it doesn't cause real injury, corporal punishment can be a very appropriate form of discipline.

mkay. i've had a lawyer explain to me that legally, its fine to give a litle spanking to a young child. It's different though with an older child/ teen. thats when its not okay. they are too old to be getting spanked and know better. I, however, really dont like the thot of spanking and violent punishments and such. in fact, i dont even want kids just cuz i dont want to be provoked into hurt them. i understand a spanking just to get a kids attention when misbehaving, but we usually do it out of anger. usually the parent got pissed at him and decided to hit him. thats when their emotions can get the best of them and they go overboard. also, getting hit with an object is wrong. the parent wants it to hurt. bad. this could be a loving parent too, but in the heat of the moment when that kid disobeyed and that parent is f*cking pissed off to the max, they get hit out of anger, not a desire for orderlyness with love. and i hate it. i used to get hit with the belt when it was more common but you just cant do that anymore. and you shouldnt. also, why the hell are some of you getting hit hit with twiches and belts and your like 14 or 16 years old? your not lil kids and your parents are weird. were not living in the past anymore. if this is how your parents got punished thats their problem. please dont pass these behaviors to your kids. and if u are going to punish your kid in a physical way, dont go any farther than a small spank in the a**. some lil kids i know get spanked A LOT and they are the ones that are most violent in school with others. its not a good thing.

i think spanking is ok up to a certain age. i mean honestly grounding preschool aged children and younger is pointless they do not understand it and a spankin is much quicker and clearer but after a certain age i think it is better to give kids longer punishments. i got spanked and i dont really have a problem with it. in fact sometimes i beg my mom to spank me instead of grounding me because grouding is worse unless ur being abused.

Its not abuse. But it never worked on me. I didn't really mind it, but I hated when my sisters got spanked and couldn't be in the same room when they did.
A lot of times I got spanked and continued doing whatever I was doing just because I never got caught twice and I liked rebeling (and still do).

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my father was a prof.at san francisco state univ.he taught CPS/DHS workers at an over grad.level i was one of the first in a spanking society who was never spanked i can remember 3 times all under age 6 believe me it doesn't work
i was a good kid with no physical discpl. and i ended up in alot of trouble as a teen.as long as spanking isn't in anger its probably not abuse and not against the the law unless you live in sweeden

i do not think spankins are abuse cos its just a small short action saying "dont do this again or it just might happen again

call the police
i hate parents that spank
makes me want to hire someone to bulldoze them
spanking IS considered abuse
its against the law


and if someone says its not wrong or its not abuse , IT IS
you would randomly go around town spanking people now, would you ?
parnets are crazy

I think spanking is a big issue with abuse

i think that anything other than the hand is abuse i've gotten beat with a belt with nails in it

Wow, I just read the other thread thats basically the same one. This thread is officialy dead. read the other thread for the conclution. Sorry for posting!

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there is a huge difference between spanking and abuse. as much as i have read so far. i agree with the majority of peoplethat believe a minimal amount of spanking is acceptable as long as it is justified. however. there are parents out there that like feeling dominate and begin to beat their children for no apprent reason. this is where it would become abuse.

Totally agree with this one. Some parents believe that to raise their kids they need to break their will so they'll listen no matter what. Sure, it makes for nice well behaved children who don't do anything wrong (totally our of fear) but you know what? it really messes you up once you become and adult!

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Originally posted by Greenleaf771:
I do not approve of spanking, because I don't see the point it it. What is the point? What ever happened to the "time-out chair," counting to three, and "you have to pay for the consequence"-es?

What happened to them? Let's just say they've been tried for a generation or two, and been found wanting!

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Originally posted by DontBeAFool:
Spanking isn't something I would ever do if I had children and by definition it is a form of abuse.

The law does not define spanking as abuse anywhere in the United States. Beating the heck out of a child is abuse, not a reasonable spanking on the posterior.

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Originally posted by chels12senoj:
I GET SPANKED ALL THE TIME, BUT I DON'T GET ABUSED.
SOMETIMES WITH A BELET OR A HAND OR WHATEVER IS BESIDE MY DAD OR MOM.
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS BAD?
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS ABUSE?

Spanking is not bad or abuse. Beating kids, like using fists or feet or leaving them all bruised up is abuse.

If they are just whupping your butt, they are disciplining you, not abusing you. You should thiank them for caring enough to do it.

there is a huge difference between spanking and abuse. as much as i have read so far. i agree with the majority of peoplethat believe a minimal amount of spanking is acceptable as long as it is justified. however. there are parents out there that like feeling dominate and begin to beat their children for no apprent reason. this is where it would become abuse.

first of all. my theory on all this. is that kids need direction, and when you're little spanking is acceptable to a point. once you're old enough and can talk and reason. (by the time you're 5 or 6 you can do this, if not earlier)parents should use other forms of disipline. and by the time you're 14 if you haven't figured it out yet. there isn't much your parents can do. i mean its their fault for not raising you properly.

Sometimes a good swat on the behind is all that can get through to a kid. If you're standing in the grocery line and you've got a kid screaming and throwing things, do you think "Could you please quiet down, honey?" is going to make the kid stop? No. Unless you spank the kid too much, it's ok.

Hi Hello123,
Our father is also a military retired officer. He was in the Air Force and is also very stricht on discipline and behavior. I'm the oldest out of 5 kids, I'm 14. My sisters are 8 and 12 and the two little one are 4 and 6 1/2.
We also get spanked if we misbehave but very rarely twice for the same reason. I'm no longer getting spanked, I'm too old now, but until I was 10 I used to get my well deserved spankings and turned out to be a good teenager now. Our parents spank us with the hand only, no paddles or belts. It hurts enough anyways. The number of swats depend on the offense. My little brother who is 6 1/2 got a bad note at school for throwing a box of crayons to another kid who was calling him names. My dad took him in his room and gave him 15 swats on the behind. The day after he had a hard time to sit down but apologized with the teacher and the kid. I don't think spanking with the hand on the butt is abuse, it's discipline!