You are 14 and you get spanked? You have some issues in your household. And a belt? Man! Thats some crazy stuff. Get help.

Burn, bitch, burn.

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when someone is mean to tell,

I'm going to say it again, you need to elaborate on your thoughts and not make weird phrases like the above. And please calm down with the enters - do you know that makes a new line?

I think it's wrong to spank kids.

I mean parents spank there kids to teach them a lesson, but that means the kids are learning to hit when someone is mean to tell,

I think spaking just gives the wrong lesson. I mean parents should take time to sit down with there kids and talk, before they bring out the belt or even the hand.

I don't really think spaking is abuse, unless it's an everyday thing, and it's more then a smack on the butt.

I Also thinks it's wrong to spank some your age , i mean 14 a little old for the spanking.

Mel

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I'm disturbed you still get spanked at 14.

Same here...

I don't think spanking is abuse. Abuse, to me, is extreme physical harm - spanking really hard or with a belt or something is. But I also know that spanking has been proven as an ineffective punishment.

I think that spanking is wrong, ESPECIALLY for kids older than say... a year. When their really little a swat on the bottom isn't going to hurt but it will reenforce what's wrong or dangerous. However, once a kid is old enough to understand things I don't think spanking, particularly with any thing besides a hand (when a belt or something else is used the parent can't really tell how hard they're hitting the kid) does any good. One of the main reasons is that I think spanking is mostly an outlet of the parents anger; they're mad so they hit the kid. If they hit another adult it'd be assault but seeing as it's their kid it's ok.

I think the only reason punishments other than spankings have been deemed ineffective is because parents don't have the stamina to stick to them. If you tell a kid he can't play with his toys for a week as a punishment, you're potentially setting yourself up for a week-long fight. Parents all too often cave in around day two or three, and then the kid learns nothing.

That said, I don't think spanking is always abuse, but I do genuinely believe there is always a better course of action. Where spanking ends and abuse begins is such a gray area that it's best to avoid it entirely.

I'm disturbed you still get spanked at 14.

The only way, I think, spanking/hitting is not abuse is when it happens when you've done nothing wrong.

As to Green, although it's not the best policy, sometimes children need to be hit. That kid who screams for 20 minutes on the grocery line? Putting him or her in a time-out chair will do very little.

I got hit when I did something terrible, and I never did it again. As I've said before, when your kid has a mix of fear, respect, and comfort in you as a parent, they'll (probably) grow up fairly well-adjusted.

I do not approve of spanking, because I don't see the point it it. What is the point? What ever happened to the "time-out chair," counting to three, and "you have to pay for the consequence"-es?