(long but plz read and help)My life is pretty ****ed up even though I try to act like its not.I need help.I am living in a hell hole where I don't get along w/ anybody here.I can't go to my best friends house b/c I talked to her older brother(he's in his lower 20's and I am 13)and I love him(more than anything) and I don't see whats wrong w/ it its the same as 23 and 32 and people don't care about that(I am not going to do anything stupid).My mom hits me (not that often)but she does like one day I was trying to get me to go to my best friend's house and she said something and I yelled HE IS NOT!she started punching me.I don't know what I am supposed to do I can try to get a legal way to live w/ my best friend(I am not just her friend b/c of her brother I love the girl to death)their more family to me than my actual family.I could go to DHR but I don't want that.I could live w/ my grandparents(noooooooooooo)their like her!I want to go away for a very long time and not get caught going.My best friend's brother told me if I wanted to I could disapear w/him 4 like 10-15 yrs but he's got to work on it,and I don't want to get him put in jail.but I need advice PLZ HELP

Hey.. I disagree with some of the suggestions they are giving you...running away will not solve your problem...I think you are getting upset for the wrong reasons... If you like the guy, okay, go ahead and like him, no one can change that...when your mom hits you...well...hitting her back will destroy your dignity...no teenage gets everything they want...especially when it comes to relationship..trust me i know...you have to learn to live with it....

well...why you tell your mom you liked him in the first place? did you not know she was going to react like this? and just pretend you don't like him anymore..that can get her off your back....patience is the key.....if you wait, things might turn out just fine..besides, you are only 13..wow....really...you have a long time ahead of you....have fun...

Word of advice, next time your ma punches you, punch her back. If your weak take up boxing or something.

Well, if your mom punches you, you should tell someone and if she isn't willing to change, then try leaving. Your 13, I think that you can get emancipated. However, you need to present good agruement that your mom isn't stable enough to take care of you and your better off taking care of yourself. Good indirectors that your an independent stable person is being in school and doing well, NOT getting in a relationship with a older guy (I'm sorry but that won't look good)(I guess you can hide around but don't you want something more real not so sneaky?) and you have to know how to take care of yourself, basics thinga. You need a lawyer for that but it's possible.

You can live with another family member but you said there is no one.

I think you shouldn't live with your best friend EVEN if there is parents there. It would make it a lot better if there is parents there but even if they were or weren't, I don't think it's the best idea. It is easier, if your mom doesn't put up a fight, you don't need any legal action and could just move there. However, you are facing a lot already and there is lot going on, there will be more going on if you take any action to this, and liing with yourt best friend and a older guy that you love might trigger more emotions and lead into actions that you may not be ready for. I'm bit just talking about the older guy, I am taking about this whole living arragement. It sounds fun living with your friend, lol and it's good to have fun but I don't think at this moment, it's best.

Point is, TRY getting outside help
If she doesn't change, LEAVE
Getting emancipated.
Living Live with another family member.
Living Live with someone else.
Still even if your outside of the house, still try to help your mom BUT if it's really upsetting you, you don't have to.

DON'T do anything with him!!! DCF will be involved in less than a second and he will get in trouble somehow. Or maybe it doesn't happen to everyone but just be safe better than sorry.

It's better to wait for a relationship with him, if he is worth it.

Get help and get the hell out of there!

u need 2 tell someone. a teacher, next door neighboor, someone!!!! that isnt rite! ur mom should not be hitting u!!!!! u need 2 tell someone it could get worst! plz tell someone!


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I don't want to get involved w/ DHR thats the problem.My friend's mother lives w/her.

you do need to be helped but I don't know what to tell you sorry

yeou do need to be helped but I don't know what to tell you sorry

You need to tell someone whn your mom hits/punches you. that's not legal. It is hard and you will have an uphill battle, but getting out is most important, trust me. Does your best friend live with her parents still? If so you need to talk to her parents if you plan to move there. Taking someone in is not cheap, its like having another kid, but there are some nice people who are willing to do that sortof thing.

Just try to get help whether from a teach or school phsycologist or a trusted adult friend.