I GET SPANKED ALL THE TIME, BUT I DON'T GET ABUSED.
SOMETIMES WITH A BELET OR A HAND OR WHATEVER IS BESIDE MY DAD OR MOM.
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS BAD?
DO YOU THINK SPANKING IS ABUSE?

We as human beings are logical.

Eventually we learn. We use external stimuli to take the world in.

Yes. Pain is a stimuli, however, as I read somewhere in here. The easy way out. Any child can be restraned if they are posing a real threat to anyone or themselves. We don't go beating convicts, I'm appalled that anybody would ever beat a child.

I do however believe that one can love a child and still be retarded enough to thinking smacking them is going to do them any real good. Some people need to get smacked themselves.

Thankyou

*bows*

spanking when used appropriatley is not abused and does not scar(physically or emotionally)a child. its the stupid parents in the world that get angry and smack the hell out of their kids that give it a bad name. the most unruly children i've ever seen are the ones that never got a spanking. My psychology class had this discussion and everyone who got spanked agreed they'd diserved it and are better off for it. there are instance tho (take me for instance) where the cchild simply doesn't react to spankings. i couldn't have cared less if my parents spanked me. its only when they took away my movies that screamed like they were abusing me.

lol at least ur honest. i gotta give you that.

i'm a very kind person who doesn't take crap. on yn i vent my frustrations and act insane. something i can't do in the real world.

yes. teenagers backtalking is the only instance in which i may use violence.

lolol all this time u were so anti-spanking/abuse then you admit you'd smack ur backtalking teenager in the face lol oh gee.

really? u a plethora love and kindness? i find this very hard to believe...even in real life after hearing what u have to say on yn.

really and when i was a kid i wasn't hit at all. because of this i am a plethora of love and kindness (just not on yn)

in all honesty though, my teenage kid ever back talks me, i'd smack them in the face.

cause i hate backtalking.

lol, i love this like post 2 seconds after i post and vice versa thing. it's like a real debate.

yeah, i probably still do need that leash. ^.^

it appears from your other posts that you still should be on a leash. lol

A good parent would still know where their kid was even if they were 50 ft. away and running. and if they were a good parent they're kid wouldn't be wandering off in the first place. when i was a kid i got spanked for wandering off once. Never did it again. lol

ummm, because there are no times a parent is ever away from their kid... lol, kids get taken all the time at usually no fault of the parent.

children sometimes wander off on their own.

when i was little i was a runner. you'd take your eyes off me for a second and i'd be like 50 ft away running.

that's why they had to keep me on a leash. lol

kids shouldn't have cell phones until they actually need one for a purpose like ur sis or are old enough to pay for it themselves. a 6 yr old does not need a cell phone. cell phones used to have a purpose...they were for emergency situations where you couldn't use a home phone. now they're commodities that kids take for granted.

and if u were a half decent parent u wouldn't have to worry about your kid being kidnapped. cell phones are for lazy parents who wanna just send their kids off and say that they actually care about them when really they are too lazy to pay attention and be a good parent. not to mention kids shouldn't be somewhere w/o adult supervision until they are 12 or 13. then, only on occasion, should they have a cell phone that they get to take with them only until they come back home.

spoiled youth and bad parents.

any semi-decent parent will know what their kids love.

hey, my sister's 12 and has a cell but she needs it for when she's home alone and when she's at practice because she has bad anxiety.

i think any kid above the age of 6 should have a cell phone. that way if they're kidnapped they can always try to call 911 or something. plus they can always contact their parents.

lol i guess its a good thing i'm not a parent then. its true about taking away a cell phone but honestly 13 year-olds shouldn't have them to begin with but thats a whole different debate.

what if that kid sincerely has no attachment to any object/thing then what do u take from them?

so you're telling me a 13 year old won't care when i rip her cell phone out of her hands and refuse to give it back to her for a month. then force her to do all the housework for a week?

since when does a 7 year old not care about their toys?

the toy was an example anyways. generally taking away something a person loves for a period of time is a good enough punishment. and one that lasts longer than a smack on the ass.

such shitty parenting skillz.

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Originally posted by Wolfie:
you take their favorite toy and break it in front of their face. or you just take it from them.

that'll work until they're about 7 and don't care anymore. Then what? grounding maybe...but that's not gonna teach them not to do something. It'll just keep them from doing it for awhile.

I agree, there is a difference between 'spanking' and abuse but either one is not a great way to teach your kids how to properly punish. Your just teaching them, when someone does something wrong, hit them It just doesnt make sense?? So personally I think they should just stick to grounding

you take their favorite toy and break it in front of their face. or you just take it from them.

lets see u come up with something better and just as effective and don't try and tell me a timeout will work cuz i had plenty of those too as a kid and i've seen how well they work (or should i say don't work) on other kids.

parents who smack their children are either too stupid or not creative enough to come up with better punishments.

basically when you hit your kids you're just taking the easy way out you effin' slackers.

wel i am joining the discussion pretty ate ay.....
hahahaha
anyway NZ government has recently passed an anti-smacking law and in this law it no longer allows smacking as a tool for discipline...
However, in my family smacking is used pretty frequently as a tool for discipline....
and ill tell you now it really works...
now that is not to say that i approve of it....
i just say that if it is not overdone smacking can be a good tool for discpline and that in my family because our parents were raised in an environment in which it is perfectly normal it is nothing out of the ordinary....
So within reason smacking is not abuse....
however, i know that if i have kids i would try to break the cycle of VIOLENCE (not abuse) and use the talking method instead....

hey i'm not full of anger and i don't hate my parents so u can't say that. sorry =/ but just to be clear i wasn't abused. lol i just got spankings as a kid.