For example, religion. My mom is convinced if Religion works for her it works for everyone. She treats my sis like **** because she stopped being religious. My Mom claimed my sis didn't make an educated decision.
Do Parents have a right to control our desicions concerning personal beliefs and character traits?

Agreed. you have the crappiest counselers around.

My family counseler would never ever say that.

Heh. Agreed.

TS you really need to ditch some of these counselers

I would say legally, yes, they have the right too. But should they be able to??? That's a different story. I tend to think that parents should be as not at all authoritarian as possible. I think that parents should allow kids to make their own choices, and to allow them to make their own mistakes. But then we had an argument about this in family counseling today and the therapist said that the parent always get to choose that sort of thing and to just deal... sooo...

sadly while we all want to be able to make our own decisions, it is unlikely we will ever be allowed to, even if we probably should.

hmmm....ok hub.....
i dont kno one way or another...im probably one of the spoiled teens...lol!

Very true, Hurley, but complaining in of itself is not bothersome. It's the manner of complaining and about what one is complaining that is bothersome, and I'm seeing a lot of spoiled teens here.

ironically...you are complaining about our complaining....hmmmm

And we wonder why people say that teenagers are selfish, ungrateful brats. I've heard enough spoiled-rotten complaining in this thread to last a lifetime.

dont get me started in on this topic....i'm living ur sisters life...lol...

i think it also depends...would you rather complete freedom of your parents, or be much more financially secure?

Since I am now 18, I can basically do whatever I want. However, if I want my parents to continue to pay for my school and let me live there and feed me and pay for my car and insurance...then I have to obey by certain expectations. Like it or not, they are your parents and basically control you until you are financially sufficient...

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Originally posted by Ironic:
Legally, yes until you're the age of 18. But then, they shouldn't have ALL the control over you. If they have to tell you when you could go to sleep, take a shower, when to breathe/walk/talk/etc. It's just plain sad. If I were you, take control of your life, make your own decisions, take risks. One thing parents want to control your decisions is because they're afraid you'll screw up. Well it's life, take on your own responsibility. They'll give up sooner or later if you keep taking charge of yourself. It feels great when you are in control of yourself. It's a smell of freedom. Just make sure you know what you're doing.

Thats not always true. My mom acts like shes God and she ain't. The only thing she don't control is when I breathe. And forgiving...the world may not be forgiving but we have to learn that from experince. MISS!

To Sudha:
Screw You!!!!

parents dont have control over EVERYTHING!!!! they may thinkl they do but they dont! my mom tries to control everything i do even over what i wear!even my journalisnm teacher tells us that we dont have the freedom of speech as "minors"!! SCERW THAT!!!! WE DO!!!! STAND UP TO UR MOM!! i do ever time we get into a fight, it may cost me some blood i know whats right and whats wrong and the way they treat us is WRONG!!!!!!!

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iu'm 39 years old

wow! thats a different perspective cause most of us on here are pretty young..
just wondering there are many things that parents just do to make themselves feel satisfied..its more of a peace of mind issue is it fair on us? plus by the time they start understanding we grow out of it and there is always a time to do things..the stuff that u want to do now u cant do it later..

Absolutely not. they can't tell you what to think. they can't make you be someone you're not.

iu'm 39 years old and i ttry to explain to my youngest daughter(15) that the world outside is not a nice place the world won't be as forgiving as we (parents) are the world will not ground you like we do the world will be the death of you

You believe what You want... just don't let your parents know and then they won't have their panties in a bunch whenever you do something.

i know my parents have the right to control all our decisions but sometimes they get wayy to far.. i mean my mom has me in the house 24 seven and is on my *** the whole time here if i use the phone she HAS to know who i'm talkng to and if it's a boy she get's crazy and when i'm online she thinks im chatting with strangers and boy's and it's not even like that she doesn't even know me she thinks i sleep around and she doesn't believe that i want to be a virgin until i get married she thinks i'm a relly bad kid and tells my dad my dad doesn't live with us so he believes her an i would hate for him to think of me like that the funny pat is i have no clue how she thinks i could even be a bad seed if i'm always home every move that i make is a scheme in her eyes i can't even go to the mall i have been completely isolated now that school is over and ithink i'm going crazy and i know this is long but yeah like i said the internet is the only way to the world outside....