I dont get it when people are say "Dont disrespect me!" Most of the time it isnt! It is us voicing our opinions, or sharing whats on our minds! Sometimes its even for the greater good. My Mom never tought me to respect elders. I was tought to respect when io am respected. I have told teachers my mind more than once, jsut because some think they own you. I am not one to go on and on about most things, but this topic is something that more people should voice their opinion on. So lets hear some of them!

everyone should have respect for everyone but sometimes the people you give respect to dont return it and it causes problems i guess thats why i feel if your gonna respect someone they should respect you to theres always that statement you have to give respect to get it well just because there adults or teachers and we have to respect them doesnt mean we dont deserve or expect the same thing in return?

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Respect is different from common courtesy. Everyone deserves common courtesy unless they show they're not worthy of it. Respect, on the other hand, is earned, not given away freely.

You got it!! No doubt there. I wish more people would see it the way you do.

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With kids, especially teens, it's just a fine line between being an authoritative figure, yet still being a friend and treating them with respect.

Which is why parents should not try to be friends with their kids. It's too easy for either the parents or kids to cross that fine line. You can be friends with your kids when they are grown and on their own. I believe that until then, it is the responsibility of the parent to be the parent. But that doesn't mean that the parent has to be a dictator or inflexible. It just means that parents are the ones who set the example and teach the kids to do what's right. You can treat your kids with common courtesy and still be an authoritative figure.

Respect is different from common courtesy. Everyone deserves common courtesy unless they show they're not worthy of it. Respect, on the other hand, is earned, not given away freely.

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This is why I am never having children...

With kids, especially teens, it's just a fine line between being an authoritative figure, yet still being a friend and treating them with respect. Almost two years as a nanny sure have taught me that much.

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Yep, still never having children...

I used to not want to have children... now i'm changing my mind...

Yep, still never having children...

Ahhhh, let me tell you that there is no greater gift/treasure than kids. I don't know what my life would be like without them! My kids are the GREATEST!!!!! Sorry, I dote on them sometimes way too much. There are days though, when I think I'll pull my hair out, but in the long-run, they are great and help me to understand why I am here.

This is why I am never having children...

There is a little more to respect than many people realize. First, respect should not be a right, it should be a privilege. Respect is earned and how it is earned is what really makes the difference. Adults should earn the respect from the fact that they have lived through more than most kids (this is not always the case, I know), and therefore, we should be wiser. As I've said before, adults forget what it is like to be young b/c of all the responsibilities we have. My kids must respect me b/c I am their father and I am responsible for raising them and what they do; they are my kids. I respect them when they do the right thing, i.e., telling the truth, being a good person, studying for school, etc.

I'm not saying this is the case, but many times kids think they are being disrespected b/c they are not permitted to do what they want, or they are not talked to they way they feel they deserve. Yes, this is a problem with a lot of parents who "go off" on their kids and I believe it is wrong. I cannot make excuses for parents who are mean to their kids, but I can tell you that as a parent, it is a very difficult road we walk taking care of kids.

Far too often, kids want to be treated as an adult, even when they refuse to act as an adult should. I think it's something that parents and kids should talk openly about.

Yes, all people need some level of respect, but sometimes parents and teachers forget that we need a little respect too. Just because we are younger doesn't mean that we feel any less. What I hate is when we are treated like dirt and we are supposed to take it just because it would be disrespectful to answer.

I think that everybody deserves some respect just as a human being. there are boundaries that shouldn't be crossed, just by some respect for that person, whether it's their feelings or if you truly respect them. And if your not being respected, remember that the next time you disrespect someone else.
I'm done...

I think that respect for your peers should be earned, however it really bugs me when people don't respect their parents and teachers. There are some people you have to respect but otherwise i think that respect should be earned.

We may not see it as disrespect, but our tones say that that is what we mean.
And sometimes we are just being rebelious.

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Originally posted by FreeMarketLover:
Respecting everyone is silly. Respect should be earned.

always respect your elders,think of elders as your grand parents age group.

Respecting everyone is silly. Respect should be earned.

finally somebody's mom has been truthful my mom teaches me to respect her and everybody and I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING thats awsome you voicing your opinion thats so cool to me everytime i try to voice mine I get grounded.

your not living if you don't take chances.

Disrespect is not sharing your opinions. It's sharing them while completely putting down and refusing to hear others' opinions.

I'm totally for the "You get respect when you earn it" deal. But there are just some people you have to suck it up for. Teachers, for example. And your parents (unless abuse is involved). Until you're out on your own with your own career, there are people you have to respect whether they've earned it or not. You should respect your parents until the day they die. And, even after you have a life of your own, you still have to respect your boss.

Most people have to earn it with me, but some people I see in authority I know I need to respect them without them having to earn it. By being in that position and teaching me or whathaveyou, they've already earned it. When it comes to those people I go by the, "Respect until they disrespect you," rule.

when i meet a peson, its a clean slate. not quite respect, but not flat out disrespect. if the person does anything to me [lies, etc.] they lose my respcect.
but if someone has my respect, believe me, i never do anything to them. case & point, my english teacher is the best, she really cares about her student. i have never lied or badmouth her.

oh no skyguy, I was aiming my post more at punkz...but its a-okay.